Revealing My Spouse's Hidden Mysteries After Saying "I Do"

Let’s admit it, there’s a very low chance of meeting someone who’ll tell all about them, even after so many years of being together. Unveiling every secret takes time. We all harbor hidden aspects, revealed only as trust deepens.

Whether you like it or not, you agree or not, it’s not always easy to be real to your partner. There are just parts of your past that you cannot tell them. However, you know you have to.

1. Different Motive

My ex-wife (now) purposefully tried to get herself pregnant with our daughter before we were married because she knew that her mom couldn't pay for her health insurance anymore.

She didn't want to go to work, but she knew that a baby could get her qualified for the state's healthcare system. When I found out about this, it was just WOW.

Also, she told her sister that she only married me because she knew I'd be a stable provider and father, not because she loved me. Yeah... That hurt

Schikadance

I've been married for almost 12 years, together more than 16, and found out roughly three years ago that my wife has/still suffers from bulimia.

It was so bad a few years ago that she had a nervous breakdown, and we sent her to a program to cope with the disease. While there are relapses, and I expect she will deal with this for the rest of our lives together, she's doing great.

She's been dealing with this disease since high school, and mostly because she dealt with many insecurities as a result of my mother-in-law's inability to give positive feedback.

She hid this from me for years, and while many may think that bulimics do this for the sake of vanity, I assure you it is not. My wife, while beautiful on the inside and out, still deals with this daily....even a few days ago.

We have three children and overwhelm them with praise about inner/outer beauty to ensure the same mistake isn't made again.

afm0455

We dated for five years before we were married, and during the first year of our marriage, I found a stash of incontinence pants in her cupboard when I was hanging her clothes up.

I asked her about it, expecting to hear that she has occasional accidents, as I knew her bladder was weak. Still, I never expected the extent of it. She burst into tears and confessed.

She was 16 when I met her, and she had been mixing regular underwear with incontinence pants for years. She would wear them when we were together but change into regular underwear when we would sleep together.

She always carried a bag with her, quite a large one, and she would take it everywhere with her. I was never allowed near it, as she didn't want me to find her change of clothes in there.

On our wedding day, she had her sister keep a bag with her. She wore incontinence pants during the ceremony for the full day and would go with her sister to the toilet to change occasionally. At night, she changed into regular underwear.

There were a few times when she either ran out of her incontinence pants and peed through her regular undies or couldn't change in time and overflowed.

Once in my car, she peed in her already full pants, and they overflowed onto the seat. Another time, she ran out of her incontinence pants while on holiday and would occasionally run back to the hotel with pee running down her leg.

I found out later this was because she was wearing regular underwear. I was not bothered at all. I still love her and understand her not telling me, as she was embarrassed by it. It's her little quirk, and I love her for it.

throwawayincontinent

He suddenly told me that he was transgender. He....SHE swears blind. She told me while we were dating that she sometimes liked to dress as a woman, but I feel like this is something I remember.

She told me a month after we were married. But back then, her feelings were downgraded to just cross-dressing. Then, for five years, it got more and more intense, and she wouldn't stop lying to me about it.

Then, right around my birthday in November of last year, she came out. We decided to separate in December after five years of marriage and six years of a relationship.

We are still friends. Yup, we're still roommates. It would have been nice to know beforehand, mind. My now female roommate used to be my male husband.

Yes, we are still friends. I'm supporting her in every single way. Yes, this will be a fantastic sitcom when we finish writing it.

CandyBelle

That his mother was alive, he gave me a sob story about losing his mother to a heart attack in a grocery store, and of course, I was all about comforting him.

We dated and eventually married, but what could he say -- "I liked about my mother dying?" So he just kept her a secret. I later found a card from her to him, for his birthday, in the garage, wedged in some books.

I was horrified to find out I had a mother-in-law and hadn't invited her to our wedding. We divorced after 3 years. She was a lovely woman and treated me very kindly, knowing I had no idea and believing I was horrified by the circumstances.

She wasn't surprised at his duplicity and later regretted not warning me about her son, but she had hoped I'd be a "fix" for him. I wasn't.

condimentia

That he was cheating on me with a friend, I thought was a lesbian. He invited her to the wedding. She showed up with her latest girlfriend (who was uninvited).

It was arranged seating, and I'd stick her next to a group of mutual friends. Turned out she had slept with nearly every person at that table (men and women), and they all found out about it.

She and her girlfriend got into a fistfight and then left. Nearly two years later, I'm still married to that jerkward. We separated (for the second time) a week ago.

Well, it happened after I found his latest dating app account and the dates he'd been planning with random women for when I'd be at work.

I_Heart_Squids

We met in high school, married in college, and have been together for 22 years. An odd couple, I am very much the social introvert and science geek, and she was the extreme extrovert, the popular girl, and a former cheerleader!

How in the world did we click? But we did, and two decades, two kids, a mortgage, and a minivan later, we're still going strong.

But over the years, she started to let slip some things she had never revealed during our courtship. Initially, she didn't care for my nerdy movies or TV shows.

Still, over time, she'd pause more and more while walking through the room with STTNG playing or would go, "We don't have to see the latest Meg Ryan movie. Let's go see your sci-fi action flick."

At first, I thought it was just her humoring me, maybe even my building up her tolerance to something she previously didn't care for. However, over time, it became clear she was covering up something that was always there.

She loved Star Wars, she loved ET, she loved Back to the Future, but she kept it hidden because the 80s were a different time for nerds. They hadn't taken over the culture like they have now, and she fit in with her crowd.

Now, she has a bigger collection of Darth Vader memorabilia than any of my nerd brethren proudly displayed in our house. I still poke her about her coming out of the nerd closet, and now I understand a bit better why we clicked as well as we did.

speed_boost_this

I'm the uptight one in the relationship. This will sound really petty, and it shouldn't be a big deal. A few years after we got married (together about 6-8 years, maybe?) I found out he can't stand it when someone opens a bag of chips upside down.

I do this on purpose because then all the crumbs disperse equally throughout, and you don't get that pile of chip glitter at the end.

He conceded that this worked perfectly but insisted that we keep the chip bags upside down so that they work the same way when you open them right side up.

He was really bothered by this, as if I was violating the laws of common decency. I think he would have been less disturbed if I had dumped on the floor next to the toilet instead of in it.

It was shocking to find he had such a passionate view over something so mundane when I am typically the more rigid one. And yes, I still open bags upside down and make sure I draw his attention to it. He's my little freak.

WinterOfFire

When I first started a relationship with my boyfriend (now husband), he had a lot of money. Suddenly, around the two-month mark, he claimed he was really broke. I asked him why, and he just said he'd spent a lot more than he should have..

I later found out that his psychotic ex-girlfriend (who had an affair with my SO while his dad was fighting cancer) tried to sue him for not paying rent on their previous tenancy (he wasn't paying rent on the books but was giving her cash for his fair share).

She threatened to sue him and instead settled for a single payment of £4k, which she proceeded to use as deposit money on a house with the guy she'd been having the affair with.

My SO made her sign a form saying she wouldn't have anything to do with him ever again. Yet, she still needs to attempt to add me on social media using fake accounts, regardless of me blocking her.

Oh, and to make matters worse, she's a freaking police officer! NUTS... I just feel bad for my hubby for losing out to such a witch.

-tea

She slept with her male best friend from HS a month before our wedding. She's performed things on him since ("never more than that because that was for me [her words]").

She's kissed, texted dirty, and seriously flirted with other guys. She bought some lingerie before she was supposed to meet one of them.

This has happened about every other year in our marriage. 4 or 5 times, I think. I lost count. We've gone to counseling (couples and individuals, different counselors, and groups).

We are still together (8 years). We have kids. She still lies and hides stuff from me. Sometimes, it is the stupidest, most mundane thing. Other times, she fights tooth and nail with me until she admits. I'm not the best husband, but man.

2Scared2UseMain

My ex had very poor hygiene. She would shower in the morning and bath at night, but that was it. After we married and she became an at-home mom, I noticed things.

She wouldn't clean, wash dishes, clean clothes (just wear the same stuff a few days apart), and never wash her hands after the bathroom.

I always thought when we were dating that she was overly clean as she would have a pile of towels in her laundry basket that constantly changed.

I now know she simply rotated the used ones until they were dry. When she did 'clean' dishes, I would find them in the cupboard with bits of dried food on them.

I had to leave her and take my kids as they were constantly ill from her neglect. I was young and naive and just thought I wasn't doing enough.

Still, after speaking to her ex-husband (it turned out we worked for the same company but in different departments), the cleaning issue was why he left her, too.

CGSmith6

She’s my ex-wife now. I think this will be so far down it's basically invisible. She's incapable of monogamy. I was a soldier when we met in 2009.

We got married that year. Before we got married, she cheated. I wrote it off nerves or whatever. After being married for a few months, I deployed to Iraq for a year, where she got pregnant with another dude's baby.

Separated after that. She had a miscarriage. I had a girlfriend. When I broke up with my girlfriend, she drove across the country to try to get back together. I fell for it.

Got her pregnant. Had baby. Beautiful girl. Went to Afghanistan, she started stripping while living with my mom and dating. Gave me Chlamydia when I got back.

I'm not saying she's a terrible person. Idk what I would have done in the same situation, but the entire experience has made me the least trusting man in at least three countries.

I had to get out of the Army in order to get a fair amount of time with my daughter. Now, I catch shoplifters at a well-known supermarket and go to school full-time while enjoying split custody and shared parental responsibility.

deathotheparty

My wife and I got married in 2006. Everything was going well until 2009 when we filed our federal income taxes. I was prepared to get about 2 grand back for the first time ever.

However, there was nothing on the day the check was supposed to be deposited. The next day, we got a letter from the IRS saying they had been intercepted for unpaid student loans.

I know I didn't have any loans, as I never took any out. It turns out that my wife had 25,000 dollars in unpaid student loans from 1994.

When I asked her about this, she gave me the dumbest answer, making me almost frustrated. "Well, I didn't use my degree, so I shouldn't have to pay them back." So until we can afford to start paying them off, I will file Injured Spouse paperwork just in case.

Volntyr

He hid 3 kids from me, and I found out on my own (on the Internet from the local court website that I discovered that listed his child support cases and all the baby momma) THREE years after we were married.

He lied about him owing around $60,000 in back child support when he told me that he'd taken care of it all. But that’s not all.

He also lied that he graduated high school and won a scholarship to play football at a university. It turns out he never graduated and never won any scholarship.

Also, he was trying to talk to other women on the internet about our wedding anniversary when I miscarried. The list could go on.

AlwaysLiedTo

My ex lied about liking rollercoasters. It was one of the first questions I asked when we started dating, "Oh, yeah," he says, "I like rollercoasters."

On our honeymoon, we went to California and were also able to attend my brother's wedding. My dad paid for the whole wedding party and our family to go to Six Flags and this cartoon theme park.

It turns out he physically couldn't handle them. He got terribly sick and was just miserable the whole time. I only got him to go on the tower of terror, and you'd think I shot him right in the gut.

My dad paid for him to just walk around and wait for us to ride rides. I was pretty embarrassed about it, and my stepmom gave him endless crap about being a wuss, which was kind of hilarious since that's how she used to get us to go on roller coasters as children.

Babeasaurus_Rex

He has a lot of student loan debt. I was able to stick with a one-degree plan (barely) and use mostly scholarship money. I had to take two small loans to cover what the scholarships didn't.

My husband had a much rougher time than I did. He didn't have any scholarships, and his parents couldn't pay for anything, so he had to get loans to pay for everything, but he never told me how much.

It wasn't until after we were married that he felt comfortable enough to let it slip into conversation. On the outside, I was like, "As long as you're paying more than the minimum, we're good. Let me know if you need me to help."

But on the inside, I was like, "holy Mary, mother of Jesus, that's a big number." We can pay off the loan, but the number he gave me caught me off guard a bit.

As far as I know, this is the only thing he has ever kept from me. I can understand why. I imagine there's a certain amount of shame or embarrassment about being up to your eyeballs in debt.

I don't think he should be ashamed, though. He is working full-time, taking classes, and paying off his debt at the same time. That's pretty amazing if you ask me.

Level5CatWizard

I FOUND OUT my husband was adopted after we were married. I was finalizing our passports for the honeymoon in 6 months (based on the weather, that time of year, and the legal name change) and needed birth certificates.

He always said he was born in City X, State YZ, but when I got it from his parents, he always told me it was only a certified copy from a different city, way far away from the urban city.

I work in healthcare, so I know what "original forms vs. certified copies" look like. Certified copies usually come from identity theft, loss in a house fire, or adoption/foster care system.

So, just curious, I asked him and his parents, "What happened to the original?" And they were like, "What do you mean? that's his real birth certificate." Being sketchy as hell!!!

So...I just asked, "Were you adopted?" I called him out on it and asked why it was such a huge secret. I even called out his parents for not mentioning either.

They said it was his issue to tell me, and they weren't going to tell me since it was none of my business. My husband made me SWEAR not to tell anyone else, even my own family. Still married, but still confused.

koalavagabond

A few days before we got married, my partner of 7 years admitted to me he has two kids that he's been paying maintenance for but isn't allowed contact because of bitterness between him and his ex.

This and other things, including keeping the secret from me, drove him to many years of quite deep sadness. We went ahead and got married.

At the time, I looked at him more fondly than I ever had. I was relieved he'd told me, and the change in him was astonishing. He was the happy person I'd remembered him to be.

I would watch him when he didn't realize his permanent look of worry was gone, and I finally felt like there wasn't something coming between us. Now, 8 weeks later, I'm left feeling betrayed, resentful, and angry. I guess under all that, I feel deeply hurt.

pantsontheoutside

That the person who introduced us online never existed. He pretended to be a woman, and he befriended me in a chat room.

He kept up the charade that she was an actual person for 16 years. He didn't have the courage to tell me the truth when I told him on our very first date that my biggest deal breaker was lies.

I found out when I was in the process of separating from him, and he tried the same routine. After 16 years, I knew exactly who I was talking to.

larocosgirl

Not when we were married, but about a month before he proposed, he had to get something off his chest. As a backstory, we dated for a few months in high school, broke up, and got back together in the summer (August).

We have been together ever since, seven and a half years now. It was known that I took his virginity, and he let me believe that I was the only girl he had ever been with.

A month before he proposed, he told me that right after we got back together (and after I told him I loved him, I might add), he went away to college and had a one-night stand with a random girl.

He said that really solidified his feelings for me. At least it was a secret from six years or so earlier. I got over it; I just wish he had told me sooner and not so close to when he decided to propose.

jessfm

How weird he really was. I knew he was off, but not that bad. On our 11-hour trip home after the wedding, he thought I was asleep and proceeded to talk to himself for hours.

He would laugh at himself and ribbit, too. By hours, I meant around 2 hours while I tried to sleep, not the whole drive, and this is just an example.

He's weird 100% of the time now. Right now, he's holding the youngest kid, going "bloop" and sticking his tongue out over and over and over again. He's a good dad.

seizetheday18

I lied to her about my income and my debt. And the truth about the bills. I've been really marketable for many years. I'm a pretty talented data guy. great income. but I was (sometimes still am) kind of crap with my personal life.

So when my then-fiance / now-wife was living with me, I'd just stack the bills into a pile and forget about them. Easy enough. I'd take her out to eat, have pints at the pub down the street, and burn my account down to the last few bucks.

I charged her a pretty low rent, and she'd ask how much the power bill was, so I'd throw out some random number. $50 this month. Ooh, it's winter, uh, $65.

She had a not-so-great job as a customer service rep for a courier, and I didn't want her running out of money. But the house was really poorly insulated, and power bills would get like $200, $300, even $400 in the wintertime.

Which was fine because I wouldn't pay them anyway. Until I got a hateful red bill with impending shut-off notice, so I'd be like, "Oops, oh crap." And dip into savings or credit card and pay it off, then just eat out less that month.

Then, the next month, go back to treating her to dinners and drinks all the time and charging her the monthly .. whatever.

So, we're on our honeymoon, on the last day, and she says, "Ok, so are we going to have a joint account, or are we going to have our own accounts? How are we going to do this? It’s going to be weird just having you keep the bills from me.."

And it made sense to get a joint account. So basically, we decide to have a moment of truth. So, we wrote down our incomes and our debt. She hands me hers, and it is like $30,000 a year or something, and there's like $2 or $300 credit card debt.

She was all shaky and nervous about it, "but I've been paying it down. It's really almost all gone now.” I hand her my income and the bills I know about.

She reads it and blurts out, "DUDE, WHY THE FUDGE ARE YOU ALWAYS BROKE??!!!" So, after a long conversation on the way home, we basically decided that she controls the purse strings.

We have a joint account, but she takes all the bills and sets the budget, and I've never seen a late notice since then. The part she was most upset about was my lying about what she owed.

It was partially me being generous or whatever, but it was also just me being lazy. I knew that there was a bunch owed for the power, but she'd already paid some, and I just didn't want to do the math.

johnwalkersbeard

My wife told me she was on the autistic spectrum with high-level/high-functioning Asperger’s (sorry if I've got the term wrong). Look up the points list of female Asperger's syndrome "symptoms."

It's a list of everything she's struggled with, like understanding people's faces and emotions, to hand flapping in stressful situations and getting obsessed with jigsaws and puzzles to the point she blocks out the world around her.

She can get emotionally overwhelmed, and if there's too much going on at once, it can overwhelm her mentally because she can't filter any of it into the background like most people.

This is why some aspies seem emotionally distant or uncaring, but actually, if anything, they feel things too strongly. It can overwhelm everything else and kind of paralyze them until they get into quiet surroundings.

There are other symptoms, but that's all I can remember off the top of my head, and she's good at avoiding overstimulating her brain in day-to-day life.

She's very literal-minded, too. She told me she used to be a lot "worse" when she was younger, can have a good guess at facial expressions, and tries hard to socialize and get out of her comfort zone.

With me, close family, and friends, she'll outright ask if she can't interpret someone's tone of voice or expression. I never noticed other than to think she was a little socially awkward.

This is also in combination with quite strong dyslexia and dyspraxia, which is apparently quite a common thing. She's my wife, and she's the most loving, caring woman, I'm always so proud of her for not letting those difficulties stop her day-to-day, and she's an amazing mum to our 1yo girl :-)

[deleted]

This happened to a friend of mine. He found this girl - barely 18 with a 4-year-old son - and married her within three months.

They go on their honeymoon, come back, and relocate to be closer to their family. Two weeks before the wedding, they're all settled in at their new place on her parent's property.

She sits him down and tells him that she's not in love with him at all but that she married him because she knew he'd be an awesome dad to her son, who he had already legally adopted even before they were married.

So he leaves her and gets the marriage annulled, but for whatever reason, he can't "unadopt" the kid and gets stuck paying 14 years of child support.

[deleted]

Well, my grandpa's real name was Upton, and he thought it was really weird, so when he met my grandma, he told her his name was James.

Three weeks later (yes, they got married after three weeks of knowing each other; the story is actually adorable), the priest asked my grandma if she wanted Upton to be her husband.

This resulted in my grandma yelling in front of the entire church, "Who the heck is Upton?!" And then, realizing my grandpa had lied to her because he thought his name was weird, she goes, "Oh, Lord, yes, I do to take this stupid man as my husband."

They were married for 65 years with three boys, the oldest of whom was named James. I never saw a couple more in love or meant for each other than my grandparents. God rest their souls.

im_outta_here

My EX-wife, after a 4-year relationship and 2 years of marriage, told me she didn't really love me and had just stayed with me because I was a good catch.

But now that I had worked hard, there was enough money in a divorce that she could have any young guy she wanted. We were 5 years apart in age.

Got her the fudge out in 5 days with a separation letter, a cash settlement of 1/3 of all assets, and minimal legal fees. Gosh.

My lawyer said she had set me up perfectly, and just to pay and be free, it took 5 years to pay off the settlement. My god.

GrayMountainRider

Somehow, she kept her extremely short and fragile temper under wraps. After we'd been married a year or so, I learned she could turn super crazy in an instant.

It was to the point of biting me or throwing things. It's so hard to deal with that every day. But I really do love her, and we had a talk about it.

Now, it's getting better, but man, I can't believe some of the crap she gets mad about, like if she falls asleep on the couch and I don't wake her when I go into bed.

1981sdp

My girlfriend's mother hid something from her second husband. She had made it about 2 years into the relationship before problems arose.

He wanted to fool around, but she had an outbreak at the time. He tried and tried, and she kept the excuses flowing until she couldn't take lying anymore.

She tells him the truth, and he starts crying uncontrollably. She's lost the love of her life because she lied about having herpes.

That is until he starts chuckling through the tears. He tells her he already has herpes but was too embarrassed to admit it before she told him. They're still together 7ish years later.

MagicalSandwich

Our family had been observing my aunt. We knew that her husband did not know something like this about her. No one knows why my uncle married her.

She always used to tell people she hated kids, yet when it came time to maybe get a job and help provide, she miraculously got pregnant.

When the baby got to an age where she could go to daycare, and my aunt would have to go to work, she got pregnant again. She was definitely poking holes in the condoms or lied about being on birth control.

I'm happy for my uncle because he always wanted kids, but he had to bust his back just to be able to put food on the table. A little off-topic story to give you a better picture of how lazy she is.

My uncle's kidneys were failing, and he was rushed to the closest emergency room, a crappy hospital. Nothing was being done, no doctors were coming around to help, and his condition was getting worse.

My girlfriend and I made the decision to transfer him to a better hospital to basically save his life, but he could only be signed out by his wife.

She didn't want to move him because her best friend lived down the block, and it was convenient for her to hang out there while he lay dying in the crappy hospital. Absolutely disgusting. In the end, we got him out of there, and he is alive and well.

Jablon15

Despite the life plans we'd discussed, once we married, he expected me to be the family's breadwinner, homemaker, cook, and accountant.

He needed to "stay home and work on his music." Oh, and that two-bedroom place? No, he didn't want kids. He wanted his own bedroom.

Oh, and intimacy? "I could just "do my business" in your room but sleep in my own bed after." I am now starting to realize things. Nope, nope, nope.

Maggiemayday

My SO’s mother only settled for my SO's father because she could order him around, and he provided a stable environment for her daughter. And guess what? The one she really loved was her ex, who attacked her.

Anyway, my SO’s father was deeply, deeply in love with her at one point, and she wasn't interested. She loves him but has never been in love with him.

He knew this and accepted it. Now, I believe their relationship is more of a means of surviving. Despite his acceptance of her basically using him, I think she is so selfish for doing that to him.

He could have found true love and given that passion to someone who loved him equally. 30 years of his life wasted on someone who was only settling...and didn't even try to hide it.

[deleted]

I didn't find out until our divorce that my ex-husband had credit card debt and no retirement savings. His company had a good 401k match, and he told me that he was contributing.

Turns out he had never even set up his 401k and was not putting any money toward retirement savings or accumulating credit card debt.

Thankfully, all the debt was in his name, and the divorce filing had him paying all of his debt and me keeping all of my retirement savings. Bullet dodged there.

somewoman

If my family didn't stay in line with how he acted, he'd try to cut me off. Oh, and he had some really bad anger issues. My gosh.

He kicked me out of the house. Now, my family isn't perfect. We fight normal family issues. We love each other. So naturally, when I came home in the middle of the night, crying, three hours away (we lived in another city), they had something to say about it.

Now, I was married. I tried to make it work. So I went back. Naturally, my family wasn't excited about that. But I went back anyway. Then it got worse.

So then he told me that I couldn't talk to them anymore. Actually, his exact words were, "Cut your family out of your life, or leave." So I left.

It all worked out for the best. My mom was diagnosed with cancer, and I'm helping take care of her. I see my niece and nephew a lot. I have a good job. My life is relatively simple, and I'm happy. The best revenge is to live well.

andgonow

It's not my personal story, but my mother started dating this nice little old man. After a year of dating, he came clean that he had been in prison for 15 years for a really serious case.

My mom continued to date him! She didn't tell me until they broke up, and all I could think was when I used to go over to his house, and he would make me dinner and make really good chili.

I would have never even expected that. You never know what people are hiding! We were so darn scared for our mum’s safety, but she’s too persistent!

gumbywonton

My now late husband came to me directly from his mother's home and into mine. I cooked, cleaned, and did everything that a good old-fashioned wife does for her husband. All the while, he claims that he cannot do these things.

After living together for four years, two years into our marriage, I became so ill that I was laid up for weeks. I feared that we would both starve and be living in filth and poverty from eating out.

Well, not until he surprised me with a better than my own home-cooked meal. It was delicious! Even the house was cleaner than ever.

I think it's hilarious that he hid his domestic talents from me for so long and was even better than me. I was duped for four years!

bastet74

My dad hid his two-month-old child and girlfriend from my mom until after they got married. Dad broke up with his girlfriend, obviously.

They discussed it more, and it took a very long time to end. Well, my dad pays child support and sees his kid on his birthday.

My mom was pissed with him at the time but later forgave him after I was born. "For my sake," they've been married for 16 years now.

[deleted]

Not me, but one of my great-grandfathers was Scottish and moved to Canada to work for a few years. He had been dating my great-grandmother before he left, and she always thought he would return permanently and marry her.

Well, he came back and married her alright. As soon as the wedding was over, he informed her that he had no intention of staying and he was going to take her back to Canada with him whether she liked it or not.

He died quite young, leaving her to raise their kids, and I never met the woman, but my relatives who did all say she was a very bitter person, and I can't really blame her.

[deleted]

Where to begin.... my ex-husband and I were both in the Army and while we were dating, he told me how he was promoted to E-5. Fast forward a couple of months. I stupidly agreed to get married a month or so prior to going to Afghanistan.

Now, fast forward 2 months to me being in Afghanistan, and I proceed to find out he's been cheating with our next-door neighbor.

He was really an E4 but would leave the house in E5 rank and switch it in the car, and he was being medically discharged from the Army.

Funny how things come out of the woodwork after you get married. Needless to say, I came home from deployment and divorced him as quick as I could.

tatty_girl

The last serious relationship I had. A girl I was insanely in love with. I couldn't figure out why she had a really hard time with being intimate with me.

Then, one day, we were watching a movie, and I could tell she was nervous about something. I was beginning to think that she was something else or, at the very least, had a kid or something.

She admitted that she had been briefly married. My reaction was like, "...that's it?". We had a decent relationship. It wasn’t toxic.

It didn't last long because she moved away from school, but we're still friends. I'd still do anything for her. I think she was surprised that I took it so well.

Extrasherman

I found out that my husband had been living in this country undocumented for 10 years and needed me to secure his citizenship.

Understandably, it made me question the whole relationship. Still, he maintained that our marriage had nothing to do with his legal status and that he saw nothing wrong with waiting until afterward to drop it on me.

We're going on 4 years of marriage, and I can't see him in a romantic light between that and other issues. We get along great and sleep in the same bed, but we don't make out or see each other much outside of the house.

chumbutch

That she was a chronic cheater. She had cheated on every single person she had ever been in a relationship with. I was like, “Oh, Gosh, who is this girl for real??”

I found out she cheated about a year into our relationship, and then when I did catch her after we were married...I divorced her.

When she was in her first serious relationship with a guy she planned on marrying, he was in the Air Force. He was sent overseas, and she cheated on him.

She then dated a guy for a few years, and he got arrested as an accomplice to robbery. She cheated with his best friend the day after he was arrested.

She cheated through her entire relationship with the guy she was with right after we separated. What makes it worse is when we first started dating, she was like the girl next door and said she had been cheated on and that she hates people who cheat.

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Didn't happen to me but my aunt married a guy in about two months (she was nearing 50 and hadn't ever gotten married) and finally decided that nope I'm going for it.

The first time we met the guy, my parents said they could tell something was off but didn't exactly know what. He told us about his service in Vietnam, his job, and his hobbies.

It turns out he did NONE of those things. He told us how he had jumped into Vietnam with the 101st (total lies looked him up in the system, and there was no record of him).

He never actually had a job and said he was an engineer. Whatever hobbies he had, they didn't involve golf because we could never find him there when he said he was. Took all of my aunt's money, and now she’s screwed. I hope he gets hit by a bus.

stefanevada1

When my grandparents got married, my grandmother was 24, and she thought my grandfather was 25. He kept saying that he was a year older than Grandma.

Anyway, It was during their honeymoon that he confessed that he was only 19. Back then, it caused a lot of discussion within them.

Gran was annoyed, obviously, but I think she was too relieved to be married to stay mad at him; 24 was getting close to being left on the shelf for an Irish Catholic woman in the 60s.

foggiewindow

My mom believed and trusted desperately that he loved her somewhere deep inside, despite the neglect and the berating that she went through for over 20 years.

She overheard him on the phone with his friend, saying that he never loved her and only married her because she was from a wealthy family.

She always tried her best to maintain a functioning relationship between the two of them and loved him for over 20 years.

It hurts me so much that she never had a chance to be loved in her life (her side of the family was pretty bad, to make it worse).

trekbette

My ex told me this huge sob story about how his ex got drunk and wanted to make out with him, but he turned her down because she was too drunk.

Then she left his house and went to sleep with someone else. I was so angry at her for hurting him. Then, a year later, I found out he'd been texting her behind my back.

I asked him why he would want to talk to someone who hurt him so badly. Suddenly, the story changed to, "Well, she didn't actually sleep with someone else, and we weren't dating yet." The girl just kissed a guy at a party without any idea that my ex liked her.

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