Messiest BreakUps People Have Experienced

Being in a relationship is a commitment. It’s a fun thing to have, but it’s not always like that. There are bad days, and sometimes, fixing a problem is not easy. 

Once you enter someone’s life as a partner, you should be ready for what’s coming next because there is no way to see what the future holds. It’s a risk that you should be willing to take. 

However, these people from the Reddit Community shared their worst breakup experiences. Some might be familiar to you, and you might want to check them out!

1. The Cheetah

I was dating this guy in high school, and he dyed his hair cheetah print. Something about that dye job changed him. Not over time, instantly. He went from being a normal guy to "I am too alternative for words," and I wanted no part of it.   

At lunch, I had to sit him down and have a talk with him about it. I told him that he was kind of acting like a jerk and that maybe he was letting this new look get to his head.

He took my hand and said I needed to accept him for the new person he was, which I guess was a cheetah or something, so I told him I had to set him free. He looked at me with these knowing eyes, ending the most awkward 4-day relationship I have ever had.

[deleted]

Once, a woman broke up with me over a very weird conversation that had never occurred. She was making references to it. The conversation was apparently over the telephone - I had called her at work. I was dumbfounded. I told her that I didn't remember any of this, that I did not even speak with her that day. She refused to believe me and we broke up anyway.

Just to be certain, I wasn't capable of completely forgetting an entire conversation.

 A couple of weeks later, I checked my phone bill since her work was long-distance and would have been itemized. A call to her work number on the day she said it happened wasn't there, nor were there ANY calls to her work in the prior three days.

Maybe she dreamed it? Maybe someone called posing as me? No, I did not pursue it any further. 

Leave crazy alone.

Mmedical

A girl broke up with me. The next day, she showed up at my door, bawling her eyes out, wanting to get back together. 

I obviously said no.

She wasn't very mentally stable. The next day at school, she came to tell me she had a new boyfriend and didn't care about me anymore. We dated for 2 weeks.

fermentedmole

I started going out with a girl in my first year of uni who, at some point after the initial happy period, became absolutely insane. She was breaking up with me pretty much every day, publicly screaming at me, etc. 

So, I told her that if she broke up with me again, then that would be it for good. So she doesn't do it for a few weeks, at which point I'm thinking, "Actually, I don't really want to be with this girl." 

EVENTUALLY, she went crazy at me again and said what she would regret later on.

Girl: That's it, you're dumped!!

Realizes what she said and goes so pale.

Girl: I didn't mean to say it.

Me: Oh, sorry, no backsies!

And I left.

SausagePlease

My ex dumped me because she had dreams of me cheating on her but in reality, I wasn't cheating at all. 

She would spend the day being a total witch for something I never did. She would give me the cold shoulder, and she wouldn't let me hug or kiss her. 

Eventually, she dumped me and claimed the dreams were reoccurring, so it has to mean I'm cheating on her. I'm happy that's over. She was getting pretty crazy.

JizzOnRainbows

I was engaged and went away to work at a school in Central America for the summer. I tried to call my fiance the whole time, but we only connected a few times.

On the day I returned, I had a layover in Houston on my way back to Portland. While sitting at my terminal, I was paged over the intercom to pick up the nearest white courtesy phone. 

So, I ambled over and was connected...and it was my finance'...paging me at the airport to tell me he couldn't pick me up in Portland because he'd fallen in love with another woman.

That happened.

Our airport break-up was the last time I spoke to him.

sdwescott

Alright, so this occurred during my Junior High years. Just think of early, awkward preteens. Anyway, I was riding the bus home with my "girlfriend," and we were awkwardly holding hands, and then her stop came up. 

She looks at me, grabs my other hand, kisses my cheek, and says, "You are a cage, and I'm a bird. This is over." And then she walked away, and that was the last time I conversed with her.

PYRoBU

I was dating a guy, and I ended it because I just wasn't ready to get as serious as he wanted to be, and I didn't want to lead him on (fudge me, right?). 

Anyway, I told him, in person, I just couldn't be serious, and he went and posted something on Reddit complaining about me.

Apparently, I had horrible parents (my poor mother is in a wheelchair due to severe MS, so she isn't always very happy). I complained that he wore flip-flops and jeans (he took me on a date once to a nice place and wore flip-flops, and I had just noted it wasn't appropriate attire). 

Needless to say, I saw the post. It was awkward for him.

CONTROLLOL

Tried to break up with my girlfriend and kick her out of my house. She kicked her foot through my French door, cutting herself, and she began to cry. 

I ended up having to call the police because she went crazy, and they gave her the option of going to her Mom's house or to jail. 

She chose jail. Haven't seen her since.

jordanspringer

This is more amusing than anything. GF came over, and we watched a movie and cuddled on the couch. Everything seemed to be going well, but she started pulling away around the end of the movie.

As soon as I turn the movie off, she starts crying. She's crying so hard she can't say anything, so I'm just standing there thinking, "WTF?"... Eventually, I have to preempt her to figure out what's wrong.

Me: Are you OK? 

Her: [shakes head no] 

Me: Is it us?

Her: [shakes head yes]

Me: Do you want to break up? 

Her: [starts crying harder and shakes head yes]

Me: It's ok, it happens, I'm not upset [hugs now ex gf]

[deleted]

Not too weird, but humorous in a way.

I was in a communications class in school. A class where we learned pointless crap like how to write reports and such using MS Word. It was kind of the "we don't have a proper computing class... So do this instead" subject.

Anyway, the computers had remote monitoring stuff on them that permitted teachers to spy on your screen, lock your keyboard and mouse, and project your screen onto the overhead projector for all the world to see. I was aware of this, but I always risked checking my emails anyway.

One fine morning, I went to check my emails. See one from the girlfriend-at-the-time. 'ooh, shiny!'. So I click on it and start reading. I am just reading the last few lines, in shock, processing what I have just read (spoiler: it was the break-up email. She knew I checked my emails and thought it was less awful than a text/phone call) 

When the mouse stopped working, I saw the projector blink into life, displaying the Hewlett Packard logo, and that sadistic bastard of a teacher was obviously about to queue up my heartbreak for all to see. I have mere seconds.

I did the only logical thing and violently ripped the power and network cables from the back of my desktop and left.

le_ironic_username

My first boyfriend was the actual worst. He was a total piece of crap, very emotionally abusive. He moved 45 minutes away to live with his dad a year into our relationship. 

Not a big deal; not far away. He still stayed with his mom most weekends. So after a year and a half of being with him, he calls me up one day and starts telling me about this girl at his new school that he's dating and how he can't believe someone so amazing would want to be with him.

I was like.... what is the actual fudge? And so I started seeing a friend of mine who I had a crush on because I'm thinking obviously we're not together anymore. "Boyfriend" finds out and loses his crap on me, saying he can't believe I'd do that to him. 

I was like... okay, psycho. And I told him to never contact me again. He called me every single day, 20 times a day for months. Then, he finally got the picture that I didn't want to talk to him.

That happened 7 years ago. He still tries to contact me every once in a while. Oh, and he married that girl.

ohlalameow

I was crap-faced drunk and called a girl I had just met. The problem was I left a message for her....on my then-current girlfriend's voicemail. 

It was so freaking awkward that we were both laughing at what a jerkward I was when I was picking up my stuff from my suddenly ex-girlfriend's apartment. 

I worked with her brother to add some extra icing to that crap cake.

Number6isNo1

After a year and a couple of months of dating, she, without warning, changed her relationship status on Facebook to single, cut off all contact with me without telling me why, and only responded to texts I sent to her about picking up her stuff. 

She would always make up an excuse for not being able to come get it (she had a ton of stuff at my house).

I offered her different options, like dropping it off at her house when she wasn't around or letting her send a friend to pick it up. I just wanted it gone. After a month of her telling me 'I'll pick it up tomorrow," I threw it all away. 

Then she called me to scream at me for being a jerkward. 5 years later, I still have no idea why she broke up with me (I'm guessing she dumped me for someone else), and I haven't seen her since.

ShawnisMaximus

I had a gf my junior year in high school. She went off to summer camp and came back a lesbian, and I mean camo pants, shaved head, white tank top, combat boots, the works.

I got the hint, and she has been munching carpet ever since.

Just last year, she hit me up on Facebook and wanted me to be a sperm donor. I graciously declined.

[deleted]

When I was 14, I was in a "relationship" with a friend, which only erupted from peer pressure. (Because a boy and a girl can't spend time together without it leading somewhere....ahh, kids)

Anyway, we were both very shy and after about a week or so, it simply wasn't working out. A group of us were at her house (she was the well-off one in our group, so we usually hung out in her witchin' house).

Suddenly, as we were chillin' out on bean bags by the pool table, she told everyone but me to step out for a bit.

I had a sense of what was coming, and, yep, I'm getting dumped.  

Just as the deed was getting done and all the feelings started welling up, what booms out the radio but

“ME AND YOU BABY AIN'T NOTHIN BUT MAMMALS SO LET’S DO IT LIKE WE DO ON THE DISCOVERY CHANNEL.”

Since then, that song has had a special memory for me whenever I hear it.

Mellowl

I dated a guy whose favorite movie was High Fidelity. He broke up with me after six months or so, and it was a little hard to take, but I got over it. 

I didn't see or hear from him again until a year later when he contacted me to say he wanted to talk before he moved away. 

I guess I was curious, so I met him, and we caught up for 15 minutes, and he semi-apologized for being a jerkward. It was super weird. 

I'm pretty sure he was so in love with that movie that he decided he, too, should meet up with any ex-girlfriend he had and talk about the breakup.

[deleted]

I was dating this girl in high school for a couple of weeks. It was summer, and she invited me over to her place to watch the movie Seven. It had just come out, and I had never seen it and was really excited. 

Halfway through the movie, her friend stops by and wants to go swimming, so she says I have to leave. I was nice about it and left. 

Then, I thought about what just happened, and I was super pissed. Went and bought the movie on my way home and broke up with her that night. 

Awesome movie.

PigRenter

We'd only been dating for a few months, but things seemed like they were going great. There were legitimately no signs of trouble. I went to call her one night before bed, as we did, and she just didn't answer.

I figured maybe she was asleep or something, so I texted her the next day with no response. I waited a few days, then sent her a Facebook message asking what was up, and she responded with this gem:

"I just felt like I wasn't being listened to by people in my life, and it got to the point where I wanted to just get away. Explaining myself wasn't working, and the pressure didn't subside, so I stepped away. I'm sorry it involved you, too. I don't hate you or anything. I just needed to feel better. Sorry for being selfish, take care."

Good times!

mattpelaggi

Worked with her in college. She always hung out near my desk, and we'd talk a lot, but we ended up texting all the time. I finally got the balls to ask her out with about 3 weeks left of school. She went home for the summer, and I moved 2 blocks away from campus.

She came back a few weeks later for my birthday. She stayed at a friend's place but was with me for the whole time she was there. I asked her if she wanted to go out for drinks or anything, and she said she just wanted to hang out at my new place and watch How I Met Your Mother. 

She left the next day, and we skyped a lot. Most of the time it was me trying to talk to her while she played with her dog or watched TV.

When she came back she avoided me for a few days, using job training as an excuse. She finally asked me to hang out, and we ended up going to the bar with her coworkers (I had quit during the summer). She was cold to me all night and ignored me.

I finally got fed up with it a few days later and told her we needed to talk. I went to her place after my class with the intention of dumping her, and as soon as I walked in, she told me she was "tired of trying" and dumped me. 

I walked out feeling sorry for myself and ran into one of her coworkers. She asked me if I wanted to get a drink, I said yes, and we made out.

gValo

We broke up shortly after I found "What to Wear on a First Date" and "What to Talk about on a First Date" and moonlight hayrides in his Google searches. 

He claimed he was out with "the boys" and denied cheating. The other woman blowing up his phone at 4 am proved that was a lie.

buhrit

Met a girlfriend on Reddit, became a pretty well-known "Reddit couple," and moved across the country to be with her (Tampa to Seattle). The crap went sour after about a year. She left me alone in our apartment with our cat for 3 weeks, and I ended up moving all the back across the country.

I call it "weird" only because I've lived in the South my entire life (against my preferences). Yet, I lived in Seattle for a year and experienced such culture shock that it now doesn't even feel real to me anymore. I feel as if I was never actually there in the first place, and it was all one long dream.

That actually kind of sucks because I loved it there (after I got used to it) and basically had to leave in a "kicking & screaming" state. Not literally or anything. I just really, really did not want to leave that gorgeous scenery and weather, which ranged from delightfully melancholic & cold to 75 degrees with the summer sun shining through a cloudless sky.

This was about a year and a half ago, and I'm fine with it all at this point...I just really freaking hate Florida.

MinusTheFire

This is all second-hand, very subjective info, but a friend of mine had a really weird one. He was dating a very sweet, nice girl for 2 years and then ended up in a car accident and got his chest impaled by a railing. Needless to say, he was pretty messed up after that, with lots of scarring, and had to relearn some fine motor skills due to nerve damage. Today, he is doing fine. He still has a massive scar on his chest from where they had to remove the railing, but with the shirt on, you wouldn't know he had ever been hurt.

Anyway, he was in the hospital starting rehab, and his girlfriend came (in person at least; I should give her cred for that) and said, "I was not made to be with something broken," and left. That's it 2 years out the window.

Now, that isn't very weird. What is, however, is that when he finally got out of the hospital and got his life back and hasn't heard from this girl in the months it took to reach that point, she calls him and acts as if they are still together. 

According to her, they were still a couple, and she had basically opted out of dealing with his injuries. He obviously broke up with her, and she is completely baffled.

To this day, both of us are utterly confused about how the hell she thought she could do something like that because both before and after, she has stayed a very nice and sweet person.

Keskekun

Threw up all over me... And I don't just mean on my shirt or lap. I mean, complete head-to-toe-omg-itsinmymouthandinmyears. Learned that Roman showers are not my thing and that some people shouldn't drink if they know they can't handle it. 

She locked herself in the bathroom and left for me to clean up. I cleaned everything up and had to hose myself down outside since she wouldn't open our only bathroom. 

The next morning, I woke up to the smell of a full breakfast. I figured this was her apology for puking on me - nope. 

It was for just herself, and she ate it in front of me as a payback for leaving her to be sick by herself... I said, "Witch!!!"

Packed my things immediately and ended it right then and there.

Manconcentrate

I went on 3 dates with this girl, and two of them ended in a make-out session. I was then really busy for a few days and didn't talk to her, so she asked me why I was breaking up with her.

Poor girl, but I was so weirded out that I just said, "We're too different, it's my fault, etc." and actually did break up with her without ever actually entering into a relationship with her.

MoshedPotatoes

Not mine, but I had to share it. I had an ex who had never been in a serious relationship. In one of her past relationships, she broke up with one of her boyfriends for the sickest reason I have ever seen. 

Her mother went to see a medium or someone like that for fun, and that person told her that her daughter was in a relationship with a dude who had no soul. Finally, she broke up with him the next day because of that fact. 

Her mother was frequently doing some rituals or meditations type of craps, so it was easily believable.

And no, I didn't know that weird story before I was dating her and during our short relationship. I learned about it recently. I guess I dodged bullets.

crashthis

I dated a girl in high school who was an "actress." One day, she came to school with her hair in cornrows (for one of her plays, but I had no idea), and it was also dyed purple or pink. I can't remember. 

When I sat down with her at lunch, she asked me, in front of all of her friends, if I thought she looked beautiful. 

I said, "In all honesty, I preferred your older hairstyle." 

She then proceeded to call me shallow (in front of all her friends) and broke up with me. I didn't even argue; I just walked away. What a witch. What did she expect me to say?

schellinky

Went out with her for 7.5 years, she had 3 kids, no credit, and her life and health were pretty much wrecked by her ex-husband. Over that time, I helped her rehabilitate her health, restored her credit scores, and helped her refinance and redecorate her house.

I even helped her raise her kids and helped her eldest cover tuition coverage in his freshman year. I went a long time without a physical relationship with her while I helped her recover from sciatica problems with her back.

She walks in one night and says, "We are incompatible," and dumps me. She keeps everything, cuts me off from the kids, and 6 weeks after begging me to stay friends (with tears in her eyes, the quote was "I can't imagine you not in my life"), she writes in an email that she is seeing someone new.

Three years later, she posts an entry on her Facebook page celebrating her three-year anniversary dinner with the new guy...except the anniversary date is two weeks before she dumped me.

Nothing like rubbing salt in the wound!

gjallard

I had a girlfriend end a long-term relationship while I was on an LSD trip. We hadn't spoken in a couple of weeks, and I decided to call her, as I was missing her very much and thought she'd be feeling the same way about me. 

Instead, she was very angry with me. I tried to back out of the situation, realizing that I was in no condition to handle the possible consequences of the conversation, but she said she didn't care that I was tripping or how I felt. 

She then told me that she didn't love me anymore, the relationship was over, then she hung up on me. No reasons were given outside: "I don't love you anymore."

Due to being on LSD at the time, the emotions I felt were amplified a thousand-fold. I cried for hours and couldn't stop. Eventually, friends and family took me to a hospital, where they gave me some benzodiazepines to calm down. 

The end result for me was an intense fear of women and relationships and years of therapy. The incident changed my life in a very negative way.

F-Cloud

Way back in college, I found out my girl was cheating on me. Then I found out that I wasn't ever her boyfriend. I was her cheat. She was with the other guy before me. At first, I was all <forever alone>, and then I was all <wait, what?>

The most messed up part was that she had hung out with both of us at the same time.

 She used to score me free drinks at the coffee shop she worked at. The dude was there, and she would tell me that he was dating her friend, and that is how she knew him. 

Never thought anything of it. She was telling the dude the same thing about me!

*Part of me is kind of impressed at her poker face. Talk about grace under fire.*

Radio_Edit28

I went to my former GF's apartment to pick her up for a date. She sat me down in the living room and said she "needed a break from us." We talked for a few minutes, and I left, sort of stunned.

When I got to the car, I looked back to her apartment and saw her with the dude she ditched me for. I found out later he had been waiting in the kitchen the whole time.

laffmakr

It's not the worst break-up story out there, but it's my personal worst break-up story.

Dated a guy for a little while, and I thought we were pretty serious and into each other. Guess I was wrong. He broke up with me via text message one night while I was in class, stating that "he didn't want to date anymore. Not just [me], [he didn't] want." I was upset, but I dealt with it.

Three days later, I'm cruising his Facebook status, and lo' and behold, he's in another relationship. I was surprised and annoyed, but again, I dealt with it.

Fast forward two weeks later, and there's a note on his Facebook page saying "Happy one-month anniversary!" from his current girlfriend. Now, I immediately noticed that the times didn't match up in a pleasant way.  

Turns out my turd ex-boyfriend had been seeing two women at the same time.

I talked to my friend about it because I was very upset and distraught. She did the valiant thing and contacted the turd's current girlfriend to make sure she knew that he'd been cheating on me with her. 

She didn't know and was just as surprised that I existed as I was to find out she existed. We chatted, and she said she would confront the turd. Later that day, I got a few angry texts from the turd, stating that I'd "ruined" his relationship and had "lied" to his girlfriend. 

I can assure you I didn't lie about anything. I cut all contact with the turd, though I did find out that his girlfriend forgave him for lying to both her and me, and she's still with him. She can have him.

tomaka

I am a lesbian. My (ex)girlfriend of three years told me she couldn't come over on Valentine's Day but would stop by the next day. I found out the next day she couldn't come over on Valentine's Day because she was on a date with her guy best friend, who had a crush on her for years. 

She did come over the next day.... to dump me. She was my first love, and I was heartbroken.

It worked out in the end because I met my current girlfriend 3 months later, and we have been together for 7 years. 

When the ex found out I met someone (neither of us was out of the closet yet), she came crawling back on her knees and begged me to take her back. 

I laughed in her face.

HighFiveYourFace

My ex-bf of three years broke up with me on Valentine's Day when I'd just got back from seeing my mum in hospital. 

I'd found other girls' jewelry around our house & smelled perfume on him, so I saw it coming, but the jerkwad didn't move out for another three months, during which time he brought the girl he cheated on me with to the house. 

So I bleached his black work shirt. Now he's got a baby he never sees with a psycho girl, and I think he lives with his mum in a council estate, so it's cool.

[deleted]

My ex gf (we were together for about 4 years) was spending a lot of time with one of her male friends. I jokingly said, "You know, you two should start dating." She did not find this funny at all and made a big deal of this off-handed comment. 

About a month later, we got into another (unrelated) argument, and we broke up.

 Almost immediately, she started dating the other guy. I wasn't sure how I felt about that at the time. 

I find it hilarious now. Mostly because a) the guy is a loser and b) he looks like me.

jackzombie

Well, my worst breakup story is actually my most recent.

My ex and I were together for about 5-6 months. It was the weekend of her birthday, and she had friends visiting from out of state. I had the weekend off from work, figuring the two of us could hang out, and spend time with her friends because it was her birthday after all. 

We spent the first two days together with her friends. They seemed to like me, and I thought they were amazing people. The night of her birthday party, she said, "Do you mind not coming over tomorrow, I want to spend some time with my friends alone?"

I agreed, figuring time alone with her friends isn't a bad thing...especially since they were only in for a few days. It was pretty much the last time I heard from her for about two weeks.  

She was always the type to text or call nearly every day, and literally, it was suddenly silence. Texts weren't replied to, and phone calls were replied to a few days later, etc., etc.

We met up after my insistence about a week later, and she assured me that everything was cool and she was just really busy. I believed her and really didn't have the courage to confront her about the sudden silence. We decided to go out a few days later. 

We went out and talked like it was old times, and everything seemed fine. But, the next day...another week or so of silence started. After more insistence, we talked on the phone, and she told me that we had broken up. Not that I think we should break up, or maybe we should break up, but the past tense.

You know what sucks when someone breaks up with you, and you had no clue...

[deleted]

I guess I'll post my own...not so interesting, but was dumped while studying for the bar exam. 

I can’t help but start to lose my focus. 

It was super crappy to sit over a book for seven weeks and not be able to even really drink my sorrows away. It was like being locked in prison with nothing to think about other than the crap that made your life miserable.

[deleted]

I was dating someone for over four years. I had moved across the country once for him, he moved across the country once for me, and we both moved across the country together to a new city. 

We'd been in our new city about six months when he started acting really strange to the point when I asked him if something was wrong he said yes and when I asked him what it was about he wouldn't tell me. 

Who does that? Anyway, I found out he had cheated on me waaaaay back in the first year of our relationship with a married woman and had been maintaining an emotional relationship with her for the last three years.  

They were in love with each other and I guess that was resurfacing or something at this point. I left him, obviously.

Looking back, I remember the times we had her over for dinner because her husband was out of town, and she didn't have many friends. The time I let her crash on my couch. The times he went over to help her out and "change the oil in her car." 

There are a couple of other female co-workers/friends I highly suspect he also cheated on me with, but he would never admit it.

bomburdoo

This is me breaking it off with her, but due to circumstances it kinda fits. I had an ex cheat on me twice.

I was 16, and she was my first girlfriend, and I didn't know anything about anything. Plz, do not respond with why didn't you dump that crazy witch...I was a damn kid. The first time, I basically reacted with what amounted to, "Don't do it again, or I'll break up with you", and the second time, I just broke up with her.

The kicker is who she cheated on me with. Keep in mind, I am 16 (and so is she).

The first time was with her soccer coach, who was in his late 20s.

If that wasn't messed up enough, the second one is actually difficult to say without it sounding made up. She cheated on me with the second guy in the bathroom of a billiards place (I found out about this from someone who knew her then and became a close friend of mine years later). 

The guy later smoked crack (literally crack, not freebasing, crack) in the bathroom of her parent's house, stole her cell phone, and ran away to Florida, never to be heard from again.

tEnPoInTs

I was in Japan on my 24th birthday on business from the US. Now, I was feeling pretty good about my career path and was finally letting go of my self-loathing and my insecurities as a person, etc   

At the same time, my personal life was in crappier, typical. I was having problems with my then-current bf at home. Turns out that on my actual birthday, he was banging some chick. 

When I got back, my roommate hinted at the bf hooking up with a witch at some club. BF completely denied it, looked me straight in the eye, got a little weepy-faced but indignant, etc., when I confronted him. 

Only when I pulled a partially used condom wrapper off of his bed did he finally admit to it. Took me years of self-medication/meaningless relationships to get over it.

bimfukusa

Well, I was in a terrible long-term relationship with someone who treated me like a doormat. I wanted to end it. Yet he was at a very low point (no job, no school, no car, no computer, nothing of his own) and he had threatened to hurt himself. So I wanted to let him down as gently as possible. 

He had messed his own life up and just freeloaded off mine for so long that it started to crush me. And in the process, since he was so angry at himself, he would either be shut down or lash out at me.

I was texting with a friend about needing to break up with him. Both the boyfriend's and the friend's names start with the same letter. Guess who accidentally got the text. His moving-out process afterward was just...lovely. He never understood why I was ending it. He was just so disillusioned and in denial.

It worked out in a way because I knew he was so deep in denial and so angry that none of what I needed to say to him sunk in. He didn't understand. I felt terrible at first, but I think he deserved and needed a kickstart that I didn't have the heart to give him.

Lifeaftercollege

There are no victims in this story:

She went out to a party one night. I wasn't able to make it, but I completely trusted her. Around midnight, I got a call letting me know that she was cheating on me at that exact moment. 

Completely calmly, I called her cell and left a voice mail letting her know that I was going over to an old buddy to make out. I did exactly that. In my mind, we were over the moment I got that call. However, I couldn't help but feel like I was the one cheating on her.

We talked a few days later. She wanted to stay together. I felt terrible, but I couldn't stay with her.

Felt bad man.

LyricRevolution

Freshman year of college. Long distance Relationship. A girl I had been dating for around a year decided to start giving me the cold treatment on the phone in late Jan/early in the second semester. Wondering what was up, I looked over her aim convos (on my computer and dead aim logs) for some info. 

I found out she'd been seeing another guy for the past 3 months. Called her up and ended it. She called me back an hour later, "Tell my little sister I said goodbye for me." 

Managed to keep her from ending herself and saying we can try to work through this. Never heard from her since other than a Facebook request.

EDubs83

Me and my girlfriend broke up, we couldn't afford to break a lease, and I had to live on the couch in my own apartment for 4 months while we were broken up. 

I had to hear her talk to her new dude on the phone all the time, and it was awkward as hell. I felt like a prisoner in my own home. 

Never sign a lease you can't afford on your own.

Victory33

We moved to a new city so she could start grad school. I couldn't find a job there, so I was back home during the week, working my crappy part-time job and in the new city on the weekends. 

I'd signed the lease there and given up my apartment back home, so I was couch-surfing during the week. I didn't have a car, so I was using hers. Oddly enough, we were very good friends with a couple who were doing the exact same thing (minus the car and with their new city being different from our new city). 

About two months into this arrangement, I was at the new place for the weekend, and I got dumped. The exact conversation escapes me now (sure, we had our problems), but the crux of the story lies here: Friend-in-the-other-city ended their relationship that same weekend. Shenanigans.

My friend and I got stuck in the old city with no apartments, no cars, and very low income. Oh, and since we'd actually moved to the new cities, for the next several months, all our belongings are in the possession of our exes. Ex and ex-friend are madly in love and have an apparently successful LDR.

valentinewiggins

We broke up a year ago but spent the year trying to fix things. She kept pulling away slowly but steadily until I was left chasing a girl who seemed to only want me for a company to do bf things without having to be a bf. Dinners and markets and concerts, stuff like that.

When I finally said, "Enough, I'm out," she told me she thought I was going to be the one, leaving me even more confused that a girl could both think that and not want to be with me. 

Sometimes, that stuff really messes you up for a while

Frodo_noooo

We divorced in 2018. 

We tried to continue the relationship afterward, but all he really wanted from me was financial and emotional security, not an actual partner. He started really drifting away in late 2019, and I finally ended it in mid-2021. 

He was absolutely shaken that I was done with the relationship because I wasn’t getting a single thing I needed to be happy anymore.

The sad ending to over 15 years together.

ineedpersonalfinance

Honestly, the girl I broke up with in my senior year of high school.

Absolute sweetheart of a girl, but an absolute crap show of a home life that 18-year-old me didn't have the emotional bandwidth to deal with.

When I broke up with her, she said, "You were supposed to be the one who saved me from this."

Tore me up for a few years. But she did find someone who treated her well. So I feel less guilty about it. But damn it if I don't remember that conversation vividly 15 years on. 

Bawled like a baby on the drive home.

AltruisticTadpole898

She was cheating on me with another dude for about six months. She broke up with me, 3 months later, they were engaged, and 10 months after the breakup, they were married.

And I was planning on asking her to marry me.

That one hurt more than the chick who told me she was pregnant while I was in Iraq. Then the next day, she told me it wasn't mine. All through email. Years later, she tried saying it was mine, but I demanded a paternity test. 

Nope, not mine.

D-Laz

I was single for some time and met a girl on some training course we were both doing. I was interested in her but didn't want to put myself out there. Once the training was finished she invited me to a party all the other attendees were having. It was there one of her friends explained to me that she was super into me and asked if I felt the same.

I spoke about it with her, and just like that, we started going out; we did everything together and made out a lot (she told me she was on the pill). Anyway, fast forward a few months, and she doesn't feel well but goes to visit a friend who recently had a kid. 

She called me a couple of days later and told me when she saw her friend and explained how she didn't feel well, her friend said, "Oh weird, that's how I felt when I first became pregnant." 

She did a test, and boom, she was pregnant. I took this well. Even though we hadn't been dating too long, I wasn't about to get up and run. She then tells me, "But don't worry, it isn't yours," it turns out she had been sleeping with someone else and was almost positive it was theirs.

Naturally, I was distraught as now I could no longer see this great woman who I had done everything with and who may have been carrying my child. I tried to talk with her, but she blanked me. 

I later found out she had a miscarriage. She and the other guy are now married with two kids (neither are mine). And I'm now happily engaged to my partner, who I've been dating for a few years now.

willgilb

I dated a foreign exchange student. The problem with dating a foreign exchange student is that they eventually leave. You are both aware of the end approaching and do everything you can to not think of it until the day comes when they have to leave. 

The opera Tristan und Isolde comes to mind. Neither of us wanted to separate. We were great together, but we had to. It felt like she died.

It has been 8 years now and I cannot bring myself to date anyone else. 

I think about her every day.

Danny_Datura

An ex broke up with me due to her being in a bad place mentally, as she was clinically depressed but trying to wean herself off her meds. While that was going on, her best friend died, and she was absolutely unable to deal with life and withdrew from the world.

Understandably, this made me seem too clingy for her, and she broke up with me, expressing the sentiment that she just can't deal with life and people right now. I accepted her terms and decided to try to move on amicably.

Some time passed, and she presumably started feeling our breakup was too smooth and was paranoid. I was so accepting of the breakup because I'd already found someone else. This thought festered in private until she presented a conspiracy theory where she was absolutely adamant that I had been cheating on her with one of our mutual friends (whom I had only met once at this point but talked to on Facebook a couple of times)

This then snowballed into wild accusations of which she was extremely sure, to the point of convincing a large chunk of our shared friend circle into believing the ferocity of her crusade was itself a strong indicator that I must've done what she claims (because why else would she be doing this?)

As she gives a general honest impression and is not known to be a liar, I lost pretty much all my friends in this process, and rumors circulated about me in our shared social circle for years.

The truth, meanwhile, was that at the point that I got dumped, I had never even met the person I was accused of cheating with.

SendMeNudesThough

Got pregnant and convinced me it was mine, supported her through the entire ordeal, thinking I had added to the teen pregnancy statistic. Her mom comes to the hospital and sees the baby, then immediately goes, "That baby isn't yours." 

They're Hispanic, I'm black. She insisted the baby looked white, and it didn't take long for her daughter to break down and admit to sleeping with her dealer for free product, and they didn't use protection. 

It was really fun explaining that to my mother.

The_Funky_Rocha

Had my first healthy relationship after about 4.5 years of an abusive one, and I finally felt complete. The relationship was amazing at first, but then, about seven months in, she started talking about her ex a lot more after he refollowed her on Instagram. 

Two months later, they ended up having a class together in university, and the last month was her basically telling me she might still be in love with her ex. She basically dumped me a few weeks after, saying she couldn’t be in a relationship at the moment and she needed time to fully get over her ex.

Stupidly, I stuck around as a friend, hoping we could restart our relationship while she got her crap together. After about six months of me waiting and her actually getting over her ex, she ended up getting with a guy who slid in her DMs on Instagram after telling me profusely she wasn’t ready for a relationship.

She’s now going to travel across the world with this guy from Instagram a mere four months after they started dating, while I’m still not over her and think about her every day. 

We’ve cut contact, but it still hurts like hell.

miamigp2022

I took a sabbatical to help care for my in-laws with my wife. She continued to work, but it all worked out. Her mom passed, and her dad was not doing well. He lived 2 more years. 

I cooked, cleaned, did home maintenance, took him to his appointments, etc. My wife was not dealing with it well, so I would insist she go shopping with our daughters, drinks with friends, and so on. 

Right before he passed, she came in with my daughter and told me, "You've been a godsend. I want a divorce." She had worked with an attorney on a declaration of abandonment on our house since I had been living at her parents' house. 

It turned out that some or all of the shopping trips and drinks with friends were making out with her new boyfriend. The timing was to ensure I couldn't claim any of the inheritance. 

I was destroyed.

rollercoaster_5

After two years of very good moments and stretches of apathetic stagnation from both of us, she broke up with me after a very, very good couple of months. We were making serious plans to move in together. We just got back from a vacation (I paid for almost entirely, which I only give a shit about now). The minute we got back, she ghosted me for a week. I was so damn confused as I thought things were going well.

Out of the blue, she says we need to talk, and she breaks up with me because “We’re just going in different directions in our lives.” I accepted it because it was true. However, what I didn’t know until a while later was that the direction she was going in and had already arrived at was some other guy.

That freaking killed me. I felt so damn worthless. For the two years following that, it got worse and worse. I found out the guy she cheated on me with was a guy she met over a video game two weeks earlier and TALKED TO ME ABOUT.

I then found out that she had ALSO lied to me about my best friend of 10 years and was the #1 reason we’re barely even acquaintances anymore. She took a truth, that he and his girlfriend at the time were in rocky water, and spun it to say that he was “basically taking advantage of her.” 

I heard it from the girl's mouth later on that that was absolute bullcrap. She admitted that their relationship was basically all about making out at that point but that she was the one initiating it over half the time. And there was so much more of that stuff, too. That was just the biggest one.

So not only did she cheat on me, but she also ruined all the trust I had in my best friend. I lost both of the people most important to me in the span of a month because of her. Jesus Christ, that witch.

Throw_away91251952

6 months after we broke up, she drove 5 hours to a house party a bunch of my (relatively new) friends were at because she thought I’d be there. Turns out I wasn’t there. 

My (soon to be) new girlfriend was. 

She spent the entire night telling everyone we never broke up and I had been cheating on her for months (we both moved away to different colleges). She spent the whole night crying crocodile tears, sending group snaps with strangers and some of my ‘friends’ telling me to fudge myself, etc. 

Convinced the girl I was with at the time to back off as ‘revenge’ for being the other woman.

I called her once I realized she was lying to my friends, and she admitted to me on the phone after about an hour of bullshit that she knew we were broken up and was maliciously lying to try and destroy my life.

She then asked if we could ‘make up’ and be friends again. And if she could come to the next party because ‘they were her friends too’ and she ‘had so much fun and I have no right to take that from her.’

I recorded our whole phone call, so that crap got shut down pretty quickly when I showed the friends at the party her admitting to lying in the audio of our call. Well, just the friends that didn’t do anything to make me never speak to them again lol.

jgilleland

We had been together for a couple of years, had a house, were engaged, and were planning a wedding. Both of us had good jobs, and things were going great in my eyes. No fighting, no major issues. 

We went out of town to go to my best friend's wedding, which was also near her hometown. I was the best man, so very occupied with that, and she spent part of the time with her friends while we were there. 

After being at my friend's wedding, I was even more excited about our upcoming wedding. We flew back across the country, walked in the front door, and she broke up with zero explanation. Just bam, over.   

I was devastated. Based on her actions during the break-up and shortly afterward, I think she had been cheating on me with someone from work and probably got the nudge to break it off from her friends. 

Within a year, she was getting married to someone from work and moved out of state. She is the only ex that I ever cut off 100% and told that I never want to see or speak to them again. 

Fast forward 25 years, and I just had my 20th anniversary with my wife, whom I met a couple of years after the break-up. We are doing great, and life is good.

 So it goes.

Caspers_Shadow

We were together for a year and a half. I saw messages with a sus friend he had, and we had a huge fight. At the time I was living in his place for a while cuz he was studying in another city, but he was attending classes while I was on an online course. 

He left for the day, and when he came back, I saw on his face it was over. We had the ultimate conversation, saying we couldn't do this anymore. I begged him not to end things, but it wasn't possible anymore. 

He drove me back to the train station, and I had to fight tears for the whole 2 hours train ride. He then found himself another boyfriend within 3 weeks, posting Instagram stories in the place we were living together, watching the shows we used to watch, and posting pics in my home city. 

It's heartbreaking, but I got over it. Time is everything, and now I just wish him the best.

Voidispeace

I had a girl dump me after a really great 4 year long relationship because she decided out of nowhere that I "wasn't good enough" for her.

In fairness, she could've done better... but I never thought she felt that way... and to do that after 4 years was just horrible.

It really messed me up, too. It has damaged every single relationship I've had ever since.

KingGuy420

Broke up with my ex. After 2 months of no talking, we started seeing each other again. It seems we are gonna go back together. 

We went for a 15-day van trip, where I thought we would start again, and she told me she didn't want to be back with me. 

I had to go through a second breakup, being 24/7 with her.

Imanflow

Slept with my so-called mate because he told her I was sleeping with another girl. She never once confronted me about this, even though she admitted later she’d been following me around whenever I went out on my own, which was only twice a week for an hour. 

Said she only told me she'd slept with him because she thought he was going to tell me. Yeah, that made me feel better. 

Had a terrible bout of depression for about five years. I'm honestly surprised I made it out of my 20's I came very close to ending everything several times. Only the thought of what it would do to my family stopped me. 

Have had trust issues ever since, as well as bouts of depression, admittedly not as bad as the first time as I now have better coping strategies.

dazednowconfused

The worst I've experienced was a couple of years back when my then-girlfriend slowly decided not to talk with me or answer a message days later.

This hit me pretty hard, and it got to me after a while, so while at lunch, I asked if she still liked me. 

She told me that she hadn't had feelings for me for months and didn't want to say it because exams were coming up, and she wanted to tell me after the exams were done.

This was the second time a girlfriend of mine waited a good while before telling me.

I haven't spoken to this old gf since then.

JakoThePumpkin

I know it sounds stupid because it was "only a distance relationship," but I was still in love, so I guess that counts.

My first-ever girlfriend (distance relationship when I was around 13) hung around with her ex a lot, and I didn't like it since they'd previously been one of those couples who would break up and get back together every other week. 

I made her promise me that she wouldn't hang out with him anymore, and she used him to cheat on me several times afterward.   

The worst part is that she gave this guy my number, and he ended up sending me my girlfriend’s undressed photos while saying, "I just slept with your girl. How do you feel?" 

I ended up immediately breaking up and blocking her number/every social media she had.

Similar things happened to me in two more relationships, and nowadays, I'm unable to build up emotional relationships as a result.

JustShiiro

Turns out she was an alcoholic. 

I suspected but didn’t realize it was that bad. I just thought she liked to party, and when home alone at night, she’d only have a glass of wine or two. I didn’t notice the other three to four glasses she was sneaking.

Helped her through getting sober, drove her to AA meetings, and waited outside. Helped her through cravings, and detoxes and relapses. Held her hair back while she puked and cleaned up said puke.   

Intentionally avoided any situation or outing where booze might be freely flowing.

It was only later that I learned about the unspoken “13th step” of sobriety.

She dumped me over the phone, and a week later was dating someone from the AA group. Last I heard, she had relapsed.

kardde

This was before smartphones and email. I was obsessed with her and never saw it coming. We never actually fought about anything. We were just young and wanted different things, but we never talked about it.

She called me and told me we were done and told me if I ever came out to their farm again, her father would shoot me. (Truth be told, he hated me and probably was just looking for an excuse.). 

Man, that hurt like hell.

NewldGuy77

I had a huge fight with my then-girlfriend. After two weeks of NC, she got engaged to her ex-boyfriend (I was also planning my proposal, but the fight happened). 

We were NC for around 3 months more, and then we spoke face to face for reconciliation and closure. 

Bawled my heart out at home because all the times we had together, no matter how mad I was at her during our fight, will never happen again and will always be just a memory, and the future we were planning for came crashing down.

wilsonsformerbff

Fiance left me after 6 years together because she wanted to sleep with my friend. I mostly blame Covid since we couldn't go out on dates, but I tried everything I could to continue dating her. 

Making meals and eating by candlelight, picking up food, dancing in the living room together, etc. When I felt something was off I took her to Niagara Falls to try and get some of the magic back, but she had already given up.

Told me she didn't want to marry me anymore so I gave her a few days to think about us. Two days later, she broke it off.

Found out a few months later she was fucking my friend and that she left me for him.

Getting over her was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I have diabetes, I have had surgery for an infection on my spine, and I've had several deep root canals that hurt so bad I wished death upon myself... but I'd go through all of those pains at once before I'd go through the pain she put into me when she left.

It's been almost a year, and I've started putting myself back out there again, but the fear it might happen again is always in the back of my mind

bpanio

One day, my girlfriend, whom I had lived with for two years, sat me down and told me she was moving out.

I had sensed something was up. She did have some valid reasons, but she had not communicated anything to me to get me to resolve them.

She had bought her own house 45 miles away a month earlier, and when she told me she was going to help a friend move furniture and clean, she was really getting her house set up.

Her main issues related to money, but I hadn't told her how the negotiations were going with an insurance company for an accident where I was hit by a car. So, a month and a half later, I collected my sweet check and didn't look back.

ksiyoto

Not have many or one massive specific incidents, but I always think back to when I was 19. Everything was going great, then we had a tiny disagreement on an insignificant day and time, and within a week, we were split up with such an invisible wall between us that wasn't there before that affected everything: our text exchanges, being around each other, etc. 

Then, within weeks just gone from your life forever. It felt like another lifetime ago.

I still remember looking back weeks/months later, heartbroken with life crumbling, pining to go back to that moment and what would have happened if we hadn't argued, and just thinking WTF on the small moments that changed everything.

drank123456

Stayed at her apartment one night and left the next morning for work. Realized when I got to my car two buildings away, I had left my wallet on the counter, so I went back to get it. 

Walked into her already sucking her neighbor off on the couch. Grabbed my wallet, dropped my key on the counter, and left. 

Didn't even go back for the rest of my shit after work.

ninj4m4n

My ex that I thought was going to be the one. We moved 8 hours away from our hometown together, but once we had fully moved in, she looked me dead in the eyes and said we couldn’t make out all the time because that’s not how relationships work once you move in together. 

When the place I was working at laid me off because they didn’t have enough business to keep me employed full-time, she called me a bum and said if her mom found out that I was on EI, she would be so embarrassed by me. 

Near the end, all she wanted was an open relationship, and well, I finally hit my breaking point and gave her what she wanted, but my plan was to teach her a lesson because I wanted out but had to save money to get home. 

So we did the whole open relationship thing, and I was only swiping right. It’s a large city, so loads of women. Come to find out, no one wanted to deal with her, so she wanted to call it off. 

Well, a week later, she said she couldn’t be with me because I didn’t wanna be a vegan. Well, she keeps tabs on me still so I post every animal I drop while hunting just to get that one last dig in.

throbbingtip777

Was on a car trip with my ex and her parents up in the mountains for five days. On the evening of day two, she told me that she didn’t love me anymore but wanted to keep trying. 

Devastated and felt like crap as it came out of nowhere while she started to pull away. Survived that horrible trip sitting in a car with her and her parents for the next days. As soon as we came back to her parents’ house, I took an airplane home to our shared living. 

What came after was her insecurity, going back and forth on what she wanted. That period messed me up quite a lot mentally. One second, I was the best and kindest person, and the other, she was surprised that I showed common courtesy. 

She moved back home to her parents after a couple of months when the lease needed renewal.

deprimeradblomkol

Got dumped on my 17th birthday by my gf, who thought she was innocent breaking up with me after hooking up with a guy that had been flirting with her for the past week. 

I tried to end things when she went to college, but she refused and then low-key avoided me for a week before contacting me on my birthday to break up with me.

Then she tried to be nice and back me over the holidays a year later, only to ghost me after we both went back to school.

The third time I ignored her message.

AtomicBlastCandy

My ex, with whom I have two kids. Moved to a new big apartment, 1 week later she wanted to go to Mallorca, and for another two days she broke up with me. Did not want to talk to me or help out with the kids. 

Almost became homeless, and her sister/ mother intervened on what I should do, say, and talk. I got threatened by her family for trying to talk to her about how we should do with the kids.  

I never knew where the kids were, and her mother had them. Also, she did not let me see them for months. 

She was the one wanting the kids in the first place, the marriage, and wanted the entire package. A year has passed by, and I do all I can to make my kids happy and back on the dating scene.

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