1. Black Guy, White Baby
I have a black male friend, who got into a relationship with a blonde white girl. She had already had one kid, a little boy, and my friend was cool with that. Then she got pregnant.
I'd moved away around that time and hadn't met the girlfriend or the baby, but a couple of years later, he came to visit me. He showed me pictures of the girlfriend, her son from the previous relationship, and their new little girl.
He was very proud of his little girl, but I really didn't know what to say - the baby was as white as snow, with strawberry blonde hair and blue eyes. As was her big brother. (She looked very much like her big brother).
My friend saw my hesitation and said, "Yeah I know, people have a hard time believing she's mine, but she genuinely is. Her mother must have really strong genes. The father of her brother is black too, and look at him!"
keryskerys
2. Jail First Then DNA
Back in the 80s, a good friend got a girl pregnant around the same time my own girlfriend stopped taking the pill without telling me. So now we're two young musicians stuck with dad jobs we weren't looking for. No other friends have babies so we start hanging out together more, taking the kids and girlfriends to the park and playgrounds etc.
I didn't really know his new gf before but I started to see what a terrible mom she was. He appeared to be doing all the caring and parenting while she just picked fights with him and ignored her own daughter.
I didn't see them for several weeks and somebody told me he was in county jail, accused by his gf of having attacked his own 18-month-old daughter. It made zero sense to me. I didn't go visit him because I had warrants so I didn't see him for about 5 months. Finally, I ran into him at a show. He'd lost all his front teeth from beatings in the county but he seemed positive and happy because he was declared not guilty at his trial.
Apparently, the girlfriend overstated her false accusation by claiming to have seen him with her daughter. A medical examiner checked the child and ruled that was impossible so the case fell apart.
He was in the process of trying to get visiting rights to see his kid when the mom suddenly stated that it wasn't actually his child. He insisted on a DNA test and learned that she wasn't lying this time. He never saw that little girl again.
No legal consequences for the mom and his not-daughter's name is still tattooed on his arm.
stevehumann
3. 12 Months After
I was dating a girl for three years who I had trusted. I was 18 at the time. She got pregnant. I was relatively safe but everybody has slip-ups. I took my lumps and agreed to fatherhood and did the best I could.
During the entirety of the pregnancy, she was pretty absent. She wouldn't talk to me much. Sometimes for months at a time. I thought this was odd. It frustrated me beyond belief.
Later on, a friend of hers started to work with me. He started to hook up with one of my coworkers. She told me he knew my girlfriend and I was thinking oh, cool, interesting. Then she told me he banged my gf... Within the last year... I was mad.
I called her up and talked with her. Apparently, they did have intercourse. When we were on some "break." This was entirely made up. The timing didn't match up with the pregnancy though. So I continued on my way to fatherhood with this soon-to-be mother that was all over the place.
Eventually, she gave birth to a little girl. I wasn't there at the birth because I wasn't told it was happening. A couple of months down the road of trying to contact her she let me see my girl. It was great. We started talking again and acting like parents.
Well just to make sure that this new baby girl was mine I went ahead and had a paternity test. She was a 1% match...and therefore was not my daughter. I was appalled. I went to her place and asked her what this was about. She swore up and down that it had to be mine. DNA is DNA. She wasn't my little girl after all. I left her. On her knees crying for me to come back to her apartment.
I got a text later that day. She told me she remembered. She got black-out drunk and had intercourse with this guy at a party. She claimed he basically "forced" her. I don't believe this at all.
So I went through 9 months of pregnancy and 3 months of actual fatherhood before I found out. Now I don't talk to her at all. I hear rumors occasionally about her. I am glad she is no longer in my life.
Fazinator
4. Less Than A Percent Chance
Back in college, I was seeing a girl for a while. Kinda serious, more so for her than me apparently. She winds up pregnant. I was young and didn't really know what to do, but knew if it was mine, I would do the right thing and be the father.
Major caveat - I have a physical condition that makes it highly unlikely that I can actually get anyone knocked up, and she knew this. Anyway, she swears up & down through the whole pregnancy that it could only be mine, so I went along with it.
I was out of town the weekend kiddo was born. She apparently tried to reach me, but this was long before cell phones, and I had gone home to a different city with a college friend to party (and in all likelihood avoid home during that time frame, since I was reasonably sure it wasn't mine).
Kiddo was born, I went to see them a few times over the next few weeks, and then shortly after that I got a call from my folks that she had stopped by their house and introduced it to them as their new grandson, etc.
They were ecstatic and happy for me and all the fun stuff they anticipated about being new grandparents.
I had to basically put the brakes on really hard at that point and tell them I was pretty sure that it was not my kid. I pretty much knew after I saw it. One look at it and there was just no connection at all. It was a baby, but I saw nothing there I recognized as "mine" in any way shape or form.
Due to the fact that she was already on the dole, the state mandated a paternity test. I figured I just might as well get it over with and showed up for the appointment when they told me to. Once the results came back, there was a less than 1% chance it was mine.
I turned around and never looked back.
Only seen her twice since then, and it's been 20+ years now, but both times she was almost in tears trying to apologize for doing that to me back then.
I heard through the grapevine who ended up being the actual father, and he already had a few bastards running around, so he was no help to them at all. Not only that but his poor health and drug issues put him in an early grave, so that poor kid had no father figure growing up.
Thankfully, I kept a level head through the whole ordeal and even got a letter of commendation from the county prosecutor's office saying that they wished even half the potential fathers were half as cooperative as I had been.
Starfire66
5. The Grandpa Was The Father
I had 2 years of DNA tests that the state continually reported as inconclusive, it led to going to someplace out of state. I got it done and the test results came back with "... Less than 2% probability of a genetic match." Huh. So. I called her up. Asked, "So, you wanna tell me what the real story is?"
Two weeks before we had our night under the sheets that resulted in the talk 9 months later, her father had come home drunk out of his mind.
I still recall the tone of her voice asking me if I had actually taken the test and that it was real. Well. Turns out her mother heard that conversation. Notified someone and Dad took a DNA test. So her dad is the dad of her kid.
And I felt horrible for her. I can't even joke about this. Her dad was arrested, the kid last I heard was doing well. It forced her to clean up her act (she'd gone in for heavy alcohol use and it drove us apart before the child did), and that was ten or so years ago.
We don't talk. Every once in a while I'll think about the kid but I don’t know. This world ain't a nice place. And with all the stuff she'd gone through, I wasn't gonna make it worse. So I left it alone.
graywolf0026
6. Email From Real Boyfriend
When I was in the Navy I had an on-and-off relationship with a girl back home. On my last deployment, my girlfriend told me via email that she was knocked up; I accepted it, emailed my parents, and told the military all that jazz.
I ended up getting discharged so I went back home and took care of my pregnant girlfriend. She had the baby and I thought I was the father for five months.
While she was on vacation with a supposed girlfriend, I got an email from her boyfriend telling me that they had been together for the last four months and also for the week in Myrtle Beach I was bankrolling.
After that, I got the paternity test, found out it wasn't mine and told her I was done and wanted no contact. The terrible part is my parents still babysit and treat the kid like their grandkid, so she's at a lot of family functions and such. Also, the guy wasn't even the father.
initialCRX
7. Not Having Money Exposed The Truth
My neighbor just across the street met a girl at a bar where they play (he‘s a guitarist) and later that night took her home but before that, he asked her age, she said she was 18. Then after a week she returned and told him she was pregnant.
When he told this to me, my mom and my brother, we became really suspicious because here in my country being a teen mom is a no-no, you'll get stigmatized to put it lightly, but this girl just broke that news like it's nothing. Now fast forward a few weeks the mom gets involved and this is where things get really crazy.
She told him that her daughter was actually 13! And that if he didn't foot the hospital check-up bills she would report him to the police, but my neighbor couldn't do that as he was broke. So after a couple of trips to the hospital and maybe finally realizing he doesn't have any money she stops, then one day that girl dropped the bombshell on our neighbor (she probably felt guilty because he was nice) she told him that he's actually not the father of the child, that it was her stepdad.
It turns out the dad was an addict and the girl was being attacked for years now every time her mom was away, and he wasn't the first they tried to extort money from, good thing he was poor.
altmer4ever
8. The Medical Condition
When I was around 13-14, my girlfriend told me she was pregnant. I didn't know what to do. It was a rough few weeks. Our plan was to have an abortion but she had a miscarriage.
Fast forward to age 24, I'm married and we're trying to have a kid. Nothing is happening. I go to the doctor to get a sperm count. The nurse, eating an apple and clearly irritated, tells the doctor that "there are plenty of them swimming around in there."
So, my wife went to get checked. No problem found. Back to me. I go to a new doctor and he examines me. In about twelve seconds he identifies that my vas deferens ends prematurely. I was, basically, born with a vasectomy. Everything else is normal, but without a medical procedure, I had zero chance of fathering a child.
It was an odd feeling finding out that my childhood girlfriend had cheated on me and gotten pregnant ~10 years ago, and also that I could have safely skipped buying a few condoms.
Oh, and that the nurse outright lied to all of us, causing several more months of misery.
pnwchildless
9. Gut Feeling
My wife didn't say anything about me possibly not being the father. But, for a host of reasons, I had my doubts. It was pretty obvious I was detached during the delivery. I was also the only male there because her father didn't want to be in the room. And my father had died a couple of months earlier.
I felt lots of pressure from the nurses and female doctors to cut the umbilical cord and sign all the forms. Everyone I told I had doubts basically told me I was being the bad guy and not supporting her. I felt so alone during that time. Even my mother wasn't on my side.
Even she told me I need to stop being such a horrible person and support this woman. It was crazy unfair to me. I was absolutely lost for most of the pregnancy.
1 week after the baby was born, I got the baby tested. Turns out I was right all along. The baby was not mine. And it wasn't until then, that the mother came clean about everything.
Both the mother and child are out of my life now, but to be honest, I still feel a bit like I abandoned that child and I don't know if this feeling will ever go away. I wish the child the best and hope the child is raised in the most excellent of ways.
colt_stonehandle
10. Karma
My roommate was dating ‘the psycho chick from hell’. We’ve all met her. Nothing but screaming fights, glasses thrown through walls followed by the most insane makeup intercourse of his life. He knows this is a bad idea but the intercourse is that good. Well, this girl gets knocked up.
He’s stuck with her for 9 months of hell. They go to the hospital together and she splits out the blackest baby you have ever seen and admits on the spot that she cheated on the weekend he was in Las Vegas.
Needless to say, he was outta there like a roadrunner followed by a trail of dust. Poof. While back at home he’s telling me how he dodged a bullet, and I reminded him that he bragged to me about banging a chick in Las Vegas that weekend, and that karma was a witch. There was silence in the room.
drive2fast
11. Only One Child Was Mine
A friend of mine had been hearing rumors that his wife was cheating on him. He refused to believe them until he found out one day that there was a trait that is passed from parents to children.
Anyways he went and got a DNA test done as he and his wife did not have the trait and it turns out it wasn't his kid, they tested their other two kids and he was only the father of the middle child. The first and third child were from two different guys.
He flipped out and punted her out of the house and she in turn drained his business account and ghosted away while he started divorce proceedings. He lost almost everything but saved his business by changing the name and some other stuff so that it can't be used in the divorce settlement.
He managed to keep the dogs which she tried to get custody of. The house was totally in his name so he was able to keep that too. He was really bad for a while, stopped eating and stuff but he is looking much better now and he has got a new girlfriend and seems happy again.
The two older kids still pop to see him as they are over 18 but he hasn't seen the youngest as she is still a child.
LennyComa
12. Settling For Adoption
I was a victim of paternity fraud. No one said anything to me about their suspicions. Two years later it comes out that my daughter isn't biologically mine. By that time I only saw her as my daughter and nothing else. After months of depression and confusion, I worked it out where I left the mom and I adopted the little girl.
The adoption went like this, I was living in NYC for a year after I found out about my daughter. I was coming back to Ohio every other weekend to visit her and spend time with her. I contacted the biological dad who apparently knew the whole time.
His words were that he didn't want anything to do with that ugly baby. I was pretty upset to hear that because I didn't see how anyone could think she was ugly or hate her.
Anyways I finally got the job transfer, and after long talks with their mother, I was able to convince her to let me adopt her. To make things more complicated, my ex also had a son who was two years older than my daughter. His biological dad died.
I started dating their mom when he was an infant. He started calling me Dad when he was able to talk. I also was able to adopt him as well. I have two adopted kids and no relation with their mother. I do not regret anything about what I did. I don't see these kids as anything but my own.
Papa_pepper_513
13. Divorce After Birth
I watched an unhappy ending unfold at the hospital. When my wife was in the hospital giving birth, there was another girl in the same room. Her husband was absolutely in love with her and his soon-to-be-born son.
I spoke a lot with this guy, we talked about how we're gonna play with our kids and so on. After the birth, I never saw him again, but I saw the child. No way it was his.
By the time she was in the hospital, he moved out and filed for divorce. She tried to sue him for child support and won. He left the country and didn't pay. My wife still has contact with her so we know that she is struggling with huge financial problems.
Nathaniel66
14. In Denial
My dad told me this story. He was an NCO in the army, and one night he received a call that the wife of one of his soldiers was in the hospital having a baby. His first response was “...so why are you calling me?”
It turns out that the wife was 99.9% sure the baby wasn’t his and she needed someone to make sure he didn’t go crazy at the hospital. So my Dad drives down there, and he finds his soldier trying to push past the doctors into the delivery room.
He’s screaming that he has a right to be in there, etc. My Dad puts his hand on his shoulder (a preface to physically restraining him) and tells him that he can’t go in. The guy must’ve realized that he really wasn’t getting in there, because he just sank to his knees, started crying, and kept saying “I just wanted to see my son being born.” It was apparent that he wasn’t going to hurt anyone, so they got him to the waiting room and my Dad left thinking “I just watched the end of someone’s marriage.”
Come Monday morning, the guy comes in with the biggest smile, walking around and showing everyone pictures of his black baby (he was white). Of course, they questioned and ribbed him about it, but he would just proudly say “That’s my son.”
Best-case scenario to a messed up situation. I’m not sure how the family is doing now, but it seems like the kid would grow up with a father (or two) who loved him.
Cownosaur
15. The Child Was For Another Man
My buddy who is very white and a soldier in the Army had gotten sent back home from his deployment to be with his wife as she gave birth. His wife is also white.
She gave birth to a baby that was not white. The baby was black, very black actually. His heart sank when he saw the doctor's eyes. The doctor saw the baby was black before he did, and the doctor knew it was about to get a lot more messy than it already was.
What happened was that the wife had fooled around with a guy right after her husband had gone out for deployment, when she found out she was pregnant she figured there was a 50/50 chance it was her husband’s and not her other lover. So she said "I'm just going to tell him it's his baby and hope it all works out basically". But It didn't.
He ended up divorcing her. She ended up becoming a complete clown show. The real father was nowhere to be seen. My friend ended up adopting the baby that his now ex-wife had given birth to.
Baby is like a young 6-year-old boy, my buddy is remarried to a lovely wife and none of us has a freaking clue where his ex-wife is or the real father is and it doesn't matter.
SpeedStick89
16. Brothers In Pain
When I was a student nurse there was this one couple, the mother was Asian and the husband was White. The husband had a brother (African American, he’s adopted from what I remember). The mother had been in labor for around 12 hours and they were very excited to see their baby.
I remember the father had been pacing my entire shift back and forth in the waiting room. When it came time to mount the mother on the table he asked the doctor if he could be in the room, he was grinning like a madman.
It was a very positive energy, you could almost get completely absorbed by it. The doctor was a nice guy. He let us get him some throw-away scrubs and let him stay in the room. All in all the actual birthing process was pretty standard. however, when the baby came out then came the rough part. He was a normal healthy half-African American boy, around 3kg.
I just looked at the baby then looked at the father and watched his face go from joy to puzzlement to horror in around 10 seconds.
The mother called out for her child and the doctor being all business cut and suctioned the baby. I’m pretty sure at that moment the father broke because he sort of just stepped back and kept saying “what the heck“ under his breath.
I didn’t get to see much of them for the next 2 hours but I was there when the mother was brought to her room. Her husband and his brother were there as well and she was talking to them. From what I saw she was trying to console her husband and his brother was trying to hug him.
The husband kind of just kept shrugging off his brother's arms and crying into his hands. It was a really tough thing to see..
itsJohnnyRain
17. Multiple Fathers
I'm a midwife. I once had a woman come to my clinic unannounced (she wasn't my patient but I'm NHS so saw her anyway) She had a man with her, she knew she was about 3 months pregnant but hadn't come for any antenatal care.
I asked if she'd had intercourse the night before (she'd come in because she'd had a little bleeding) I looked at the partner as mum said yes and he said "nothing to do with me - I'm just the baby daddy" Turns out she had a new boyfriend at home, this was just the guy she'd been with 3 months before.
I popped her up on the table to examine her and straight away had to tell her that she was actually about 5 months along but I would arrange a scan to confirm. The dude just got up and walked out.
Turns out there was a third guy 5 months ago.
LaSageFemme
18. The Father Was Not Who They Thought
I worked labor and delivery. I had a very young mother come in, accompanied by her parents. She was just 12-13 and her parents looked stuffy and kept telling her should've had an abortion, she was too young, etc. Her mother was silent the whole time but leaked tears for her constantly. While she laboured, I received a call from a very young boy who said he was her boyfriend.
His trembling voice explained that her father wouldn't come to the hospital. I explained that I couldn't give out information but he could talk to her afterward. I went in, told her he had called and she showed me a picture of him.
He was white, with straight red hair, pimply and tiny--the runt of the litter. About an hour later, her phys ed teacher stopped by to check on her, which I thought was odd. We didn't get many teachers checking on students.
He was as opposite of the boyfriend as he could get: tall, very muscular, beautiful smile, and rich, chocolate brown skin. The girl's father accompanied her to the delivery room. Odd, but ok. The more she pushed, the louder she cried. In between, she kept saying "Sorry Daddy". Finally, out slid a very beautiful, chocolate-brown baby boy. I thought her father was going to pass out on my delivery room floor. I did my usual "It's a boy!"
And said nothing else. I handed him off to a nursery nurse and got Dad a chair.
The new mom said "I'm sorry Daddy," over and over again. Her mom, now frowning, came to see the baby, took one look, started asking God for forgiveness, and left. I sent her dad home a short bit later, admonishing him to react at home, not here. I set up a time for our counselor to meet with him before I left.
After talking to the new mom, she admitted her gym teacher had been giving her "special treatment". I explained intercourse to her and she said she'd only kissed the bff, but had stayed after school to be with her gym teacher.
I'm state mandated to report child abuse, so I did. Two weeks later, with her world shattered, her baby was given up for adoption. I wish her the best. Of note, this was in 1989.
B-tchyPuddin
19. Do Not Sign The Birth Certificate
I used to work in the newborn nursery at a hospital. We got the babies right from delivery, cleaned them up, footprinted them, checked vitals, etc. Dads usually came in with the newborns.
This dad comes in with this baby. Dad is white, mom is white, and the baby is very obviously not white. The dad was very quiet standing next to the baby, watching us clean it up. He says quietly, "I don't think this is my baby."
You could tell he was absolutely devastated. We advised him not to sign the birth certificate until he was sure. Not sure what happened after we sent the baby back out to Mom, but I felt awful for the guy.
rootberryfloat
20. The Father Moved Out Immediately
My best friend was dating a girl and knocked her up. They got engaged and planned to get married right after the baby was born. There were about 10 of us in the waiting room waiting for her to crank out the baby. It was essentially her parents (his parents were in another state), some of her friends, and some of ours. After sitting there for about 2 hours, he walks out with a smirk on his face and says "Let's go".
We all thought something horrible had happened. Her friends ask how the baby is, and he said "Fine, but black". He motioned for us to go, so we followed him. In the parking garage, he tells us to follow him to his apartment, then sends me a text asking if I could put him up for a while.
We literally moved him out of his apartment and into my spare bedroom in like an hour tops. Her parents didn't know who to be mad at. The confusion on their faces, when he told them the baby was black, was priceless.
Goyteamsix
21. A Donor
I was blood-typing a newborn once. Mom was an O+, the baby was AB+. Which is more or less not possible. I immediately panicked, because Jesus God they mixed up the babies. Someone has the wrong baby.
We're gonna get sued, they're gonna have to genetic test the entire nursery, what if they subpoena me for being the idiot who discovered the problem? I don't have insurance, what if they sue me?! Those were my thoughts
After repeating the test three times I called the floor and told them that they'd either drawn the wrong baby's blood, or they'd switched babies because Mom couldn't be the baby's mother. Lol no, it was a donor egg. The redraw matched fine, everyone was where they were supposed to be.
WishIWereHere
22. Not Reading The Room
I used to work with a guy whose wife was pregnant. Near the time for delivery, everyone at our place of business had a big party with gifts, money, etc.
So the big day comes, the water breaks, and they get in the car to go to the hospital. She breaks the news on the way there that the baby is not his, the kid is of another race, and if he could just drop her off at the hospital and then leave, that would be great.
He took a few days off work, found a new apartment, moved out, filed for divorce etc. he called in to work and told someone what happened, news spread pretty fast. All congratulations cards, etc were cleaned up and thrown away. Everyone was very sensitive to his pain.
Except, somehow, I don’t know how I did not get the news.
So on his first day back, I walked into the office he shared with 6-7 other guys and said “Hey hey, Daddio, how’s fatherhood so far? Getting any sleep? Got some pictures? Let’s see the little tike!”
He slowly lifted his head to look at me with a painful look. The room was dead silent. One of his workmates stood up, grabbed my arm and walked me out of the room, shushing me. “What happened, “ I asked, “Did it die? What’s the problem?”
When he told me I almost died myself. I still feel bad for the dude and it’s been 30 years.
BlueGillMan
23. Ancestry DNA Test
A coworker’s aunt just found out her dad wasn’t actually her dad. She was really big into genealogy and had mapped out her family tree as far as she could go. She took one of those ancestry DNA tests about two months ago, and her father’s side didn’t line up with what she was expecting.
In fact, she didn’t recognize a single name that she was matched with paternally. She casually asked her dad if he knew any of the names, and he recognized the surname of the maintenance man at the apartment complex where he and his wife (aunt’s mom) lived shortly after they had gotten married.
He claimed he was a lousy repairman who always flirted with his wife, etc. Aunt’s mom had passed away a few years ago, so she decided to not tell her dad the news.
Kjwells94
24. Leaving Without Saying A Word
I had a college buddy whose fiancee was pregnant. They were the "perfect couple," both had just over a year with great careers starting out, and everything was butterflies and rainbows. Fast forward to the delivery room, they're in there and out comes a very black baby.
He's quite the pale redhead, and she's a blonde/blue eyes Texas girl. He made sure everyone was ok, waited for her parents to arrive, and left without saying a word. He moved all his stuff out of the house while she was in the hospital, and cut off all communications with her, just walked out of their lives in the most stone-cold act I'd ever seen.
They were together for nine years, and he just left cold turkey. She tried to contact him at his job a few times, but he quickly moved up the ladder and eventually got a job in another city. He told me once that he took solace in the fact that her family had already dropped about $10k in a wedding that never happened.
tacoscholar
25. He Couldn’t Accept The Truth
A distant cousin of mine definitely has children that don’t belong to the father. My cousin was adopted as an infant and was essentially a “crack baby.” She struggled with some developmental issues and has a low IQ compared to most, but can still live on her own with little to no issues.
She is a white woman who married a Latino guy (really dark brown skin) several years ago and they had a son together who has dark hair, dark skin, and dark eyes. He is easily identified as their son. The real trouble happens years later.
Her husband, who we’ll call Javier, has some IQ issues of his own. Just a little slow when it comes to tasks and reasoning. Anyway, Javier is in the military and gets deployed internationally for about 6 months. When he comes home, his wife is 4 months pregnant...you do the math.
He still believes the baby is his own, even after it’s born with pale skin and blonde hair & blue eyes. If that wasn’t bad enough, it happens again two years later with another baby. Same blonde hair and blue eyes.
Everyone knows she slept with a different man (it was actually her high school boyfriend), but Javier still thinks the children are his. It’s kind of sad, but at this point, there’s not much you can do. He has raised the kids as his own.
brickwallwaterfall
26. The Family Knew The Truth
My sister got pregnant in high school and later met her now husband when she was 5 months pregnant. She is white and her boyfriend is black. The baby daddy was white and not present.
I was with our entire family, including my now brother-in-law, visiting the baby. My sister was still in recovery from her C-section. My Brother-in-law picks up my niece, the nurse looks at him and says "She should darken up in a few days".
We all had a laugh. We knew he wasn't the father, but she didn't. I always wondered if she felt bad/ assumed adultery. They have two more girls together and he was able to adopt A three years later.
MetalPixie311
27. Serial Adulterer
My biological father is Greek with very pale skin and my mom is a white Western European mutt. When I was born I had very dark skin and a full head of thick black hair. He didn’t seem concerned but his mother freaked out, called my mother and grandmother not-so-nice names and left.
My father ended up splitting on us when I was about 3 weeks old with no explanation. A couple of months later my skin lightened, and all of my black hair fell, turns out he was the father.
We’ve never tried to reach back out to his family because in that first year of my life, they went through a lot of drama including arrests, rehab stays, drive-by shootings, an affair followed by a divorce, another baby momma my mother didn’t know about, the list goes on.
My father and I tried to form a relationship when I was in high school. It went okay at first and then he got weird very quickly. He insisted I called him dad, insisted on “regular visitation”, routinely showed up at my friends and boyfriend's houses causing a scene, and insisted I get family pictures with his new lady and his 5 other kids (none of us has the same mother, and this is not including the baby he had and ditched before he got together with my mom.)
I regret ever trying at all. He and his family were and are still trashy hot messes and I’m glad my family decided to keep me away from them.
Cherry on top, he was working for my now husband's parents when my husband and I first met. Once his parents found out who he was and what had happened, they fired him so I would never have to run into him at their business. He had it coming anyway so they were glad to finally stop making excuses for him and let him go.
juliatheplant
28. The Father Became Angry
I was doing epidurals in residency. This Caucasian couple was from a more rural part of the country and they don't look or sound particularly educated. The wife was particularly antsy, asking when she can go home, even though the baby isn't out yet. The husband looks bored and uninterested like he's been there a whole bunch of times.
I usually don't stay in the rooms during delivery, but this one I just happened to be nearby to give more in the epidural because of a tear immediately after delivery. When I got to the room, the wife was holding her eyes shut and didn't want to see the baby. I look at the baby and he's obviously black.
Now the husband is paying attention, and he watches what I do. He keeps repeating, "When is that baby gonna pink up?" Louder and louder. The OB doctor tries to diffuse things by reminding everyone that this moment is critical and suggests the baby should be taken to the resuscitation area in the NICU and that the father should step out while the ob repaired the laceration.
We had to call the social worker and security and I was called elsewhere, so I don't know what happened afterwards, so I can't imagine it was good.
drleeisinsurgery
29. The Power Of Genes
My wife and I are both brown-skinned dark haired half-Mexicans and our moms are both 100% white blondes with blue and green eyes. So we sort of knew it was a crap shoot with our baby, but the nurse who was assisting with delivery had no idea. At one point she gets sort of nervous and calls for help and another I guess more senior nurse came in and nodded and came over to talk to me.
I thought there was something wrong with the baby as she came over and stumbled through some questions; so I was the father and no one else was coming, etc. Then finally she awkwardly asks if either of us happened to be blonde growing up. I said yeah I was and both the baby's grandparents are blonde.
This wave of relief went over her and she brought me over to see this blonde-as-hell crowning baby head.
It's funny because he looks just like me if you applied a gringo Instagram filter. We often get awkward questions about his heritage and my wife always hits them with "Yeah we're not sure if he's mine." It's always funny to see people nod for a moment and then go "Wait what?"
PM__YOUR__GOOD_NEWS
30. Keeping It In The Family
In September I found my birth mother. We talked and she invited the man I thought was my birth father to dinner and my older brother who was from the same parents (we were adopted by the same family and grew up together came too).
We had a great time and we all clicked immediately. The man who I thought was my birth father was amazing and my birth mother and I liked so many of the same things.
We made plans to see shows and I was finally going to meet her mother — my grandmother — and learn about the heritage I never had.
Then the 23 and me test came back that I took right before finding her came back. I found my uncle. Originally I thought it was her brother but it wasn't. It was my birth father’s brother. But my birth father wasn't the man I met. My brother and I were only half siblings. Which there is still some tension between us for.
My birth mother went ballistic for me finding out. She called me every name in the book saying I was ruining everyone's lives and how it was my fault this happened. It came out she knew all along I wasn't the birth father’s kid. Everyone stopped talking to her and was mad.
Except for my actual birth father’s wife. Turns out they were friends from high school. My birth mother has been texting and calling her constantly telling her how it's all my fault and telling her I'm an awful person and to not let my birth father talk to me.
Through all this stress I don't really know if I want my birth father in my life.
The funny thing is my brother’s birth father — the man who I thought was my father — has been the most amazing man in all of this and is the only person in this invited to my wedding and I can't wait to have him there.
QueenKiminari
31. Losing Parental Rights
I know of a related court case that made it to the state's highest court. A black guy and a white woman are married. She is a former prostitute and at some point they separate, he moves out of state, she moves out of state, and she goes back to prostitution. The guy gets a phone call around 9 months later from a friend/relative of his ex saying that his ex is pregnant and ready to give birth any day now.
The guy drives across the country so he could be there for the delivery. Baby comes out and is white, has blue eyes, and red hair. Mom says it "must be a trick baby." Seeing as the guy is black, he understandably peaces out.
Later on, the mom's parental rights are terminated (as you can imagine from the prostitution she was not a fit mother) and the state went about trying to find the dad to be notified/before the kid can be adopted.
Since the dude was still her husband at the time the child was born, legally he was the presumptive father. The state does genetic testing and there was a twist. It turns out that he is the father. For an extra kick in the pants, the state ends up terminating his parental rights for abandonment.
tardersauced
32. Mom Thinks Her Baby Was Switched
My aunt is a nurse in the maternity ward. She had a couple come in where they were both very black. Lady has the baby and it is white AF. Like, totally pale with no trace of any pigment. They put the baby on her mom and the mom starts yelling about how this isn't her baby and they stole her baby
In all fairness, you can be very confused during/after delivery, it wasn't stupidity. The mom was just sobbing and freaking out and the father was just sitting there and looking very confused because even if she did cheat, there is no way the baby would be that white.
The doctor and nurses are trying to assure her that this is her baby and that the skin usually darkens later. Come to find out, when he called his mom, she pointed out that they have a second cousin who is albino and maybe the baby got that gene. Turns out that's what happened- the baby was albino.
Beachy5313
33. The Sister Requested A Paternity Test
I am a nurse working in labor and delivery. Recently I had something I thought was interesting happen. The girl comes into labor with her boyfriend, sister and a friend. Boyfriend doesn't seem too engaged during the process but that's not uncommon. The baby is born and is fine, then the sister sends Dad to get some stuff. She had a reason for that.
All people involved are Hispanic and only speak Spanish. My specific medical Spanish is pretty decent and I can get you through an epidural or delivery, most things come up pretty well but I am not fluent.
So as soon as the dad leaves the sister is like I have a question for you and then proceeds to say something I can't understand at all, I try to clarify but I'm just not getting it, I offer to go get the translator. She's like no I don't want it to be official. She whips out her phone and through Google Translate asks "How can we get a paternity test in the hospital?"
I then have to explain that we really don't do that but you can get one at CVS. They tell me that the baby doesn't look like the other child of this mom and this guy and that it might be someone else's but they wanna check before telling him.
So I just apologized and told them how they can get a DNA test at CVS and they are like $50. This isn't the first time I've been asked about paternity testing.
companionquandary
34. Truth Revealed In An Argument
So apparently my mom and "dad" were on a break, so she had a one-night-stand with a dude she just met at a party. Later she tells my "dad" that she's pregnant with his kid, so they get back together so he can support her.
I was born pretty dark because my bio dad was very very Native American. The nurses made comments about me being a dark baby but I guess "dad" attributed it to the bit of Native in my mom, even though she's very pale-skinned.
Anyway, this being Oklahoma, of course, my "dad" marries her to do the right thing. I was adopted by him after the wedding at about ten months old. A month later my brother was born (definitely my dad's kid) and not long after that they had a fight and she dropped the revelation on him that I wasn't his.
No idea why it wasn't more obvious or he was in denial. Both my "brothers" are red-headed, light-eyed, and pale-skinned with freckles. I popped out of the womb with dark hair, dark skin, dark eyes, and no freckles. Even the nurses were like "What a cute Indian (Native American) baby!"
But during the divorce (when he had known the truth for a few years) he fought for me, along with my brothers, and eventually got custody of all of us. He planned on never telling me but eventually, my mom's loud-mouthed, complete piece of crap sister decided to let me know during an argument to be petty. That was probably the first time I really saw my Dad cry.
He's had periods of not being the best dad, but overall I ended up getting all my most defining traits from him. His commitment to a decision, his maniac work ethic which was how he showed love, and his strength to keep moving forward despite constantly getting screwed over by any woman he trusts.
I think he's done looking for love. It makes me sad because he really deserves it. Maybe if my mom had been a better person he would have had a chance at that. He did get remarried but the only thing worse than a terrible mom is an evil, narcissistic stepmother.
RikaBaF27
35. Boyfriend And Best Friend
I know a girl who was pregnant with her boyfriend's best friend's baby. He found out there was a possibility about a week before she gave birth. I went up to see her once he was born and he looked just like a friend, there was no question. I broke the news to her boyfriend and he was absolutely devastated. They did a DNA test after the baby was born and it was confirmed.
His parents were heartbroken and super angry. They had bought the girl everything she needed, including a $500 car seat/stroller set. She refused to give anything back. She started up a relationship with the friend immediately after having their child, and they're still together a decade later. But the kicker for me has always been that the boyfriend and best friend were next-door neighbors.
She moved into his house after coming home from the hospital. So her ex-boyfriend and his family had to see them basically every day raising this child that they had believed to be his for the entire pregnancy. I can't even imagine.
maybebatshit
36. Close Accusation
I was born 27 years ago to a very nice white couple. I came out as Asian. Looked exactly like a little kung-fu master. Right after the delivery they take you out back and clean you up while your mom gets comfy in a regular hospital bed. During this little wait my dad was seething.
He couldn't bring himself to accuse his fiancé of anything after the ordeal she just went through. So he resigned himself to being all smiles in the hospital, avoiding signing the birth certificate and bringing it up at home.
Well, after waiting for an eternity in the hospital room, they bring me in and the doctor says "I'm sorry, your son has jaundice." At which point my dad lept into the air and thanked heaven that I was not Asian, I only had a liver failure!
SnakeyesX
37. Crisis Was Not Averted
A 26-year-old girl comes into the emergency room complaining of lower abdominal pain and abnormal transvaginal bleeding. I get a blood pregnancy test and she is pregnant.
We perform a vaginal ultrasound that confirms a first-trimester pregnancy. So we do what we always do and replenish her fluids, and monitor her for a few hours. Crisis averted.
My supervising resident and I go out to the waiting room to search for the father and give him the great news.
We told him his baby was saved! Only that it wasn’t his. It turns out he had been away for the past 6 months for work and there was no way the baby could have been his.
Sameotoko
38. Racist Family
My sister and her husband had a blue-eyed blonde girl (mom: brunette/blue, dad: blonde/blue) the first time around and when a second baby was born a few years later and family and friends were let into the recovery room we see a very dark-skinned, black-haired, brown-eyed baby girl.
Everyone was wondering the obvious and one of their friends just yelled, "Hola!" Every so often in my family we get what we call a "monkey baby" - basically the baby is completely covered in dark fur, has dark hair and eyes and then about a month or two later all the dark hair has fallen out and the real color starts growing in and they end up with very light blue eyes, brown hair and pale skin.
In my niece's case, she ended up with beautiful hazel/green eyes and dark blonde hair, and oddly enough, looks exactly like me. Genetics can be really strange sometimes. But my entire family are hardcore racist for describing a furry human baby as a "monkey baby".
i_am_also_a_good_dog
39. Heartbroken Father
My brother was convinced the baby his girlfriend gave birth to was his for 4 years, even though it was painfully obvious to everyone else that the baby was biracial, and my brother and his girlfriend are both very white.
He even named him after his dad. He told me the baby had my complexion (I'm whiter than a snowflake). She finally told him when they broke up that the kid wasn't his.
He was genuinely shocked and a little heartbroken. He got over it fairly quickly and has never been anything but daddy to the kid. He even got custody when they broke up.
NotSoSouthern
40. There Was A Reason
I was in Texas at the time because I wanted a change of scenery and I had this white trash woman come in with her deadbeat husband. I remember them from the emergency room, they said he had a kid that wasn't his already, but he knew that and married her while she was pregnant, anyways, I'm rambling.
So, she's giving birth and it goes well, nothing really strange that I can note, but then we cleaned off the baby, and lo and behold, it was black. Both were white, put 2 and 2 together.
The woman tried to hide it by saying babies might get strangled by the umbilical cord and that's why it was black. My nurse, who was black, shook her head. Anyways, after that, he got a list and started doing good for Karma or some crap.
Shanix
41. Blood Groups
Years ago the Blood Bank where I worked had the crossmatch emergency lab where I was on the ground floor and the donor lab upstairs. A politically prominent couple of donors who were personal friends of the Medical Director once came around to donate and asked us to show around their 15 yo boy as he was interested in starting an internship as a junior technician after school.
We showed him the ins and outs of matching ABO and Rh type and screening for antibodies, and explained about inheritance of blood groups. This was a bright kid and he asked; " Hang on; my moms' a group O and my dads a group A, how come I'm a group B?"
We immediately realized that this was a case of mom having a little secret from dad, but the resident smart pants junior couldn't keep his trap shut and before we could stop him blurted out; "That proves that your mom's been cheating on your dad!"
Just then his parents came down from the donor lab and this freaked out kid ran to them and repeated the story. Meltdown. Dad turned to Mom and yelled; "You witch, I was right; you were cheating on me back then!"
Mom burst into tears and ran out of the building, with family in hot pursuit. The next day I, as lab supervisor, got chewed out from a dizzy height by the Medical Director for not having better control over my juniors! No fairness in hierarchies.
00Pueraeternus
42. Two Generations After
The friends of our family, both Caucasian, had a healthy Caucasian baby boy. About two years later I had a baby girl - not Caucasian. She looked like the dad but had dark African-American skin, hair, etc. His wife swore she had never been with another man in her life, but for obvious reasons, they got a DNA test.
It came back that they were both parents. But how? Through some family research & genetic testing, I found out that her grandmother was Colombian, but was actually originally from Ghana. The genes skipped two generations, as the grandmother had married a Spanish man & moved to Colombia & their children were very light-skinned.
So even though they were full-blooded brother and sister, one was Caucasian and one was Black. The cool thing was that as they became teenagers, they looked so much alike, just skin & hair differences.
fuegodiegOH
43. Immaculate Conception
When I was 16, a long long time ago, I worked at a pizza place and a teen girl showed up looking for my coworker who was a guy who had just recently graduated high school. He angrily chased her off and told me she was accusing him of being the father of her unborn baby and he added that there is no possible way it is his.
So a while later he goes to court and tells the judge it can't be his as they never had intercourse. She insists they did. Judge quickly picks up on what is going on and asks the girl what kind of intercourse they had.
Judge asks if she had slept with anyone else and she says yes but it wasn't in the mouth so the other guy couldn't have put a baby in her stomach. Very sad as she was 16 but my friend said she wasn't dumb, just ignorant as her parents never made her go to school regularly unless they were getting in trouble for truancy, and apparently the parents never explained intercourse to her either.
LucidMagi
44. The Nurse Saved Me
My (ex)girlfriend delivered a baby while I was in the delivery room, and turns out it wasn't mine.
She was 16, I was 15. All along I was under the impression that this kid was mine, and time to be an adult. Took all the classes, read the books, and worked every night/weekend to save whatever money I could as a 15-year-old.
I finally get the call that she is in labor, so I have somebody rush me to the ER. Luckily for her, it wasn't a long labor, only about 6 hours, but there was a complication. The baby came out with the umbilical cord wrapped around its neck. The doctor assured us it was going to be OK, but the nurses were prepping for things to go south.
Baby comes out, it's a light shade of purple, and the nurses immediately take the baby and put on the smallest mask you have ever seen, to help it get oxygen I guess. I was too panicked to ask a lot of questions. They state they need to keep the baby on watch overnight, so I stay in the room with the ex.
The next evening, the baby is back in the room with us, and all seems well. The Ex is asleep, and the same nurse from the night before comes into the room and beckons me out. She states that at risk of losing her job, she has to break some harsh news to me, that kid is not mine.
She stated that while at this stage it wasn't obvious, over the next few weeks it would become clear this kid was mixed, and since both of us were white, it was a high probability that it wasn't mine.
Queue a mixed bag of emotions, and me promptly waking the ex to get a little clarification. Come to find out, she knew the chances and was just hoping it was mine because it worked better for her.
Apparently, her father was an old-school racist and she didn't want to have to deal with that. I left the hospital to collect my thoughts, and a few weeks later was served with child support papers. One DNA test and about 6 weeks later, I am 0.0% that kid's father.
Wherever that nurse is now, I hope your life is amazing. I understand that you were not supposed to get involved in the personal side of things, and keep it professional, but you saved me a lot of additional headaches.
Nope_Thats_Not_Me
45. Truth Untold
My fiancé's mom is a labor and delivery nurse. One time she had a patient whose parents were present during her stay at the hospital. The staff there have a whiteboard with some general information about the patients like blood type, time spent in the wing, and how far along. This information is nameless for HIPAA reasons and instead has a patient's number.
So this patient happened to be the only one in the wing at the time. Her father was walking back from the cafeteria at one point and noticed the board. He stopped one of the nurses and asked if the blood type for the patient on the board was correct (he knew his daughter was the only patient there). It was B+. The nurse confirmed it was correct.
Turns out he knew his and his wife's blood type. He was O+ and his wife was A-. This combination will never yield a B+ baby. He brings his wife out and just points at the board and this look of shock washes over her.
ljb423