You know the popular saying “Nice guys finish last?” Well, sometimes it’s not always true. Sometimes, people choose to give the nice guys a chance only to be met with disappointment at the deplorable behaviors that these so-called nice guys have.
Read these 40+ stories from women all over the world who regretted opening themselves up to these nice guys and realizing that the wide smiles and good character were all smoke and mirrors.
1. Grow Up Please
He was criticizing everything I did. Why do I go to university, why do I live where I live, why do I do my makeup, why do I do popular things?
He hated everything that ‘popular’ people did, which I wasn’t, he just had this idea that there are things that popular people do and like and things that only nice people do and like.
That was all crazy to me because we were already in our 20s. He was 28 talking about this pointless unpopular vs popular thing like high schoolers.
Also, every time he thought I was mad at him, he deleted me on every social media. It was frustrating, tiring, and hurting. So eventually I stopped talking to him and now I’m labeled as a ‘popular basic jerk just like the rest of the females’
thegirlwhodied_
2. You’re In Too Deep
I was coming out of a string of really bad, toxic, abusive relationships so I promised myself that I would try to find a nice guy to date. Well, I had a first date with this one guy, we'll call him Tim.
It was a fine date. He was nice and we had fine conversations. I didn't feel any immediate chemistry, but I was also not used to dating guys who weren't blatant jerks so I figured that was why I didn't feel an immediate connection.
I told myself I'd go on one more date with him and see if the connection grew in any way. So we go on a second date a week later. It was a short date. We had an early dinner, and I was back home 90 minutes after he picked me up to drive me to dinner.
Again, no sparks, but he was nice and it wasn't a bad date. So I told myself I'd go on one more date with him and that would be the deciding factor.
I was still wrestling in my head with the idea that I was just not attracted to him because he wasn't a jerk and maybe I was just scared of nice guys.
Well, on our third date, he asked me to move in with him, offered to put me on his health insurance plan (I was uninsured at the time), and told me he loved me.
I very gently told him that he was a great guy, but he was clearly more invested than I was, and that it wasn't fair to him, that he deserved to be with someone who was equally attracted to him.
At the time he was cordial but confused, and we parted ways. The next day, he posts a long, long rant on Facebook about how nice guys finish last, and girls only want to date jerks.
He wrote about how he opened his heart and his home to "this ungrateful witch" only to be slapped with a rejection. He left it up for a few days and then blocked me.
idontcare4205
3. One Way Support
Regardless of how many times I said I wasn't interested in a relationship, he continued making moves and flirting, telling me that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and that we were soulmates.
He told me that he was having a rough home life and that I was the only one in the world who didn't think he was creepy for the way he looked or would give up on him. (Nobody ever said that he was ugly).
He would constantly ask if he was handsome or not, and he was not bad looking at all, just lacking in some hygiene skills like wearing deodorant and showering regularly and dental care.
He seemed really insecure about the way he looked to the point that the insecurity became the most noticeable thing about the way he carried himself.
No amount of compliments or reassurance would soothe him. I showed up for his football games and performances to support him, and he never showed up for my plays or finished small tasks that I asked him, as a friend, to complete.
Whenever addressed he would break down and say that he was the "worst person in the world" and that he would "die for me." He eventually stopped talking to me and moved on to somebody else.
I honestly think he needed more attention and love from his parents and was using the desire for a girlfriend to fill the emotional gap. I feel bad for him, but I'm glad to have some distance.
negative10000upvotes
4. Stalker Ex
Had an ex who stalked me, though his "stalking" was thankfully very harmless. We dated briefly during our junior-senior year of high school.
After we broke up, he would message me every couple of months wanting to get back together and talk about how much he loved me.
Nothing violent or threatening, thankfully. He did this for about a decade and finally only quit messaging me when I got married.
We hadn't seen each other in person in about 8 years, so the fact he thought he could possibly still love me when I was a completely different person baffled me.
YukiXain
5. Too Much, Too Soon
A day or two in, he started talking about how I was going to marry him, be a stay-at-home mom, have as many kids as I could physically produce, and how isolated I would be.
He never asked my opinions, that's directly against my life plan and always has been, and was determined to go through with it with only details being my choice. Thankfully got out unscathed, but WTH!
Radiant_Obligation_3
6. Human Filth
He seemed great. We hit it off, and worked through some early issues (he ignored me for days at a time to play video games with his friends, not even a text of hello or sorry, I'm busy).
His mom was diagnosed with an illness about a year in, and I moved in with him so I could spend as much time as possible with her and support him as she was terminal.
8 months after she passed away, a friend of mine found his profile on the dating app we met on (currently active with a paid subscription, the same exact profile I met him with).
When confronted, he said he was just trying to make friends, and that I couldn't count it as cheating because nobody ever messaged him back.
We tried to work things out, but he was found a month later on the same dating site, by the same friend. I wish I could say that was the end, but I gave him another chance.
Over the next year, he became the most hateful, miserable man I've ever met and I could no longer mentally handle it. I moved out.
gofish112
7. Toxic Mr. Nice Guy
Not me & I'm not a girl lmao but I had a friend who gave a nice guy a chance. They got married & it went downhill in less than a year.
The dude had some major self-esteem issues & sought validation from other women even in marriage. He got caught talking to other women on other dating sites & claimed it was therapeutic for his self-esteem issues.
The kicker was that we all worked at the same place in different departments. It was like being backstage at the Maury show.
ih8uheaux
8. Wolf In Sheep’s Clothes
Once I gave him the chance he dropped the act. The nice guy act was a cover for some deeeeeep depression. He didn’t know how to be in a healthy relationship ( with himself or anyone else).
I felt bad for him and wanted to believe it hadn’t been just an act. But Being with him was like being a full-time counselor, cheerleader, and fitness coach, it was way too codependent and energy-consuming so I ended it.
somaticconviction
9. Drop The Cover
It went really well at first until like 1 week into the relationship he kept saying how much he loved me and how he couldn't wait to move in together and wouldn't let me hang around my other male friends.
He wouldn't stop texting me and would never leave my side. It got really annoying but he didn't stop until I broke up with him.
When I ended it, he called me a witch who no one could love and he's happy that I used to be so sad and depressed in the past. That was very much a fun relationship
Iwanttokaikaiwithu
10. You don’t have to be so rude
Terribly. The first (and last) time I slept at his house, I wasn't ready to be intimate with him and he got upset and shouted, "You'll be intimate with everyone except me!"
Like, what the actual heck?! Portraying me as a jerk because I wouldn't sleep with him is some really messed up crap. It was really shocking as we had been friends for years.
In my experience, no guy who ever called himself a 'nice guy' was actually a nice guy. That guy was living proof of that fact.
Animefaerie
11. Bad Date, Worse Father
I knew him for a year before I thought I should give him a chance. Turns out, he'd deliberately never mentioned the fact that he had 2 kids because he knew I didn't want kids of my own and he figured there was no way I'd date him if he was honest.
I found out because we went back to his apartment, and he insisted we sleep on the couch (which was bizarre, but I was too tired to get into it at that point because it was like 3 am).
The next morning we were woken up by his 4 and 10-year-old children. Turns out, he left them alone all night to meet me at a bar and we had to sleep on the couch because his daughter was asleep in his bed.
Anyway, that's when he revealed his whole plan, and I've never been so mad in my life. Partly at the fact that he thought he could like, con me into dating him, but also, what the HECK?
His kids deserved so much better than him as their father. It's been probably almost 15 years and I'm still kind of mad about it. What a jerk!
[deleted]
12. Spamming Affection
He became very clingy. Very quickly. He would text me at stupid hours and get mad when I didn't reply. I would wake up with the same texts on WhatsApp, Facebook, and normal messages, followed by "Why are you ignoring me? I thought you liked me :("
I failed exams because he wanted to spend every waking hour with me and I couldn't just study. He would get offended when I wanted to have time alone.
Every time I would tell him to tone it down he thought it was because I didn't love him enough. Every time. It's such a shame because we were such good friends before that.
After we broke up he turned all of our mutual friends against me. I spent a lot of my college years blaming myself because "maybe I was a rude witch to him", or "maybe I should've been nicer". It was messed up, man.
the3rdfriend
13. Choose One For Me
I regret giving one guy a chance SO bad. About 3 months in he asked me for advice on some selfies he took (ick but whatever) I chose one.
He never posted it to his Instagram but I thought nothing of it. Two weeks later my friend sent me a screenshot of a dating site profile and said “Isn’t this the guy you’ve been dating?”
It was him and he’d used the picture I chose as his main picture. I instantly felt repulsed and regretted even considering him.
[deleted]
14. No Boys Allowed
I almost gave the “nice guy” a chance but after he showed up at my house uninvited and made my dad super angry (had a strict “no boys allowed” rule until I hit 18; I was 15 at the time), I gave up.
He begged me to “give him a chance” because we both liked World of Warcraft. That was it.
Glad I did give up because of the stalking, inappropriateness at lunch, creepy talks about “what he wanted to do to me”, trying to convince me to sneak out in the middle of the night to see him, etc absolutely terrified me.
I haven’t seen him in quite a while but I’m honestly still scared to be alone in that county. I have a BF now that doesn’t do that but I never go visit my parents without him or stay at their house alone. I’m now 23 and I still worry.
CosmicHyena24
15. Two-faced Crook
I was in a relationship for 1 year and 8 months and he ended up being very manipulative and changing into someone completely different.
Two things that he said to me that still hurt are after asking why he never called me pretty he replied “I never say because I never think it” and after we had a weekend getaway he said that I had “ruined” the entire experience.
I had a hard time leaving because he never showed his true colors to anyone so everyone would say “he’s not that bad, he’s so nice!” And he was not.
After we broke up he also showed up at my college campus and demanded we talk, so he stalked me. Not a good time lol, I definitely don’t miss him.
ZoopZoop4321
16. Twins
I spend most of 2020 into 2021 dating a "nice guy." The dude traumatized me. He spent the first couple weeks of our relationship basically downloading my personality to reflect back to me.
He wanted me so that I'd be like "Omg, we're the same person!" and (hopefully) fall in love. The nice guy act was a cover for a tendency to narcissistically manipulate me and an even bigger cover for his debilitating mental health issues.
After being insulted for a year (almost to the day) I finally broke up with him and now I'm dating an actually nice guy.
The difference is that the first guy's "niceness" was a ploy. Actually "nice" men don't need to be overly nice at first. that is just over-compensation for what is to come.
smellycaat
17. Scorched Earth
I found him very smart at first, but after dating for a while and sleeping together he proceeded to become the WORST misogynist I've ever known.
He tried to control my choices in food, clothing, friends, political stance, EVERYTHING. He was very possessive and very controlling,
When I ended things, he proceeded to share with his friends (who were also my new friends at that time) all the things I shared with him in confidence while we were dating.
Then when I finally blocked him from everything, he tried to reveal things in class group chats where our classmates (outside the friend circle) were members.
It was the worst dating experience I've ever had and he wasn't even good-looking. Needless to say, I won't ever indulge in charity cases again.
LetsGoVovo
18. Nice to Someone Else
We had a messy, volatile on-and-off thing going for a long time. He cheated on me (as well as the next several girls he dated).
Then I moved away, developed a hardcore independent streak, and became career-driven, while he got with and married one of my best friends.
They've been together for 10 years now, married for about 6 and they have a rainbow baby. He seems to have shaped up and we all have dinner once a month or so.
I was also with a genuinely nice guy at one point. An unfortunate series of life circumstances at the time kept us from officially making a go of things and he got with another girl who ended up pregnant a month into their relationship.
They got married and have 3 children. Out of all the people I was with, he was the only one I would have considered a future with.
Old-Opinion4547
19. He didn’t want me to worry
He refused to wear protection, then tried to guilt trip me because I refused to be intimate with him, and then made me walk home alone in the rain.
He then also told me I was overreacting when I had to call the cops because a random guy started following me home. This random guy in question got picked up for trying to break into my neighbor's house after I made the call.
He was also a self-proclaimed nice guy...I should've known. I have no regrets about leaving him and living my life how I want it to be now.
MD564
20. The Lazy Slob
Not well. He was obliviously condescending and acted like I was a silly naive girl who didn't understand when other men were after me.
I told him I didn't think we had compatible views or lifestyles for a committed relationship but could still date casually. He told all his friends and family about me being in his life and kept trying to guilt me into hanging with them.
He would constantly make fun of me for being a vegetarian, which is dumb in itself but I wasn't even vegetarian, I just genuinely liked vegetables and would often order food that had no meat.
I even pointed out that he had seen me eat chicken and he said he "basically considered it to be a vegetable". He was also just honestly a huge lazy slob.
Perhaps most of the reason why I ended things was I couldn't take it, his place was gross, his clothes and body were gross, and his dog was gross.
He started campfires with lighter fluid and had Great Dane dumps all over his yard. I came over when we planned to hang out only to find he was asleep in the middle of the afternoon and not ready for me three freaking times (tbf he worked the night shift).
When I kindly told him I wasn't interested anymore, he gave my number to his mom to guilt me about how much he liked me and how important I had become in his life.
He even said that he was an alcoholic and needed my influence to ground him. He was nice but Lord! I am so over that guy and hope to never see him again.
dinosaur_khaleesi
21. Same Old Cycle Just A Different Week
Met a “nice guy” on a dating site, whom I was really into. I previously had never met someone that I had so much in common with, got along with, and was physically attracted to.
We dated for a little before he started ghosting me. Found out his depression hit him really hard so I left him alone like he wanted.
He hit me up again a little while later after starting therapy and antidepressants and told me how much he liked me and wanted to see me and we would date until he would ghost me again.
He would be super apologetic and aware of his wrongdoings and would be incredibly understanding of my boundaries every time.
This same cycle continued 3 more times over the span of 8 months until I found out (by chance and from someone else) that he was seeing someone else.
He turned out to be a really selfish guy who was stringing me along just because he could. Don’t think he’s a bad person at all but definitely very selfish and dishonest and didn’t know what he wanted which ended up being at my expense.
plsbemybf
22. Just Be Happy For Me!
I dated a 'nice guy' who had pestered me into a relationship, even though I wasn't ready to be in one. On top of that, I was really young and a people pleaser, so I always wanted his approval.
Any time I was excited about something, he'd spin it around to make my accomplishments less exciting. For example, I'd placed first in a provincial competition of sorts and he replied with "So? My friend placed first in the COUNTRY and he could have gone all over the WORLD!"
He could also find a reason to argue about anything. He could be venting about his day, I'd agree with him that, yeah, that sounded really difficult and he could still pick a fight, even though I was in agreement.
Could probably write a novel about that relationship, even though it only lasted about a year. Dated, then married an actual nice dude, after that.
Unusual_Locksmith_91
23. Obsessive Lover
Badly. I became his entire life, whether I wanted it or not. He decided he didn’t need his friends anymore, despite my pushing him to hang out with them more.
He started ignoring his family. His depression didn’t get any better, but he expected me to be his girlfriend, mother, therapist, and entire friend circle.
Any time I tried to pull away or be even a little independent, he became despondent. But he never actually did anything for me, I was perpetually taking care of him in one way or another.
His whole world collapsed when I decided I couldn’t take it anymore. I made sure he got to a therapist (who ended up sending him to be inpatiented) and peaced out.
He failed out of college without me telling him to go to classes and do his homework. He was problematic for a while afterward as well.
Last I heard through a mutual friend he was still pining for me, more than a decade after we broke up. Hopefully, he’s gotten over that by now - I’ve lost contact with people who still talk to him so I haven’t heard an update in several years now.
In his defense, I will say he wasn’t a bad guy, just mentally unwell and I became his obsession. It wasn’t healthy for either of us, and I was miserable with him. I hope he’s better now but I also never want to talk to him again.
Nikcara
24. Miserable, Hacker Ex
After a long, wholesome conversation over a dating app, it all ended in us exchanging numbers. He tried convincing me for a few days how superior he was to other people.
I was really put off by this increasing arrogance. While on a phone call, I told him I wasn't interested over and over but he just yelled over me. Finally, I hung up on him.
He went full-blown nuclear on me. Texted me saying what a disgusting lonely witch I was. He called back, and left me a 7+ minute long message, yelling a tirade explaining that he's the better human between us.
He also said how he's such a good guy he could get any woman he wanted. How I'm a liar for not “being the good girl he wanted me to be."
I saved the message just in case and blocked his contact. Because he was an IT professional, he also threatened to stalk me online and 'expose my secrets' by hacking my accounts.
I'm also in IT so I'm not as vulnerable as he might think, but it was just super skeevy that he was giving me blackmail vibes so damn quick after rejection.
I hope he never finds love and rots away in his misery, cause that guy was EVERYTHING toxic and abusive. All he deserves is misery.
SqAznPersuasion
25. Craziest Semester Ever
He got jealous that I thought his friend was cool and so he decided to tell me that his friend thinks I’m crazy. When I asked him why he didn’t stand up for me, he said it was because he valued his friendship with that guy.
So the next day I called him after his class and told him I was done. He said “Okay, I guess we don’t have anything else to talk about,” I said “Nope” and hung up.
We went to the same college and he would try talking to me almost every day. I learned his schedule and avoided him at all costs. He began texting me and begging for my forgiveness to which I just ignored it and it eventually stopped after a month.
I thought he was gone after a year but apparently, he lurked on my social media and found out I was with someone. He got angry and threatened to leak some of my compromising pictures.
I just responded by saying, “Do it, I don't give a crap what people think. Plus if you do it, I have these receipts and will just simply report you to the police”
After that, I blocked him on everything and haven’t heard from him since. Life is so much nicer without the so-called nice guy.
andyroybal
26. Roles Reversed
Sigh ...I was that guy to an extent. Hate the person I was in my young teen and young adult years. I cringe with embarrassment and wish I had someone slap me silly.
I am certain my behaviors must have made women incredibly nervous and creeped out. Going by the horrible experiences of the women I’ve heard from, I feel just a little bit better knowing that I might have been a tad bit more mature.
I didn't go mental when rejected. I just felt incredibly sad and unmotivated but I wished them the best and moved on. I made myself better and eventually started going out on dates.
[deleted]
27. Stacking Up His Chips
It was great until I realized he was an entitled, narcissistic jerk who did nice things to use as bargaining chips for when I saw through to his true self.
“But what about when I did such and such” like having made me dinner (or whatever) was enough to forgive him for horrible things.
He loved doing nice things when he had an audience because I would later learn that image is everything. Being a decent person matters less than the appearance of being nice and decent.
Any person that uses the “nice guys finish last” “don’t get a break” etc RUN. It’s manipulation at the very least. Truly “nice” people don’t try to convince anyone of it.
[deleted]
28. Kind-yes, Nice, no
I regretted giving a nice guy a chance very very badly... He followed me home and then went into fits of rage calling me a witch.
Screw him and screw all of these so-called nice guys, I despise them all. Here’s the thing people don’t realize, nice is different than kind.
And honestly, people who are overly nice are very rarely kind. On the contrary, I've found that kindness can be found in those who aren't that nice.
_ThePancake_
29. Pretentious Saint
I met him in the unlikeliest place; he was basically being mean to everyone at the place but I recognized it as PTSD and so I helped him with the circumstances he was facing because everyone else was too afraid of him.
I didn’t think it would go further from there but he started texting me after the favor was done and he showed me the letter that he wrote (which seemed pretty heartfelt) to the staff that he was being really mean to and told me that he bought them lunch.
That was when I thought “Oh wow he’s actually a nice guy who could self-reflect” and I saw that as a quality that I wanted in a partner. I started liking him afterward.
A few months after we started dating his true colours showed. He was gaslighting me, ignoring me, calling me a witch, and all. I asked why did you turn into the nastiest and crappiest man I’ve ever known?
He said he’s always been like that and confessed that he knew he had to “be a pretentious saint” like me in the beginning or else he wouldn’t have been able to woo me.
juxtaglometular
30. All Around Amateur
To no one’s surprise, he became super overbearing, very entitled to me, and basically decided that we were in a relationship without even asking me.
All because he ‘knew’ from the first time he saw me that I was ‘his person’. He was not good in bed and also felt entitled to intimacy without knowing how to turn me on or acting concerned about my pleasure whatsoever.
And the first time we were intimate, he waited until I was extremely drunk. I had to end things with him about 3-4 times until it finally stuck. It was exhausting.
smellygelly
31. Feeling Used
Where to start? Well, I ended up working full-time while he "stayed home with the kids" because of medical issues.
Now they're addicted to TV, I'm having issues with them knowing how to do basic chores and I booted his butt out when he deliberately put the youngest in a dangerous situation that could have been avoided if he used his backbone.
That man was a HUGE walking red flag, a walking mess, and everything else in between. So happy to have him out of my life.
sparksgirl1223
32. Lying Unkempt “Nice Guy”
He was obese. I didn't care about his body or looks, just his personality. Guy ended up being a psychopath, narcissistic, manipulator who cheated on multiple women all at the same time.
He triangulated me, his wife, and other women against each other because he thrived off jealousy. He ended up fabricating a sad story to get his wife’s kids taken away.
He then bragged about being mean to his wife and assaulting people who had laughed at him. These self-proclaimed "Nice guys" are never nice guys.
Manicpixierebel
33. Bored Out Of My Mind
Things were good for a while. He was genuinely a really nice guy but after a while, he became very clingy. Also, he always agreed with me about literally everything and apologized a lot.
It was almost like he was trying to mirror me instead of showing me his true interests and personality. Sadly, it just got boring to be around him because I felt like he wasn’t letting me see the real him.
lafetebete
34. The difference that needs to be noted
I'm a straight male but I've been around many of the "nice guy" types, and almost always they are covert narcissists; with a victim mentality/persecution complex, and a sense of entitlement.
They think being in a relationship will solve all their problems, and are completely lacking in emotional regulation and have a ton of unaddressed issues.
"Nice" doesn't mean anything. People don't reject you for being "nice" they reject you for being fake, intense, and coercive.
There's a difference between being "nice" and being good and people can sense the difference. Being a good person doesn't mean being nice all the time and being nice all the time doesn't make you a good person.
[deleted]
35. Designated Driver Turned Creep
When visiting my hometown, an old guy friend from high school contacted me saying he and a group of old high school buddies were going to a "coffee house" at our old school and then to a bar after and they wanted me to come.
When I got there, it was just him. He told me that one person canceled and the two others were running late and would meet us at a bar after the show.
I always felt comfortable with this guy, so I didn't mind sitting in the back of the coffee house and catching up. After the coffee house, he offered to follow me home so I could drop off my car.
He didn't drink, but I did at the time. He said he would be my Designated Driver. I thought that would be alright. My mom knew my plans.
We get to the bar and a couple of friends are there waiting on us with drinks for me. I have about 4 mixed drinks. Our two friends took off, but my ride was finishing up a game of pool, so I waited.
He ordered me another drink even though I said I had enough and got frustrated and offended that I wouldn't drink it since he paid for it. I caved in and drank it.
After driving me home, he tried to get intimate with me in my driveway. His hands were all over the place while I pushed him away. I had to slap him across the face to get him to stop.
After slapping him, he complained about how lucky I should feel because he was a really nice guy and treated me like a princess all night. He also screamed at me from the car window that I was a jerk.
throwawaywinnie
36. So much for physical touch being my love language
Many moons ago I met a guy on a dating site and I went on exactly one date. We had an okay time until the end of the date when he would not let go of me.
As in, hugged me and wouldn't stop. At first, I kind of laughed, but it quickly accelerated to "Okay, freaking let me go now."
He let go about 2 seconds before I went screaming bloody murder ballistic, and suffice it to say I was done with this guy forever.
He sent me three emails that night, and three the next day, and kept this up for about a month. Then about three months later he emailed me again, to see, "if you've decided you're into nice guys after all."
fractalfay
37. Keep Your Gifts!
I had one guy who had a crush on me but completely stopped talking to me when I started dating someone else, but on my birthday I got a huge box in the mail from him.
It had a ton of weird stuff in it, bed sheets, a stuffed giraffe, an old journal from a young grade that they had to write in for points with new entries made about me (all written in his "kid" style).
There was also a framed collage of pictures of me and screenshots of our text conversations, a letter explaining the giraffe begged to be sent to me, as well as congratulating me on my 4-month anniversary.
I called him immediately to tell him that it was inappropriate and he called my boyfriend and got into a fight with him or something and then posted on social media about how he "went out of his way to get a nice gift for a girl who didn't appreciate it."
[deleted]
38. The Grand Accuser
It went well for the first couple of months then he started to accuse me of doing crap behind his back whenever I hung out with friends.
I fought him over my innocence then he started to say that my being defensive was a red flag. I told him he could look through my phone and talk to anyone because I was not doing anything.
This went on for about 3 years. I ended up dropping a lot of my friends because of it, isolating myself from family, and only hanging out with him.
He would ask me why I wouldn’t hang out with friends because he started to end up feeling annoyed with me just wanting to lay in bed all day.
So the first time I hung out with a friend after months, he was blowing up my phone saying that I was doing crap behind his back.
My breaking point was when I was texting my friends when my phone was silent (and it was only silent within those 3 years).
He started to gaslight me saying that I never leave my phone on silent when I’m at home/work and only with him. Told me I was hiding someone.
He started bragging about all the nice things he’s done for me and was saying that women only love men under a condition when men love women unconditionally.
The moral of the story is if he claims that he’s the nice guy, throws all the nice stuff that he should be doing in your face when y’all argue, and constantly accuses you of crap that he, himself, doesn’t have any type of proof of… RUN.
RUN AS FAR AS YOU CAN. IT DOES NOT GET BETTER. THEY NEVER CHANGE. Trust me, I was warned. It only gets worse. I refuse to date the “nice guy” ever again.
yungmvrie
39. Just Relax
I was getting tutored at school one time and the guy who was tutoring me was asking what my plans were for the weekend. I assumed it was small talk so I just said the usual, studying, working, hanging out with my boyfriend.
He got so pissed. He started to rant on and on about how girls like me were all the same. Always "using" guys and then never giving anything in return.
That he helped me so the least I could do was go out on a date with him. That he's so nice and no girls ever want to date him, probably because we all like jerks (his words).
He said I was a fake/tease too for allowing him to tutor me. He got kind of aggressive too and started to slam things around/shove chairs into the tables and stuff. I noped out of there so fast.
Dial-1-800-ANGEL
40. Master Of Projection
I will never ever give a nice guy a chance ever again. I once did and this guy love bombed (now know in hindsight) just constant adoration, attention, and gifts acts of service the whole nine yards.
I was skeptical the first few months but eventually just started taking it in. Then he dumped me out of nowhere with little explanation. So lesson ladies: don’t let men project onto you!
DawsonMaestro414
41. Going from 0-100
During the first few weeks of my freshman year of high school, I was waiting at the lunch line when a senior came up to me and offered to pay for my lunch.
Despite being young, I can still tell he's obviously going to try to make a move or something but I say screw it, free lunch right?
Anyway, he buys my lunch and I expect him to ask for my number or some other petty stuff, but this dumb jerk says, and I quote: "Meet me in the bathroom after lunch."
Aurora320
42. Is it so bad to just be friends?
I'd been just out of my first marriage. The divorce papers were being filed and I met this guy. Keep in mind I made it very clear I didn't want a relationship, a hookup, nothing romantic at all.
I just left my husband and was feeling depressed and just awful. I certainly needed some friends. The guy I met was a relative of a friend and at first, he was pretty cool, acted like a good friend and we got to know each other over the months.
Things are okay until he starts hinting that he's into me. Okay, whatever. I shut the guy down right away. I was just not interested.
Each time his hints get a little more pushy. Each time I'm like, "No dude, I'm not into you now stop." He always swears he won't mention it again. But days, weeks later and he's pulling the "let me have a chance" or "you have bad taste in guys, why not me?"
I'm annoyed. I should have ended the friendship then, but I didn't. We continued to stay friends, and things calmed down. For a bit. I was friends with the guy for over a year, pretty good friends.
I had another friend who was a girl, and the guy friend got all jealous of her and started accusing me of wanting to go out with her. I told him that really wasn't any of his business.
He flips out, tells me that I'm a witch for not going out with him, that he was practically helping me raise my kids (whom he never met), and talked up what a great guy he was.
Then he started threatening me because I wouldn't go out with him. That was it. I was done. I told him never to talk to me again.
He proceeded to stalk me for months. I had to get my phone number changed, tighten up the security on all of my social media, and block him on several platforms, my friends had to also block him because he kept trying to get in touch with me through them.
I'd have 30 messages sometimes in a 1 day span. The guy started making threats against me if I didn't talk to him and forgive him. I still kept my distance.
Never spoke to him again. The stalking very slowly went away, but I was getting threatened left and right. That was a horrible experience for me.
Mistah-Jay
43. Can’t you keep a secret?!
It was high school. I considered the guy my best friend, and when he revealed that he had feelings for me I rejected him and asked if he was comfortable staying just friends.
He INSISTED that it was cool that I didn't feel the same way and he wanted to keep hanging out platonically. He was mostly pretty okay about it.
That was until I started seeing a girl. "Wow, even girls are getting a shot with you before I do, huh?" Apparently, he was joking.
I told him that my new relationship was a secret because she and I were both still in the closet. He was the only one I told, since, you know... he claimed to be my best friend.
By the next week, everyone in our entire hometown knew. Faced tons of backlash. Got insulted as rumors were muttered about me in the hallways at school. Good times.
morticianmouse