1. My sister was the bridezilla
I was my sister’s maid of honor. During peak planning time, our aunt - her godmother - passed away. I kept trying to get in touch with my sister all day.
When I finally reached her, I explained I had been trying to speak with her all day to let her know our aunt had died.
I got blasted about how busy she was, and then she ripped into me about where I stood with my tasks.
She was pretty dreadful on the day of the wedding too. The best was two years later. I’m getting married and she’s screaming at me over the phone how I didn’t help her, forced her to buy a dress she didn’t want, and let her florist ruin her flowers. We’re not close.
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2. Reaction after forgetting the bride’s shoes
I sometimes work for a wedding planner at the event.
There was one wedding that I was working at that was humming along right on schedule. But about 45 minutes before the ceremony was supposed to begin, a bridesmaid grabbed me in a panic and told me the bride had forgotten her shoes.
She told me that the bride absolutely needed her shoes.
So I asked where they were, and she told me they were about an hour away. The wedding planner talked to the bride and told her that no one would notice if she didn’t wear her shoes.
The bride pitched a fit and made an uncle drive and get them. It took him about 2.5 hours to get them. The whole time, we tried to convince the bride to start the ceremony, but she refused.
The worst part was that her family came from another country and didn’t really speak English so they had no idea what was going on at first. They got super restless and some people even left.
We told the bride that people were leaving and she didn’t care, she just wanted her shoes. Everything was delayed by about an hour and a half. People were pissed. By the time the reception rolled around about 50% of the people left the venue.
YouHadMeAtTaco
3. Getting in-laws involved in the wedding planning
I was helping a friend plan her wedding. We literally had everything planned and had called in favors with friends to do everything at cost. She also had personally asked my mom to officiate.
This was going to be gorgeous, and I did nothing without her. She was in on the entire thing, as she should be.
Her inlaws got involved and she started saying yes to everything they were saying without telling me. They then started asking me to ask my friends to do it all for free or give them a bigger deal than just the cost.
When I pushed back on the price, suddenly I was making her wedding all about me and being made out to be a nutjob.
My friend didn't even take the time to tell my mom that she had found a catholic deacon to marry them.
Mind you, she's Muslim and the groom converted from Catholicism to Islam to marry her in another ceremony so someone lied about their faith here. I found out 2nd hand, 4 days before the wedding.
I canceled everything but the caterer because that was a favor my boyfriend had called in and decided to keep only because his buddy needed the money.
She bought fake flowers and the ceremony was a train wreck. She got the Aisle 5 wedding she paid for and I got to save money on a dress.
scoobledooble314159
4. I witnessed the wedding cake falling off
The bride and her mother insisted that the mom make the wedding cake.
This was the wedding the week before ours at the venue we used for our reception. They included the cake as part of the package but these folks insisted on their own.
The wedding planner at the hall, who did all the planning stuff for all the weddings held there, told them that you need to include a stand in the middle of the cake for support if you are going to use a wedding cake topper.
The mother insisted she knew what she was doing and that her three cakes piled on top of each other were sturdy enough to support the large figurine cake topper.
FF to them setting up the reception, which we were there for in part as we had a meeting with the planner about final arrangements for our wedding.
The whole time we were meeting, the planner kept apologizing for having trouble focusing because she kept looking past my then-fiance and me over at the cake thinking it was looking off.
We were wrapping up our meeting when suddenly she screamed and bolted out of her chair. The topper had collapsed through the three layers of cake then through the front leaving the entire front of the cake a pile of crumbs with frosting.
I never found out how that mess got fixed because my fiance and I got the hell out of there.
daphydaphne
5. Multitasking roles as a sister, planner, and maid of honor
I was my sister's maid of honor and unpaid wedding planner. She was a Bridezilla.
Not only did I plan her wedding shower and had to put in for a super expensive gift, and an all-expense weekend in NYC (I was a college student!), but she also wanted a private gift from me, from her super expensive registry where I couldn't afford a damn spoon.
Everything had to be perfect and meticulously planned, right down to our toes, weight, and how much we ate and drank. She's a micromanager by personality as it was.
She also had the worst bridesmaids.
So bad, that only one showed up (besides me) to the bachelorette party, me and one other, and a friend, the NYC trip. That left three people paying for this nightmare, and again, I'm in college.
Two had an excuse, at least. One was pregnant, one lived in California. One didn't show up because we wouldn't do what she wanted as activities.
While I appreciated the suggestions, her idea of an appropriate party and what my sister would be comfortable with were two different things.
Also, the mother-in-law made things much worse.
The marriage didn't even last three months.
NormalNobody
6. Unwelcomed Aunt
We had a ‘guestzilla’.
The older aunt of the bride showed up wearing a white lace gown. She told the groom she didn’t want him in the group picture because it was only for “family”.
When the caterer put aside the top tier of the cake and put it in a box for the bride a groom to have on their first anniversary, she began to pick off and eat the icing with her fingers.
rsauchuck
7. Complete nightmare
I used to work weddings in college. I worked one that was a complete nightmare. The bride and groom were from NYC and got married in the south. He was her boss at a Fox News show.
When I first saw them I legit thought he was her dad. The entire night she kept yelling at him, telling him to leave conversations she was having with her friends. She was just awful to him.
Not to mention their wedding colors were pink and green. And I mean bright pink.
They paid thousands of dollars to have a pink tented ceiling and their bridesmaid dresses were these ugly hot pink designer dresses. I think each one cost $900.
This wedding all around was between $300,000 - $350,000 at least. They had a man in a jet pack dressed in a tux fly over the reception, land to a string quartet playing the James Bond theme song, and took a sip of a martini. That cost like $13k. He was a pretty interesting guy if you can imagine.
I sometimes wonder if the couple is still together. I’m assuming not.
belbomontage
8. The jealous best friend
I planned my own wedding and surprisingly one of my best friends since high school who was a bridesmaid was the worst.
At my rehearsal dinner and the day of my wedding, she spent the majority of the time complaining to my other bridesmaids that her foot hurt and that she wasn't involved enough.
I gave everyone simple tasks and they were evenly distributed, didn't ask too much or too little of any one person. Later she told me she thought that it was too "all about me" which it really wasn't.
Oh, and it was my wedding day so it very well could have been. She was just whining a lot.
thekimstar
9. Reception at a parking lot
My friend is an events coordinator, one of the few privileged to host at a fancy, remote Californian resort. It takes celebrities for 2-3k per night but doesn't have any big party spaces. Events are held in the fields, and rich folk enjoy the rustic vibe.
This reception was to be held in July, on a Sunday, in the parking lot.
My Friend ordered rolls of artificial turf grass to cover the asphalt. The Bride gets buyer's remorse and cancels the turf a couple of weeks before the wedding.
On the wedding day, she comes to my friend fuming "This is an actual parking lot, with lines and everything!!"
The first few people my friend called hung up on her. Finally, someone quotes her an absurd price to load up all of their rolls of (real) turf grass, drive the hour to the resort, and set it up. My friend doubled the price she quoted the bride.
The bride doesn't bat an eye. And that was how I got paid $20/hr to intermittently water turf grass in a parking lot.
Queenpunkster
10. The inconsiderate bride
I do wedding planning on the side and offered to help a friend. They’ve been engaged for about a month now and the wedding is in a year.
I literally just had a pretty invasive surgery about five hours ago and the lady sends a “You ok?” text, and as I’m typing my response, starts prattling on about what she wants to do for her wedding plans in a year.
My recovery isn’t expected to be long but like and I know it’s exciting and all. But, at least wait until I respond.
HashtagAvocado
11. Shotgun wedding
I know a woman who was a caretaker for a public park that also had a wedding venue. They had a variety of stories but the craziest was when the groom got up on stage, ripped off his shirt to reveal his white supremacy tattoos, shouting "This is who I am" to the bride's family.
They get in a fight and one of the bride's family members pulls out a shotgun and marches the nazi out to the parking lot. I don't know how many got arrested but it was a shitshow.
stormycloudysky
12. Overcharging for hotels
A guy I know got married recently and the bride’s mum was the worst. Four out of six of the bridesmaids never spoke to the bride again and two didn’t even attend the wedding due to her behavior at the hen party.
Micromanaged everything, was abusive and controlling throughout and to make matters worse she overcharged everyone for hotels so it would cover her costs.
Ginginhoo
13. Zit on the forehead
The last wedding I ever did as a wedding photographer, the bride had a huge zit on her forehead, which was just ruining everything. It was the end of the world. So, thinking I was being generous, I zapped it off in all of the photos in Photoshop.
Cut to a few weeks later after I delivered them, I got an irate phone call saying that she couldn't believe I would edit off a zit.
She wanted to remember the day as it was, not how it should have been. So I went through and restored all the zits... Weddings are too emotionally fraught to mix with business.
beatsnbanjos
14. High expectations from a low-budget
The bride tried to have a 50k wedding on a 5k budget and did everything last minute. She didn’t like her officiant and fired him the week before the wedding, and then didn't realize how difficult it was going to be to find one last minute.
She ended up having to get married by a Justice of the Peace (JP) the day before the wedding and had a friend officiate the wedding and act like it was all real! The whole wedding was a joke, and people left by 8 p.m. after the cake. The whole wedding was over by 10 p.m.
TEA-in-the-G
15. Drunk groom
I've catered to functions, but one time we got a wedding reception where the groom and his pack of guys turned up stinking drunk already, and spent the whole time harassing the staff. The bride didn't look happy.
They brought a bunch of children but hadn't planned on how to cater to them, and I later learned some of the kids hadn't eaten all day because their parents were "busy", so they were tired and crying.
The party wasted loads of food because they clearly hadn't got each guest's options right (meat/fish/veg, three courses), and left a huge mess, as well as used drug needles in our men's toilet.
sofyflo
16. Relationship of convenience
Maid of honor here. I've been a bridesmaid at 4 weddings and this particular one was going to be my 5th time being in the wedding party but my first time as a Maid of Honor. I am so glad it didn't happen.
She and I had been close friends since college and she and her fiance had been high school sweethearts. He was a trust fund baby and she had absent parents. He finally popped the question close to their 10-year anniversary, and within a couple of weeks, she had assembled her bridal party.
I was deeply touched that she wanted me to be her MoH and I accepted her request. I was in charge of the general wrangling duties that come with being the MoH.
Things started out incredibly fun and I enjoyed helping her out. But as the date got closer and closer, she descended into the pit and became a full-fledged bridezilla.
I ended up having to hunt around a ton of the Los Angeles bridal shops to track down the exact bridal outfit for her.
She wanted a particular dress, with a specific shape, construction, bust line, fabric, and color, and she wanted some super-specific accessories to go with it.
She would leave me messages saying that I had to go to specific shops on specific days and would get annoyed when I placed my job priorities ahead of her wedding details.
She is Vegan and I mean, heavily Vegan.
The menu eventually changed into one that had no options for non-Vegans, despite the majority of the guests being omnivores.
Whenever I'd bring it up to her, she'd reply with "Well, they should know better because it's my wedding. They don't have to eat if they don't like it."
The wedding was to take place at a gorgeous retreat in the mountains just outside of LA. She was so hellbent on it that they put down a hefty non-refundable deposit right away.
Since it was up in the mountains, I knew that we wouldn't have easy access to non-vegan establishments should we get hungry, and my partner especially, is a carnivore.
Bride had planned on the wedding party staying in a cabin house that they were going to rent for the occasion so I figured it wouldn't hurt to ask if we could bring our own food to make.
When I ran this by her, she abruptly told me, "Hell no you can't bring that shit inside my cabin. You better find a way to take the microwave and nuke that shit outside because no freaking way am I gonna let the cabin smell like meat."
At that point, I was ready to be done.
They had a trip to some hipster music festival coming up so I made up my mind to use that time away from her to come up with a good way to remove myself from the situation. No need for that, as it turns out.
They came back from the trip with their engagement dissolved.
Apparently, they came to the realization that they didn't really love each other and that it was just a relationship of convenience. Felt a little bad, but at the same time relieved. I don't know who broached it first but I have my guesses.
She promptly moved out of his house and ended up losing all her financial support. She seemed shocked at this result. This was how I found out that he and his parents were basically bankrolling her.
Our friendship kept rolling downhill from there. She kept morphing into some other girl who wasn't the girl I became friends with.
KamikazeMizZ
17. The bride hated her mother
My husband was a wedding photographer for many years so he has seen some doozies. The one I remember him telling me that the Bride hated her Mother and wasn't going to invite her to the wedding but was coerced into it by others in the family.
Comes the wedding day my hubby is taking at-home pics before leaving for the Church, The bride pulls him aside and says "I do not want any pictures of my Mother taken today, none at all. If you set up family shots and she is there just let the flash off and do not take her picture.”
My hubby couldn't bring himself to do it and took all the pictures and figured the bride could tear them up if she wanted later.
Bishopnotaliens
18. Groom’s demonstration
Wedding musician here. I was playing a jazz gig at the reception, and during our first break, the groom decided to treat everyone to a demonstration of his heavy metal drumming skills.
Our drummer had to be physically restrained from decking him, while the groom was outraged to learn that he wasn't allowed to muck about on the kit. I mean, it was his wedding.
MisterMarmalade
19. The groom was hot at his wedding
I was at my best friend from high school's wedding. I have known them both for decades. During the speeches at the start of the dinner, he started freaking out about how hot it was.
It started as a small commotion, but eventually, he was yelling at the top of his lungs that it was his wedding and he was too damn hot. He starts tearing off his suit jacket like it's strangling him.
The speeches stopped, and everyone had to get up and open the side walls of the tent (outdoor wedding).
Everyone just sits there in awkward silence until the wedding party returns to the table.
Groom says, "Good, it's my wedding and I was too hot," smiles, sits down, and nods to the MC like that was a totally normal thing to do. Alcohol wasn't involved either - that was a totally sober decision on his part.
Also, the only wedding I have ever been to where the bride just looked sad the whole time. All in all, it was a very depressing wedding.
CaptainBacon_eh
20. A food problem
I used to be an event coordinator. We had one groomzilla who sat down at the menu tasting and immediately said, "This salad dressing won't do. This one is too runny and this one is too thick."
It was completely standard Italian and Ranch dressing. The entire rest of the wedding planning went like that.
bebemochi
21. Unreasonable demands from the groom
My sister asked me to be her maid of honor. To be quite honest my sister and I never really got along well, but I figured it would be the right thing to do given the fact that I'm her only sister.
So her fiance doesn't have many friends (big shock there) so he asks my SO to be one of his groomsmen. My SO loves me very much so I know he accepted mostly for my sake.
Fast forward a bit and the Groomzilla decides he's going to pick out a rental for the guys without discussing the price with them first. So he ends up picking a rental that's $200. Now maybe that might not be a lot for some of you but for my SO it was a lot.
My SO told him that it was too much and if there was a possibility that they could discuss another option. Groomzilla ignored his calls and texts.
A month passes and my SO decides he's going to wear a tux that looks almost exactly like the one Groomzilla picked out that he already owns and that he would rent just the accessories to match.
He texted Groomzilla and told him that's what he did and all of a sudden he responded with "Lol, are you kidding me?! This is my wedding and everyone is supposed to match." you don't get to wear what you feel like".
He calls my SO and tells him that it is now his fault that he has to pay $800 for his tux because he was supposed to get a discount when the groomsmen rented their suits.
My SO told him if it was that important to him that he should have discussed the price with them and also he shouldn't have ignored his calls when he tried to talk to him about it.
Well, he got all kinds of nasty on the phone and hung up. One hour later he texts him "You are no longer a groomsman". So now my sister thinks we're the devil because Groomzilla of course twisted the truth in his favor.
I told my sister I made a promise to her and if she still wanted me there I would go the the church however, I could not go to the reception without my partner because it would feel awkward for me.
She said she would call me back to tell me if she wanted me there or not... that was a month ago and I still haven't heard from her.
He has also managed to email me twice telling me what a terrible sister I am and that he never kicked my SO out of the wedding. He's managed to lose 2 groomsmen and his best man so far because he's so terrible.
Beanerette
22. The groom wants to supervise plans from another country
My sister's husband wanted to be involved in every little detail of the wedding. I think that's great, but the problem is that he lives in another country.
He didn't want to hire the florist until he could see his work directly, but he was arriving in our country one week before the wedding.
Also, he wanted to see and approve what the flower girls were wearing.
Finally, he got upset because my sister didn't want to pay extra so he could have a photo shoot while getting ready for the wedding. He made his parents take a few pictures and made sure those pictures were included in the photo album.
Lis_9
23. The worst wedding I ever planned
I had this client book me for a day two weeks before the actual wedding. I regret taking it to this day.
She had no transportation planned to take her home at the end of the night. I asked her repeatedly what her plan was and she told me she just wouldn't drink and planned to drive to her honeymoon spot. She never told me where it was even though I kept asking.
Fast forward two weeks. A massive tornado just went through the DC/VA/MD area the day before her wedding and power lines and trees were blocking every entrance to the highway to her wedding in the boonies of Maryland.
I got up early to deal with the issues at the venue, like no electricity on a 100-degree day. I got a call from her around 6 am saying she realized she needed transportation now. Fine, I'll find it. One last question, where is this mystery honeymoon spot?
It was hours away in West Virginia. I call every D.C. and Maryland-based limo company and beg them to find someone to drive into the Maryland countryside at 11 pm and then take them to West Virginia.
Finally, someone relented and I called the bride to tell her the price. Complete Meltdown. Well, you requested that at the last minute and you're going to pay whatever they want to charge you.
The wedding itself was a complete shitshow. The bride hated her hair and makeup and made it very well known to me, even though she had personally booked the stylist.
As it was 100 degrees and the blazing July sun, the original unshaded area was going to be terrible for the ceremony. I suggested we move it for her comfort and the comfort of her guests to the beautiful area with a centuries-old tree.
She refused, but as guests arrived they did nothing but complain. I decided to move the ceremony to make everyone happy. It was a one-hour traditional Jewish ceremony and in no good mind would I let people suffer in the sun.
After the ceremony, I had to wait outside the bridal suite while the couple had a bedding ceremony. Something I never want to witness again. The said ceremony went way over thus extending cocktail hour and shortening the reception.
The bride freaked out that she lost out on dancing time because of it and blamed it on me.
At the end of the night during clean up, the MOB started throwing decor in her car rather than let my team do the load out. As soon as she left, I noticed my emergency kit was nowhere to be found.
I called the MOB and she claimed she never saw it, even though it was next to the decor we had started to pile up.
The next week I got a call from the venue saying they saw a car throw a bag out of their window onto the steps of the venue and then speed away. Alas, it was my bag and I had to drive over 90 min to go fetch it, even though the MOB and bride lived super close to me and had my address.
To top it all off, I got a heat stroke and my poor assistant had to drive us home at midnight.
MorallyCorruptBae
24. Floating cakes
I work at a bakery and part of my job is to help pair couples with the correct designer for their cake.
One bride wanted a cake large enough to feed 500 and she wanted it to float. This multi-tiered cake was going to be filled with fresh berries and custard, covered with buttercream and fondant, and decorated with edible flowers and more fresh fruit.
And she wanted us to somehow defy the laws of gravity/physics and make it float.
Apparently, she had seen a floating cake in an anime show and decided nothing else was acceptable. When I told her we couldn't make floating cakes, she threw her coffee on the floor and cried that we were ruining her wedding.
Her fiance ushered her out the door and I never saw either of them again.
anonymousmousegirl
25. Wedding in the rain
It was an outside ceremony at a golf course, with an inside reception. About an hour before the ceremony, the skies went dark, and storm clouds began rolling in.
I tell my outdoor brides we need to call the wedding no later than 30 min in advance so we have time to move guests indoors, as well as any other items (flowers, etc).
In this case, the bride had a beautiful indoor location that was easily used for both ceremony and reception. Which is why there was no tent.
I suggest to the bride that she move her ceremony inside. She says no. She wants it outside.
I show her the clouds. "It's Seattle, she says. There are always clouds." Well yes, but these are storm clouds and you have 200 people sitting outside on a golf course...
She won't budge. No amount of reasoning is helping.
20 minutes to the ceremony it starts to get windy. Nothing big yet, but this is just more signs that wet weather is upon us.
She still won't reconsider. Several guests are seated outside. Many hover inside the reception area because it's cold out now. I tell her this. Tell her last call. Warn her what happens if it rains during the ceremony. She still wants it outside.
The Ceremony begins. It starts to sprinkle. Bridesmaids are getting wet as they walk down the aisle. Shoes are sinking into the grass. Guests are looking worried.
The Bride walks down the aisle just as big wind gusts begin. Rain starts to fall in earnest. Guests try and use umbrellas but it is just too gusty.
We aren't even five minutes into the ceremony when the heavens suddenly open and it pours. Guests start screeching and start moving inside. The ceremony is still happening for the bride, but guests are bailing. Musicians grab their instruments and head inside.
The bridal party continues to stand there like nothing is happening, much like the band on the Titanic.
There are maybe 20 guests left. Everyone else has bailed. It is an open downpour; anyone left is just soaked.
The officiant is rushing now; though there isn't really anyone left to witness vows. Before they got to the kiss, the lightning began. At that point, they finally bailed.
The bride and bridal party spent the reception looking like drowned rats. The bride was just ruined. Runny makeup, hair smushed. She had rashes on her skin from being wet all night. Wet lace and heavy ball gowns are not easily worn wet.
All the decor that was meant to move inside following the ceremony was ruined; thousands of dollars on flowers and centerpieces down the drain. Literally.
And in the end, hardly anyone witnessed the ceremony at all, and they didn't even get to finish.
MrsRossGeller
26. Faulty wedding car
It was my brother's wedding, and I was one of the bridesmaids for my sister-in-law.
We were taking all those cute, typical pre-wedding photos between the bride and her bridesmaid, and her and her parents, when we realized that only the bridesmaids' transport had arrived and that the car for her and her dad was stuck somewhere.
She called up to find out what was happening and proceeded to scream at the poor guy who was stuck somewhere in the middle of nowhere.
Her skin erupted in a red sort of rash that was visible on her chest, and her arms, and she screamed that she was not going to get married if she couldn't go in the car she paid for.
Half an hour went by. No car for her.
We suggested she just come with us. We had a Volkswagen c2 wedding decorated van and had plenty of space for her and her parents.
Her response? "No, I can't turn up this late to my wedding. I'm not getting married!"
After a tense 10 minutes, she got in our van, and we continued with the wedding day.
ThePotatoCouncil
27. Kicked out three days before the wedding
My best friend asked me to be her maid of honor. My daughter was a flower girl and my son was the ring bearer. She has been emotionally all over the place and I really wanted her to have the perfect day.
The closer it got to the wedding, the more irrational she became and Bridezilla was coming out more and more. She was unpredictable and irrational but I gave her 100% support and bit my tongue more than I ever had.
So last Wednesday morning we went to pick up her wedding dress. She was stressed out really needed my support. We were just a couple blocks from David's Bridal when my oldest son called me.
He just got a text from his girlfriend that she had just given birth and was on her way to the hospital. My son was in between classes and was jumping on a bus to get to the hospital.
She was 35 weeks pregnant and delivering breech alone at home. Nobody had any idea what happened or how mom and baby were doing.
I had just enough time to call my husband and let him know what just happened before we pulled into David's Bridal. I was about half an hour away and had a job to do. We were getting her into her dress and it wasn't fitting so she was very upset.
I was in shock and wasn't able to give her 100% of my attention and support. We had an hour to kill while they let out the dress (for the second time) and I was just trying to figure out what was going on with the baby.
Anyway, she dropped me off when the dress was done and I could tell that she was upset. Nothing new. About half an hour later I got a text from her saying that she was upset with me because I knew how much she needed my support and I wasn't there for her.
She said that I had been a horrible maid of honor and she didn't think that I would be able to support her on her wedding day and kicked me out three days before the wedding.
I was taken aback by her selfishness and very hurt. Then I had to tell my younger kids that we were no longer in the wedding.
She texted me the day after the wedding to say that we both said things in anger and hopefully, we can move past it and be friends again. I know that I deserve an honest apology from her and none of this "we both said things." I was pissed off.
At the same time, our friendship ended so suddenly and I feel like I have a big hole inside. Even though we are on bad terms, it is so hard not to text her pictures of the baby and let her know what's going on.
CJCovington
28. Black shoes
I was a bridesmaid at a wedding and we had to wear black shoes under our floor-length dresses. Right before we left the hotel to head to the church, one of the bridesmaid's shoes broke. Like, the sole of the shoe separated completely from her toe and dangled.
We were trying to find a sewing kit to see if we could rig it but we had to go. We grabbed what we could (the bridesmaid grabbed another pair of heels that were tan) and went to the limo.
We stuffed pins and other things into the shoe to try to make it stay, but one wrong move and the pin would go straight through her toe.
We looked at the bride to show her so she could wear the other shoes and she wanted her to wear the black ones.
Are you kidding me? The walk down that aisle was like 50 yards. She switched shoes without telling the bride, and I was walking in front of her so I made sure to walk as slowly as possible so she could take tiny steps so her shoes wouldn't show.
I know what you're going to say. "Oh, she was prob just worried about the pictures!" Yeah, we were in no pictures once the ceremony ended.
Itsmsheather2u
29. Fake wedding
Let me start off by saying that I was a deacon. Fully empowered to officiate weddings. But no one, in my experience, asks the deacon to do a wedding unless they are a family friend.
So I was a little shocked, and somewhat suspicious when I was approached by this couple. They wanted two things; me to officiate and use our church. They were only two weeks away and their first venue fell through.
Alternatively, they would just like to rent the church and they would have a family friend officiate.
Unless the family friend just happened to be clergy of the same denomination as us the latter wasn't an option.
As I asked more questions I became increasingly uncomfortable with the couple. Something was off. Finally, they came out with it.
The couple had broken up after the invites had been sent. But the bride was not going to be deprived of her special day of being treated like a princess for some technicality like she didn't have a groom.
Deposits were already in place anyway. So they figured they'd throw the big wedding, have the reception, and then go their separate ways.
I asked the groom why he would be participating in this farce. The father of the bride, in an apparent effort to give his special princess her special day, was willing to give the groom the honeymoon tickets/hotel. So he basically got a vacation to show up and look sincere.
The reason why the first venue dropped them was that they didn't want to stage a fake wedding. Neither did we.
VenBede
30. Cheap Bridezilla
We had a woman who wanted everything and wanted it cheap.
We had one of our planners quit suddenly so this woman had to be transferred to another planner, but this was so early in the planning that it really should not have mattered, but the bride thought the stress was enough that she should get everything for free or severely discounted.
Now she and the original planner had preliminary pricing for certain items.
One of the items, a small flower wall, suddenly changed to a 12'x12' flower wall. Not only should the price not be increased for this custom monstrosity, but, we should give it to her for free for the stress.
I am not a pushover and have no pity for those who try to manipulate me, so in the end she rented our wall but had to send pre-made flowers herself, which we would staple to our wall.
She cut most of what we were supposed to provide, saying her family would do it instead. Fine with me, I could tell this was someone we wanted minimal contact with.
The day comes, she is renting chairs from us for the ceremony, and we are setting up the wall and a couple of minor things, as well as stanchions that she rented and arranged, but were in our truck.
The time limits on this space are very tight. It also turns out that this outdoor pavilion became a complete wind tunnel during the time she scheduled. She rented the cheap stanchions, so the wind just knocks them all down.
The wooden chairs are falling over. No way that flower board would stay up, no amount of sandbagging was going to keep that giant wooden sail from crushing the bride during the ceremony.
The family is trying to set up a paper runner and paper deco.
I tried to get this all to work and tried putting the chairs along the runner to hold it down, but apparently, her dress was so big the aisle was too narrow that way. I sit the family down. They know what’s coming, but the bride is the bride and they all fear her reaction.
The family came to the decision that this was not going to work, so I had to prep the restaurant for the reception. I tell them I will take their deco and runway and make use of it there, along with the flower wall.
I went to the restaurant with my crew, made this happen, and went home. I guess we were lucky that the bride was over an hour late for her two-hour set-up-ceremony-tear-down window.
The bride, shockingly, never called to complain about the wall not being at the ceremony, or anything else. I assumed her family talked some sense into her. We did go above and beyond to make what we could work for her.
But what she did do, was tell the restaurant that all deco is donated to them. Including all of our rental items. Luckily the restaurant didn't argue when we said the bride was mistaken and I sent my crew to collect what was ours.
That flower wall was the ugliest thing I had seen in my career. I didn't have my crew wear our logo gear that day, I did not want the company associated with that event, or anyone thinking we designed it.
EventFab
31. The bride didn’t want me to be pregnant at her wedding
My friend is usually easygoing, but she was terrible to me when she was getting married. She was marrying a man who was a friend of my husband. They met because they were both at our wedding party.
I found out I was pregnant with my first just before she announced her wedding date. I was told by my doctors I was unlikely to get pregnant, so it was a huge deal for me. No one knew.
She asked my husband and I to be in the wedding party so we took her and her future husband to dinner and explained we would love to be in her wedding party, but warned her I would be very pregnant at the wedding.
She acted excited at first. Then we went for dresses with the bridesmaids. She made snide comments about me "getting rid of it," so I wouldn't be pregnant at her wedding. I could have another later. I was sick as a dog and trying not to cry.
Also, I am on the larger side and made sure I could order my dress two sizes bigger as it was not very accommodating to a pregnant body. Apparently, the consultant made fun of me for being fat.
I found that out because when my friend tried to defend herself she said she had been defending me. Telling me that only hurt more. They were all going to dinner and I skipped out because I didn't want to be harassed anymore.
Then her bridal shower happened. It was a state over (where we were both from). First off, her maid of honor shook me down for money for the party. We never agreed to that in advance, but I gave in because I wanted to help.
I wanted to help set up, but I got there a little late. I had been really sick all morning and had to drive an hour to get there. My parents drove me and begged me to go home and rest.
I spent half the party in the bathroom vomiting. I still go there early, but a lot of the work has been done. I stayed and cleaned up.
Later, we got into it. At that point, I was done. I had found out there was something wrong with the pregnancy and put on bed rest and I told her I was done being treated like that.
When she tried to say I wasn’t there enough for her party, I explained that I went there when I should have been resting, and even at 7 months pregnant I was helping throughout the party.
I told her my baby was sick and I wasn't going to be putting myself under that kind of stress anymore. That is when she felt awful. I think she finally saw the bigger picture and we made up.
However, I wasn't pregnant for her wedding.
My daughter was born at 29 weeks because she was in distress. We found out she had trisomy 18 and we only had six days with her. The wedding was 8 weeks after she died. We attended but opted out of being in the wedding party.
We left during the father-daughter dance because it was too painful, but at that point, people were more understanding.
Viperbunny
32. Bride said I ruined her day
I was hired to assist with makeup and dressing. I was 8 months pregnant and had to tie the mother sari. So while I was tying the sari, the mother told me that I was doing it wrong and wanted me to do it her way.
I told her that she wouldn't be able to walk if I tied like she requested. She starts to get frustrated, so I tie her sari in the way she wants. This woman doesn't know how to tie a sari, she apparently doesn't wear them.
She comes out and starts screaming and yelling at the wedding planner that I don't know how to tie a sari and now she can't walk. She is in tears! Afterward, the planner takes her away, calms her down, and ties her sari.
This leaves me in the room with the other girls and the bride. The bride turned to me and started saying "You ruined my wedding day! How dare you make my mother cry on this day. You are a horrible person and are ruining the most important day of my life."
I couldn't help but start laughing and I couldn’t stop. It was so dramatic, and it was a sari! Nothing was ruined, I took 10 minutes to fix and the mother wouldn’t listen about how to put one on.
The wedding planner walked in, So the bride started tripping out and screaming "Get out! Get out! I don't want to see your face, you ruined everything" She started to cry.
I laughed even harder and said, "You are in for a surprise in your life if you think a poorly tied sari is the worst thing in the world and you are using it as an excuse to ruin your own day."
I turned to the planner and told her to pay me so I could go home and put my feet up. The wedding planner called me the next week to help with another wedding. I said no.
[deleted]
33. No tattoos before the wedding
My best friend got married two years ago to a bride who insisted that her maid of honor not get any tattoos leading up to the wedding or she would be removed from the wedding party. The reason is "because she will ruin the wedding photos with her tattoos."
The maid of honor wanted to get a quarter sleeve from her shoulder to mid-biceps.
She had been planning this tattoo for months when this ultimatum was levied over a year before the actual wedding date (a very long engagement period of around 2+ years).
I could understand her stance if she didn't have several tattoos already (none visible while in her dress though). Which made her look like a huge hypocrite to everyone else. This was just one of many awkward moments at that wedding.
nice_and_unaware
34. The bride lashed out at her wedding
I worked at a wedding where the bride and groom were hippy potheads and the groom's father was the chief of the local police and they were all from the same little town.
One side of the room was a sea of cops, the other was dread-locked, patchouli-wearing, barefooted hippies.
After dinner was over, the entire hippy crowd went outside and stood in a huge circle and smoked mass amounts of weed while the cops looked on with utter disgust on their faces. It was epic.
The bride was on pills and came to when she caught wind that someone was planning an after-party without her approval, and she didn't like that one bit.
She started screaming at the top of her lungs "Where is she??", over and over again while she stormed around in search of her victim.
When she found the girl, who was a bridesmaid, she proceeded to freak out on her in the middle of the dance floor, in front of 300+ people. The bridesmaid started to cry and the bride completely lost her mind.
All anyone could do was stare with our mouths hung wide open in disbelief. The words that came out of that bride were some of the absolute worst known to mankind. Several people tried to step in, but the bride lashed out at everyone.
It was the single most disgusting thing I've ever seen. The girl ran off and the bride proceeded to pass out on a couch in the bathroom.
Hippydippy420
35. Problem deciding on wedding theme
So there was this huge wedding I was planning. I had two other dudes from a different company helping because it was that big.
The groom wanted this big huge Hawaiian-themed wedding, with sand on the floor. Guests are to wear flip-flops and Hawaiian shirts. The bride wanted a classic white wedding. The groom said it was too traditional.
Long story short, the bride lost it. She became very angry. Since our office was getting renovated we had a few builders resting here and there. Literally destroyed the place. It was Godzilla-like.
Igotdreamsbro
36. Drunk bride
The bride got trashed at their afterparty (not really a reception because they eloped) then came back to the hotel late at night and cussed out her new husband loudly enough that I could hear it downstairs: “You will never be accepted into my life.”
The next morning she was horribly hungover and rude to everyone. Fast forward a week and she got angry that the photographer made her look fat in her pictures. But that wasn’t it, she was just fat.
backpackbuddhabowl
37. Self-centered bride
The bride-to-be took us (the maid of honor, another bridesmaid, and myself) out to pick out dresses. The bride's mother and the groom's mother also came at her insistence.
We (the bridesmaids) arrived at the dress shop only to find that the bride, her mom, and the groom's mom had already picked out the dress she wanted us to wear for the wedding when they'd bought her wedding dress a few weeks prior.
Ok, that's fine in theory, but we had been under the impression we'd get to pick our own dresses. Whatever, it's her wedding. But when we try the dresses on, we realize that it doesn't really look good on two of us because we're all different frames and sizes.
We come out and show the bride and two moms, and the moms are in agreement that this dress really doesn't work. The bride, however, is very upset that we don't all magically look great in the same dress.
She starts making snide, subtle comments about our appearances. She started implying that we'd need to lose weight to look good in them, and telling one of the other girls how she'd need a pushup bra to look "normal."
The moms ignore the bride's attitude and flag down an employee to help us find some alternatives. We're in a small city, so their selection isn't the best, but the employee finds at least half a dozen other dresses that come in the color the bride wants.
We try them all on, but because we vary so much in body types, most of them don't look good on one or all of us (strapless ones look bad on the busty girls, the long dresses don't fit right on the short ones, etc.).
The bride continues to make comments about our bodies.
Finally, the last dress we tried on was generic enough that it looked fine on all of us. The bride doesn't like it because it doesn't make us look sexy enough.
To make matters worse (in her eyes) the dress has pockets.
She absolutely does not want her bridesmaids to have pockets.
At this point, every single one of us is happy with this choice except her. She reluctantly agrees to let us pick that dress but is very clearly not happy.
So then we go to pick out shoes. The bride tells us we will be wearing the same shoes as her but in a different color. Weird, but again, we try not to argue with her.
When we try them on, though, there is a snag in her plans. I have very small feet (technically a 3 in kids, though some size 5 shoes will fit). The heels she wants are sky-high and strapless. When I put them on and try to walk, my feet keep slipping out.
They're also open-toed, so I can't really stuff the front like I've done in the past. To top it off, just standing in them to try them on, I find the front is absolutely killing my feet. I tell her this, and she watches me try to walk in them only to have them flop off.
Her mom asks if they come in a smaller size, but they're fancy stripper shoes, so no, they obviously don't make them to fit kids.
The bride's solution? "Once you start to wear them, your feet will swell and they'll fit then," and walks off. The bride's mom assures me that we'll figure out something and buys all of our dresses and shoes as condolences.
I never got to know how that would have worked out though because the bride and groom simultaneously cheated on each other, so they called off the wedding. The bride didn't even have the nerve to tell me herself; I had to hear it from the maid of honor.
We are no longer friends, and it's sad to me now that this wasn't even the reason why. I can't believe I let someone treat me, and other people she called friends, like that.
gildedheart
38. The bride got angry because of her teen-mom sister
It was my cousin's (groom) wedding and he was marrying this girl whom no one, except his sister, liked. The girl hated everything about everyone and liked to be vocal about those things.
So, halfway through the reception, I was super bored since I didn't want to be there and only went because my mother insisted. The place is very awkward, no one is dancing and the bride is having a screaming contest with her dad outside.
I notice a very young woman sitting at the bride's family table, holding a baby and talking to some guy. I didn't notice her before since the baby was very quiet during the entire ceremony and they sat at the back.
I recognize that woman as the bride's seventeen-year-old sister who was a teen mom and the guy, I assume and later learn, is her boyfriend and baby daddy. They were still together.
The bride comes back, looks at her sister angrily, then marches her way to the groom's family where she proceeds to talk badly about how her sister was stupid and irresponsible, getting pregnant at fifteen (had the baby at sixteen), and how her baby daddy was a complete drunk and useless person.
She is talking so loudly that her sister, the guy, and everyone is hearing her, the music is very low.
The sister starts crying quietly, hugging the baby who is now anxious, the guy looks ready to kill the bride (and he hadn't touched a single glass of alcohol), the bride's father seems angry and the bride's mother goes to her sister to try to comfort her.
Then bride talks about how her sister is stealing her thunder, making the day all about herself and her mistakes. The bride's father goes to talk to her again, I realize then what they were arguing about, and the guy goes to his girlfriend to comfort her as well.
The bride left to "calm herself" but everyone can hear her having a tantrum outside. The guy and sister said their goodbyes to her family and a few friends and went home, with the sister still crying and the guy still comforting her.
I later learned that the sister and the guy actually work when they are not at school to pay for the baby's fees. The bride was always jealous of her sister because she was the "baby and the favorite daughter."
The bride and her sister are no longer on speaking terms because of other reasons.
pandizzy
39. Bride didn’t want her disabled brother’s wife at the wedding
At my sister's wedding, part of the reception was held indoors, in an area that isn't wheelchair accessible. My disabled wife and I had to miss out on that part of it. We found out about it on the day, minutes before that part of the wedding was due to start.
A little while after, we realize that there actually is a way to get into the area, we just need to go through an inside room that had been set up with tables for dinner. I found my sister and asked them to ask the staff to let us through.
My sister forbade us from going through the room, saying she didn't want anyone going into it until it was dinnertime, essentially leaving my wife and I sitting alone outside while she and her friends had a chocolate fountain & open bar.
I was very close to giving her a loud piece of my mind and bailing on the wedding.
kahlzun
40. Music planning
The all-time stand-out for Bridezilla was when the couple came together for a music-planning meeting in the organ loft.
For the Processional, the groom-to-be said, "I want 'Here Comes the Bride." She said, "I'm not coming when you want."
They had to argue about the music selection for a while.
Eventually, they settled at my suggestion on "Trumpet Voluntary."
[deleted]
41. Wedding Renewal
It was my aunt Twyla's wedding renewal. She ordered makeup artists, hairdressers, and even a team to set up where the party would be taking place.
The hairdressers and makeup artists specifically were for her four sisters, four cousins, and an extra three cousins from her husband's side of the family.
The only people who let the makeup artist and hairdresser fix them up hours before the renewal wedding were myself, my mom, Jackie (my aunt's sister), my little sister, and my aunt herself. The other members wanted to do it all themselves for some reason.
When we all arrived at the party, the other women who rejected the offer showed up with no makeup (pimples) and nappy hair.
My aunt stressed on the spot and blew up in their faces.
Jackie, my mom, the makeup artist, and even the hairdresser got mad at the ones who rejected.
There was a whole hour left and they weren't ready! The makeup and hairdresser would've been doing it without them having to pay because it was all coming from my aunt's pocket but no, they wanted to "do it themselves."
Although my aunt was a bridezilla, she had every right to be. A lot of my family members are kind of morons.
MarieLuminous
42. Glimpse of the relationship
I have a Groomzilla.
I was the office manager/assistant for a photographer during weddings - I went along with her on wedding days to be an extra set of hands and help gather everyone for portraits.
The bride and groom were doing a 'first look' (which I highly recommend!) before the ceremony.
How that works is the bride comes up behind the groom, taps him on the shoulder, and he turns around to see her in all bridal, they smile and kiss, and get couples/wedding party/family portraits out of the way before the ceremony, so you're free to spend more time enjoying your reception instead of ducking out to take pics.
It's great because you get an up-close picture of the groom’s reaction to seeing his bride, which is harder to get in a church/ceremony. Everyone stands up when they see the bride, and if you miss the shot, there's no recreating that look on his face.
Anyway. So they're doing their first look downtown, and the groom has been on a party bus with the groomsman for a few hours while she's getting ready in the hotel. They were all hammered, like couldn't focus their eyes when I went to grab the groom for the first look.
I asked him to please set his beer down for the pictures, and he rolled his eyes but complied. She comes up behind him, already trying not to cry and smiling as big as the sun. She taps him on the shoulder, he turns around…
Instead of looking at her, his eyes immediately search for the beer, which he set on a window sill.
He reaches around her, grabs the beer, and takes a long drink while finally looking at her. He put the beer down. Burped. In her face. And said "You look nice" before spinning around and heading back to the bus.
I followed after him as the photographer is standing there stunned, and I'm like "Hey, Mike, you still have a bunch of portraits to take before we get the guys off the bus..." and just as he turned around to answer me, she threw her bouquet and hit him in the chest.
He grabbed it and whipped it into the middle of a very busy street and stormed onto the bus. She follows him screaming, I follow behind her but I can't get around her without stepping on the dress.
Another drunk groomsman is coming back on the bus, trying to get around both of us, bumps me aside, steps on her dress, ripping part of the train and sending both of us stumbling backward.
He dodges the falling bride, I don't, and I kind of catch her and keep her mostly upright but we both tumble off the bus. I can feel her dress ripping more in my hand as she's trying to right herself.
The guys on the bus are all laughing hysterically including the groom. I have tears in my eyes because I just landed on my tailbone and my palm is scraped from breaking my fall.
All I'm thinking is 'Don't touch the dress, don't get blood on her dress, just get her standing up.'
Groom tells the bus driver through his laughter "Just go. Just go man, she can meet us at the church." I meet eyes with the bus driver and I just kinda shake my head no, and the groom sees me. "She's not paying you, I am! Do you want a $100 tip? Drive now."
The bus driver left. The bride was hysterical. I drove her to the church. They still got married an hour later. I drank myself silly when I got home that night. Just checked Facebook, still married 3 years later.
rumpie
43. Freaking out at the menu change
I went to a friend's wedding where the bridezilla was not on speaking terms with her soon-to-be mother-in-law.
Apparently, the mother-in-law made some change to a steak sauce or something, and my friend freaked out yelling and made her brother go and get her a Lunchable from the grocery store.
She ate a lunchable at the main table of the reception. The marriage lasted about a year.
kbeez4
44. Bridezilla first then divorce
Sarah was horrible to her mother Dora during her whole wedding process. Dora took the terrible abuse like a champ. From Sarah having tantrums over the dress to Sarah wanting her mother to dye her hair the night before the wedding.
Dora paid for over half of the wedding and tried to calm tensions between Sarah and suppliers. She did all this with the patience of a saint, after all, Sarah is her only daughter and the first of her kids to get married.
Then my wedding day comes, I am marrying Sarah's brother. I wanted to get hitched but my husband wanted a wedding, so we compromised and had a small wedding with only 10 people including us.
Sarah shows up late and is spiteful to my family, our guests, and to Dora her mother. So finally after 20 minutes of her making a spectacle of herself, Sarah then loudly starts complaining about how the professional photographer doesn't know what she's doing.
Dora has had enough she holds Sarah's hand softly and very loudly in front of all our guests and family and says in a sweet voice "You were a bridezilla at your wedding do you also have to be rude at your brother's wedding?"
Sara's face dropped she left shortly after the ceremony and did not sign our wedding book.
I later found out she told my husband the day before our wedding not to marry me. She got divorced shortly after my wedding due to her being unfaithful.
She was miserable with that man and now is a lot nicer and I can genuinely say that I like her now. I feel she was awful because she was not happy with her ex-husband and didn't want my husband to be as unhappy as her.
She projected her feelings thinking that we were in the same situation.
abyg9
45. Disastrous wedding
Not just the bride, but the entire wedding was a disaster. I used to work for a wedding catering business. One time ago, we had a wedding where everything that could've gone wrong went wrong.
The groom's ex showed up, demanded to be let in, and was eventually escorted out by the cops. The groom later screamed at his mother, "Get out of here."
The bride's brother was cut off after he was noticeably sauced, and then he proceeded to knock over a stack of glass racks (maybe five racks) and break about eight dozen glasses on the floor in the dining room.
Multiple guests had their acid confiscated and a lady vomited and passed out on the dance floor. I miss that job.
pinkdimenipples
46. The Audacity!
My cousin married a vapid idiot. The night before the wedding at the rehearsal, she figured out the flower girl had the same shoes as her, in a much smaller size.
She flipped her crap at 9 pm and made the mother of the flower girl buy different shoes for her before the ceremony.
That's what happens when you buy your shoes from a discount footwear retailer. Not much of a selection in white.
KMKPF
47. Petty Much?
I'm not a wedding planner but my friend is getting married soon. She planned this huge wedding with 8 bridesmaids/groomsmen, and when she tried to arrange for the bridesmaids to get together and pick out bridesmaids' dresses, two of them couldn't make it on the day she picked.
She was so upset that they couldn't come on that particular day that she sent out a nasty text to all the bridesmaids and canceled the big wedding and now is having a destination wedding with just her fiance and their family.
MrsPottsBetch
48. Her Big Day Matters More
Late to the party, but our wedding venue booked two wedding parties on the same day. No problem, they said we wouldn't overlap, we didn't particularly care anyway.
Toward the end of getting our photos done, the photographer said to me we were being moved to another part of the garden because this other party was inside and the bride did not want to see another bride on her big day. We didn't give a damn at the time as we were genuinely just very happy to be married, but what a damned witch!
[deleted]
49. Complaining Over And Over Again
Not the bride, but the groom and his entitled, godawful family. The groom is a jerk, but his mom takes the damn cake. At one point during the reception, the mother of the groom keeps complaining about where the newlyweds are, when are they coming, why are they taking so long, and what will we do if she dies of hypoglycemia since she's so hungry already.
I keep telling her that they're just having their photos taken, prepping for the reception, sending out more appetizers on their table so she could eat; basically telling her that everything's going fine without actually saying "Can you please leave me alone? I'm working".
Turns out the mother of the groom has messed with most of my staff, saying the same stuff over and over, and even if we sent out food for them, she refuses to eat since she wants to take a family photo first with the newlyweds.
wailing_banshee
50. Lots Of Bad Ideas
Not a wedding planner but worth the highlights:
1: The bride fired the first wedding planner.
2: The bride fired the maid of honor (the one who set the couple up together) and brought her back a few weeks before the wedding.
3: The bride fired the MC (groom's best friend) and kicked him out of the wedding.
4: The bride told the groom he didn't have time for a bachelor party with only 3 months left before the wedding and flipped out when he was stolen for a bachelor party.
5: The groom had a few conversations with his friends telling him to reconsider.
Two bridesmaids nearly boycotted the wedding; they were the bride's sisters.
6: The best man had a shirt on under his tux that said "Don't do it" which he revealed at the reception.
7: One of the speeches was from a sibling who talked about how he looked up to his brother and learned from his mistakes.
The best part was that she insisted and got them on a television show recording the whole wedding process and it was drama-filled the way it was filmed but didn't have anything of the above in it.
CaptCanukInUSA
51. Everything Was A Disaster
Not just the bride, but the entire wedding was a disaster. I used to work for a wedding catering business, one time we had a wedding where everything that could've gone wrong, went wrong. The groom's ex showed up, demanded to be let in, and was eventually escorted out by the cops.
The groom later screamed at his mother to "Get the hell out of here." The bride's brother was cut off after he was noticeably sauced, he proceeded to knock over a stack of glass racks (maybe 5 racks) and break about 8 dozen glasses on the floor in the dining room.
Multiple guests had their acid confiscated and a lady vomited and passed out on the dance floor. I miss that job.
pinkdimenippies
52. Storming Out The Wedding
The brother-in-law's fiancée stormed out of the wedding rehearsal (which was being done after paying to reserve the time knowing another rehearsal would happen after and thus no do-overs) and drove home because her now-husband wanted to add a song to the playlist for the dance she didn't like.
She also scheduled family photos for the day of his best friend's wedding after he told her he was the best man and then threw a giant tantrum about him putting family first.
And got him to buy an empty lot on her parents’ property with a giant bank loan and move into their parents, with their kid, and out of a nice apartment, to pay down the loan and save up to build a house, on his $40k income.
[deleted]
53. Offended For Nothing
My best friend got engaged in February, I was asked to be MOH, and agreed. She decides on the destination wedding, I ask a bunch of questions, mainly if I can book the trip myself ($2000/1 person was her cost), and she freaks out because everyone is complaining about the costs so she "releases" me from MOH duties.
We don't speak until I get a random message on social media in May inviting me to the bridal shower. I said no. She was offended. We are no longer friends.
princessEh
54. What A Disaster
I am not a wedding planner, and it's a groomzilla instead of a bridezilla.
But I once saw a full-grown man with a beer belly, sandals, a Tommy Bahama shirt, and khaki shorts scream at a 17-year-old and a 20-year-old cashier and then proceeded to almost physically fight three managers over the price of 300 handmade chocolate bars.
He signed off on the price and they were in the middle (like bar 180) of making them. Despite the wedding not being that day, he also was freaking out that they weren't done the minute he walked in when they were scheduled to be done by close time.
Because "You said X date and IT'S X DATE." It was 10am. (and he had been told to pick them up an hour before we closed.) He wanted the people behind the glass to stop making the bars because he wasn't paying that price, but he also didn't want them to stop because they were supposed to be done by now.
So he kept breaking away from the managers to yell "WHAT ARE YOU DOOOOOING?" at the glass. He thought the sample labels with their names on them were tacky too, even though he had signed off on them as well.
Hereibe
55. Not A Fun Wedding
I’m late as usual. She wouldn't let anyone leave in the 5 hours between the wedding breakfast/lunch and the evening do. And she didn't order enough food for either buffets.
Not a fun wedding when you’re skint. We literally had about 50 quid on us for the whole thing and that was hard to come by. We had lots and lots of debt which the bride knew about, but family and all that crap. Proceeded to complain about everything.
sheloveschocolate
56. Unexpected Events
My wife is the opposite of Bridezilla. Let's call her "Bride calm and carry on". My own mother used a red wedding dress for my wedding. My cousin wore a beautiful white dress. One of my wife's friends too. I know some friends who would have set the entire country on fire. My wife was upset but handled that with aplomb.
I guess it helped we had to postpone our wedding because her dad passed away a month before. By the time of the actual (second) wedding some months later, she already knew what was important and what to ignore.
[deleted]
57. Drunken Singing
As a musician, I've had several moments towards the end of the night where the incredibly intoxicated bride comes up with every other song either requesting to sing, requesting the groom or a friend to sing, or requesting a specific song (that we don't know).
Any special musical requests are always included in the contract in advance, and these drunken moments are of course never agreed on in advance. It usually leads to the bride throwing a huge tantrum if we don't do what she says OR turns into a massive bad show if we let her or a guest sit in and sing with us.
Last time, we did what Bridezilla said her drunken friend fell backwards into the drum set in the middle of singing an off-key "Don't Stop Believing," and made a huge scene. BUT if we say no, then the bride almost always freaks out and causes a scene anyway.
smileymn
58. No Bridesmaids For You
My mom used to volunteer as a wedding coordinator for my church. Most brides were fine with the only complaint being some had a little too much to drink. But there was this one bride who turned into a bridezilla.
She had some of her best friends as her bridesmaids, but according to my mom, the bride turned into such a raging witch to them that the bridesmaids actually walked off before the wedding. None of them eventually showed up to the wedding.
bestprocrastinator
59. Bridezillas Have Their Reasons
I've never encountered a true bridezilla, but I've been in plenty of wedding parties so I've gotta say, I get why people snap. Even the most chill brides have moments of stress during the hours leading up to the ceremony. One friend realized she'd left her custom-made garter at home, 40 minutes away.
Her mom had to buy her a new one from an adult shop. There are just so many details that it's impossible for everything to go right. That said, my experience as a bridesmaid has taught me that if my time ever comes, I'm going to forgo a wedding. Eloping sounds much easier.
emdee39
60. My Own Husband Is A Groomzilla
The biggest Groomzilla moment for my husband and me when planning our wedding was picking the venue. We didn't have much money, and unfortunately, all the places we looked at online wanted way too much in addition to using their in-house catering.
We decided that a city park would be the best option price-wise, but after looking at a few different sites, none of them looked nice and I didn't want to use the parks.
He got mad at me, threw his glasses on the ground and stormed off.
After I caught up to him (with his glasses), we got in the car and went to leave but he clipped a curb and popped our back tire. He calmed down waiting for the tow truck and didn't have any other big groomzilla moments the rest of the planning.
Jer13Bear
61. Leaving With My Brother
Not a wedding planner but this is the story of when my ex-fiancée attacked my brother and a photographer because of my annoying sister. A bit of a read but it'll be worth it. A few things you need to know first.
1. My parents are Mormons so I had seen my ex-fiancée a handful of times times before the wedding. My ex was crazy. One small example of her bridezilla behavior was when she threw herself on the floor because I could not get her a ring 3x the cost of the wedding.
2. My sister is a crazy drama queen who loves attention. She was a bridesmaid at our cousin's wedding and refused to smile in the pictures and 'accidentally' knocked the bride over because she was angry at the attention our cousin was getting. So the day of the wedding, I was getting ready with my little brother Coda.
I was dreading getting married but holding it together. My uncle comes in and tells me I need to come outside because there is a problem. Turns out my little sister who had been fuming had gone around and told literally everyone Coda is queer. The only people who knew this were my sister and myself.
Everyone was acting pretty cool about it except my wife-to-be. She made a beeline for my brother. Pushed him and screamed that he ruined her day. I explained it was my sister but she was inconsolable. Kept yelling, and calling my brother names who in turn got really upset.
She pushed the wedding photographer as well. I was done with all the drama at that point so I said “sorry” to everyone and left with my brother. The best part was her parents paid for the wedding as it was tradition. I paid for the ring and honeymoon. I told that witch to keep the ring.
The honeymoon was paid for by me and I couldn't get a refund just a downgrade to a family suit, so that night, my brother and I jumped a plane to Ibiza for two weeks. Best two weeks of my life.
We went out to crazy clubs as Ibiza has the best nightlife and I met a lot of girls. He met a lot of guys. We got to go surfing, deep sea fishing, you name it. I got married a few years later. My brother got married early this year. Neither of us invited our sister. Way too risky.
Gallowayharper
62. That Was Supposed To Be Mine
Three sisters at a wedding: young adult bride, older teenage bridesmaid, underage ditto. The underage bridesmaid is told to stand with the older girls and the women when the bouquet is tossed, despite not wanting to do so because not even think about marriage because underage and the bouquet lands right in her hands.
Middle sister chases her around the reception, corners her, calls her horrible names, and accuses her of having deliberately stolen "her" bouquet. Nobody intervenes.
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63. Not Getting Paid For This
Another story comes to mind, in another thread, I mentioned I was a videographer for weddings for a number of years. This was a no-show. The groom bailed. We all were waiting at the church. The time came for it to start and the time went.
Mummers throughout the crowd. Finally, one of the bridesmaids goes up to the altar and chats with the priest. I knew then what the bad news was.
Sure enough, the priest made some sort of boilerplate speech, (obviously, that this happened to him before).
There were a few gasps and oh’s… I packed up my stuff and left. This is why I would get half upfront nonrefundable. anytime I would bring that up, the bride/groom, parents, etc would always say, "That won't happen to us!" and try not to pay. I would simply say, Okay, get someone else. They would usually pay me.
Politicalatheist1
64. Not The Right Kind Of Camo
I have slight acquaintances who are getting married this fall. The groom wants the bridal party to wear camouflage pattern vests, but they can't get the right kind of camo (Carolinian forest available, boreal forest currently not, or maybe it's the other way around), and this is a giant problem.
Vests are going to be satin or some other dress material, they are completely non-functional other than for dress-up.
P_Grammicus
65. Bridesmaid-zillas?
Not a planner but a photographer’s assistant/second shooter. All of the brides and grooms I’ve had the pleasure of working for have been incredible, but the groomsmen and bridesmaids have been some real pieces of work.
At one wedding, the maid of honor wanted to control the formal portraits, told the main photographer how to do her job, freaked out at the caterers because the cake was late even though they weren’t connected to the bakery at all, told one of the other bridesmaids she should have lost weight to fit into her dress better and was really just an all-around witch who stressed the bride out all day long.
Another Maid of honor didn’t write her speech beforehand because she was going to improvise, then got so trashed while getting ready and during cocktail hour that all she managed to slur was “John and Jane... I love you so much.” And started sobbing.
The bride was pretty upset at her irresponsibility.
Groom had been married before and his best man was his older brother who had served as best man in his previous wedding. He began his speech with “Ladies and gentlemen, welcome back! Same occasion, different lady.”
Which was bad enough. He ended with “Cheers, and I’ll see you all again at the next one!” The bride and groom were both understandably pissed and asked the best man to leave.
lonestellastate
66. She Should Quit
This doesn’t entirely fit the question, but my friend’s wedding planner flat-out refused to use the bride’s hand-made decorations. She hid them in a box under the guestbook table. I was the bridesmaid assigned to go down from the suite and check on things while we were getting ready.
I asked the planner why the decorations weren’t hung up, and she told me she didn’t like them. I had the boyfriend of another bridesmaid hang them up because I knew the bride would be upset if they weren’t in the reception hall. We had spent hours the day before finishing them.
blondeboilermaker
67. Everything Keeps Going Wrong
The wedding planner at my wedding was hilarious to us, though she probably didn't find it so funny. Things kept going wrong- the cake was the wrong color, the bridal suite was out of commission because the air conditioning was broken, the replacement cabin they gave us was infested with mosquitoes, the officiant was late, and then, at the ceremony, they said the wrong names, etc.
To top it off, it was her second wedding employed at the venue, and the lady at the front desk told us the one the week before was insane.
But I didn't give a damn (my husband was pretty upset about the name, but that was it).
We still had cake, we ended up with an even more private cabin, the citronella worked pretty well everywhere but the hot tub, it was fine.
Every time she had to break something to us you could see her take a deep breath and center herself and then get confused as hell when we were fine. I really want to hear the stories from the previous week's wedding!
ayriana
68. Not Everyone Should Get Married
I have a friend who is a wedding planner for a resort.
She said the thing was, everyone gets married, the crappy people, the pushovers, the demanding, the ones with 3 stepdads. Family dynamics suck and no one has ever been a perfect family. Also, people steal gifts/card boxes more than comfortably.
TinyFemale
69. Mad Over Wrong Shades
I know it says wedding planners but I'm going to admit something… I was definitely a bridezilla (although not as bad as some of these others) and our colors were purple and gold.
So, the day before the wedding, we got the deliveries to our venue, and the napkins were the wrong shade of purple. I tore the delivery manager a new one, even though I knew it wasn't his fault. Needless to say..not my proudest moment.
Bill-wi-science-fi
70. What A Bridezilla!
This wedding went a little something like this, “Please arrive 15-30 minutes early. Please DO NOT wear white, cream, or ivory. Please do not wear anything other than a basic bob or ponytail. Please do not have a full face of makeup”
“Do not record during the ceremony. Do not check in on social media until instructed. Use #[Wedding hashtag] when posting all pictures”
“DO NOT TALK TO THE BRIDE AT ALL”
“Everyone will toast with Rémy. No acceptance. Lastly must come with gift of $75 or more or you won’t be admitted”
LauraMcCabeMoon
71. Messing Up Weddings
Former DJ Here - I messed up 2 weddings out of 80. I think that was a good run. If the bride OR groom is nervous as hell and demands things out of you with 2 minutes notice, you're going to have a bad time.
People get real emotions during weddings. I've been yelled at/spit at. It's the worst when they get racist on the mic, or you can just "tell" that you're going to have a bad time.
Usually when they are crying as they arrive, it's going to be a bad time. I was kicked out of one wedding(as a DJ) while trying to understand/read three different song lists. I felt really bad.
I started to panic as none matched up, and the groom added a fourth song list 2 minutes before the ceremony started. This was 10 years ago, still remember it. It was a second job.
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72. A… Different Wedding
A friend from childhood got married and his bride was from a big rural family. Country wedding complete with the bride in cowboy boots. The DJ literally had to play Wagon Wheel 4 times in a half-hour time period by request from the bride and her entourage and I know for a fact it was played at least 2 other times throughout the reception.
Poor DJ got ripped into when he played a Nelly song at the request of the groom's younger cousin. The bride got in his face about “black people” and told him to switch the song to... you guessed it... Damn Wagon Wheel.
Froggytumtum
73. Crazy Mom
A couple I knew from HA are getting hitched, and I had no warning his mom was crazy.
She rolls up to rehearsal late and proceeds to be inappropriate at dinner and I have to escort her out.
The couple is naive and has no idea what is coming. The next day, she cancels most of the guests and catering, then eventually messes with the bride's dad who has a terminal illness. Cops got called and the venue tried to sue me over it.
Healing_touch
74. She Needs A Reality Check
This one bride ruined her own wedding.
"What do you mean there are NO pocket squares?!"
"You never ordered any."
"You've ruined my wedding! Its all stupid now! You need to be FIREDDDDD!"
"No, you are going to stop crying because you're ruining your makeup and go get married."
Seriously, if a little square of fabric is the be-all and end-all, you have much much bigger problems
candysirling
75. Not Everything Is Free
I worked as an assistant to a low-level celebrity. As his assistant, I was expected to get a wedding planner for free, a free venue, and free everything because as he put it, he was a celebrity and they'd want to give it to him for free.
I tried hard to find free, but cash is king and nobody really knew who he was. I managed to get him free catering, free suits, and free bridesmaids' dresses... He got mad at me because I didn't get everything for free. I quit shortly after that, his demands and reality were very different.
daveyhh
76. Discount For Nothing
I photographed weddings for about 8 years or so. I had one bride who was unhappy with the images I turned over to her because she looked fat in them. Guess what, everyone, she was morbidly obese so yeah, of course she was gonna look fat.
She should've gone on a diet and hit the gym in the months leading up to the wedding. The worst part was that I gave them a pretty deep discount because the couple were friends of friends.
nova2726
77. It’s Just A Coffee
I've only ever attended one wedding, that of my brother and his wife, and I was going to get everyone some coffee from the bar.
I thought she ordered a latte, but she said she wanted a cappuccino. I told her it's basically the same; little coffee with a lot of foamy milk, but she made me go back for a cappuccino. So yeah that was pretty bad.
Alwin_
78. Poor Bride
A drunk, screaming groomzilla screamed and pointed in my face (while his poor bride cowered behind him) because the venue ran out of Grey Goose at 11:45 pm.
The wedding ended at midnight. I filled up an empty bottle with water are served it to him and his douchey friends. I definitely always think about his wife. I hope she's okay!
grandmaperm
79. Never Again
I was definitely a bridezilla too.
Granted, my wedding planning was extremely stressful (MIL from hell who wanted to micromanage and very slim budget) but I spent a good chunk of the month after our wedding apologizing to everyone that I knew got the brunt of my anger. 10/10, I would never have a wedding again.
sullen_madness
80. Making Everything About Herself
I have one! One of my bridesmaids even changed out of her bridesmaid dress after the meal (the party was only getting started).
The same girl wouldn’t shut up about her sister’s wedding, three years previous and she was constantly trying to make the event all about her. We haven’t spoken in a while.
ohmadge85